when to get kinky?
xtinalovexo
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Okay, so when you start sleeping with someone for the first time how long do you usually wait to bring our your kinky side?
If you rush into exploring do you think the sexual relationship will get boring quick?
If you rush into exploring do you think the sexual relationship will get boring quick?
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I'm pulling out the chickens and midgets day one.0
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Just tie me to the bedposts and lets get it rocking!0
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Let your partner know you want constant consideration and surprise early. Then explore.
What do you consider kinky?0 -
I imagine it'd take several times before the REAL La_Amazona comes out. Rawr!
The first few times wouldn't be vanilla but I wouldn't tell my guy the 1st time we're making love to choke me. haha0 -
HMmmm... Honestly depends on the guy. One guy might get to my kinky side much faster than another depends on how they react lol0
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Well we've discussed it, but haven't has sex yet... So clearly im not going to be bringing out whips right away. My definition of kinky would be.... Ties, blind folds, submission, role playing, spanking and other forms of pleasured pain, body paints or edible items, public sex, im pretty open... Nothing insane like fisting though.0
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The first few times wouldn't be vanilla but I wouldn't tell my guy the 1st time we're making love to choke me. haha
Maybe this is why I keep scaring them away :P0 -
are we talking whips hand cuffs.. cream and syrup here (don't forget the strawberries lol)0
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I imagine it'd take several times before the REