Will he or won't he
MissingMinnesota
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After was messaging back and forth with a guy on POF for a couple days and he asked me out to a baseball game this friday on saturday. Saturday night he sent me a message after I had already put my computer and phone away about hoping I had a good rest of the night. On Sunday I messaged him that I had a nice relaxing evening and hoped he did to and asked him how his was. I got no response. On Monday I realized we never exchange numbers so I sent him my phone number. I still haven't heard anything from him. I have a gut feeling that he is going to flake out and go poof even thought he said he already purchased the tickets.
Am I over thinking this? I am thinking if I don't hear anything by Thursday I will send him another message with "Hey I just want to verify that we are still on for the baseball game." Sometimes I hate being a girl.
Am I over thinking this? I am thinking if I don't hear anything by Thursday I will send him another message with "Hey I just want to verify that we are still on for the baseball game." Sometimes I hate being a girl.
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It is possible that for work reasons or other he has not been on a computer to get any messages sent via POF.
Right now I am inclined to say you are over thinking it a bit right now but definitely would contact him Thursday as far as confirming and times.
If you don`t hear anything back again then I guess be prepared for him to pick you up but also be prepared for him to not show and then move on.0 -
It is possible that for work reasons or other he has not been on a computer to get any messages sent via POF.
Right now I am inclined to say you are over thinking it a bit right now but definitely would contact him Thursday as far as confirming and times.
If you don`t hear anything back again then I guess be prepared for him to pick you up but also be prepared for him to not show and then move on.
We are meeting there. I don't give guys my address before I have meet and feel comfortable with them.0 -
I would message him on Thursday but let him know that if I don't hear anything back, I'm going to assume the plans are off, and I wouldn't show if I didn't hear back from him. This was his idea, so the responsibility for confirming is on him. If he can't at least do you the courtesy of responding to your messages, then I'm not sure I'd want to go out with him anyway.0
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at the moment you're overthinking it. it's just tuesday
you've given him your number and he should know to call to confirm or if anything else cam up. i wouldnt think about it until thursday. if he doesnt call or email you to confirm by the end of thursday i personally wouldnt chase him down to confirm, i'd just go ahead and make other plans for friday. i would consider his nonconfirmation as an answer.0 -
Just feels odd that he didn't respond with his phone number at least.0
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Just feels odd that he didn't respond with his phone number at least.
Was I correct that the only way to message him is if he has signed into POF?
Is it not possible that with a date set up with you he is not bothering checking there?
Do you know his schedule well enough to know if it is normal for him to not be on the computer regularly?
Just other ways to ponder it if you are determined to.0 -
Just feels odd that he didn't respond with his phone number at least.
i agree with carl. he might not be checking his POF email or he might not see the point in messaging you back his phone number if he's planning to call you and confirm and you'll have his number anyway.0 -
Just feels odd that he didn't respond with his phone number at least.
i agree with carl. he might not be checking his POF email or he might not see the point in messaging you back his phone number if he's planning to call you and confirm and you'll have his number anyway.
grumble okay. I am hypersensetive that I cannot let emails go unanswered and I get 2 ways of notification from the ap and email if I got a message on POF. So if I expect something to be answered I expect it to be answered within 24 hours.0 -
The only reason to be concerned is when a pattern has been deviated from. I've seen early stage things go bad when the frequency of communication changed.0
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Just feels odd that he didn't respond with his phone number at least.
i agree with carl. he might not be checking his POF email or he might not see the point in messaging you back his phone number if he's planning to call you and confirm and you'll have his number anyway.
grumble okay. I am hypersensetive that I cannot let emails go unanswered and I get 2 ways of notification from the ap and email if I got a message on POF. So if I expect something to be answered I expect it to be answered within 24 hours.
It has been forever since I checked settings but if like most sites those are opt in.
Don`t assume because you get those notifications that his account is set up the same way.0 -
I would message him on Thursday but let him know that if I don't hear anything back, I'm going to assume the plans are off, and I wouldn't show if I didn't hear back from him.
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He could of had someting major go down, or something to do with work. Even though it only takes 5 minutes for someone to quickly respond to an email, its not always in their frame of mind. With any luck he will slip back into "you" mode and you will hear from him
If not its his loss!0 -
I think it's odd he hasn't written back...
When was the last time he was online (POF)?0 -
You are overthinking it. It's what we do! Dwell. If you hear from him great - if not his loss. There could be honest reasons why he hasn't answered your message. And he might be a flake. At this point its too soon to know.0
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Well I haven't heard from him so I sent him the following message.
"Hi, I just wanted to confirm that we are still on for the baseball game tomorrow night."
Hopefully he responds. If not it's 3 strikes (or messages) and you're out I guess.0 -
Well I haven't heard from him so I sent him the following message.
"Hi, I just wanted to confirm that we are still on for the baseball game tomorrow night."
Hopefully he responds. If not it's 3 strikes (or messages) and you're out I guess.
That is more then fair to him and if he can`t be to you then his loss. :flowerforyou:0 -
Well I haven't heard from him so I sent him the following message.
"Hi, I just wanted to confirm that we are still on for the baseball game tomorrow night."
Hopefully he responds. If not it's 3 strikes (or messages) and you're out I guess.
I think he's a poofer.
I've had my share of those...
I haven't heard from military guy myself.. I know I know, his soldier was hurt but who knows.0 -
Well I haven't heard from him so I sent him the following message.
"Hi, I just wanted to confirm that we are still on for the baseball game tomorrow night."
Hopefully he responds. If not it's 3 strikes (or messages) and you're out I guess.
I think he's a poofer. I've had my share of those...
I haven't heard from military guy myself.. I know I know, his soldier was hurt but who knows.
I agree with LA. I had a guy do that to me with a hockey game. He is definitely not worth any follow up texts.0 -
And if he is a poofer, don't get discouraged. Like I said, it's happened to me several times now. It's just how it goes...
Next!0 -
if you haven't talked on the phone yet i highly doubt it is going to happen
sorry
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The thing is I will be more disappointed on not going to the game then not going on the date. I haven't invested enough time into him to really be diappointed if the date falls through but I was really looking forward to a opening weekend baseball game.0
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The thing is I will be more disappointed on not going to the game then not going on the date. I haven't invested enough time into him to really be diappointed if the date falls through but I was really looking forward to a opening weekend baseball game.
Like me and my damn wings I was supposed to have on Monday night... :grumble:0 -
He's a poofer! Sorry, but the internet is full of them!! I could tell you some stories, but I havne't got time........:laugh:
Just click on the next guy and hopefully he's a bit more with it :flowerforyou:0 -
The thing is I will be more disappointed on not going to the game then not going on the date. I haven't invested enough time into him to really be diappointed if the date falls through but I was really looking forward to a opening weekend baseball game.
Lower expectations have always kept me from being disappointed... but recently was pleasantly surprised.
Don't give up - and buy you some tickets - if it's like Nashville, there are always guys selling tickets and they are rarely fake haha. 0 -
The thing is I will be more disappointed on not going to the game then not going on the date. I haven't invested enough time into him to really be diappointed if the date falls through but I was really looking forward to a opening weekend baseball game.
Lower expectations have always kept me from being disappointed... but recently was pleasantly surprised.
Don't give up - and buy you some tickets - if it's like Nashville, there are always guys selling tickets and they are rarely fake haha.
Oh I might go to the game on Saturday by myself if this doesn't work out. I go to the games all the time by myself but usually when the Twins AAA team is in town. It sucks I can't cheer for the "home team" since it's the white sox AAA team so I always root for the visiting team.0 -
let him do the chasing.... sometimes when you message back so eagerly it scares them... that or it's a turn of...0
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let him do the chasing.... sometimes when you message back so eagerly it scares them... that or it's a turn of...
How is 3 messages since Saturday to eagerly? One was a response to his message (Sunday), one my phone number (Monday), and one confirming the date for Friday (Thur).0 -
let him do the chasing.... sometimes when you message back so eagerly it scares them... that or it's a turn of...
How is 3 messages since Saturday to eagerly? One was a response to his message (Sunday), one my phone number (Monday), and one confirming the date for Friday (Thur).
That's good spacing. He isn't interested. Next!0 -
Oh I might go to the game on Saturday by myself if this doesn't work out.The thing is I will be more disappointed on not going to the game then not going on the date.
love this!0 -
Oh I might go to the game on Saturday by myself if this doesn't work out.The thing is I will be more disappointed on not going to the game then not going on the date.
love this!
It's supposed to be rainy and cold all day today anyway. Cold being around 65.0
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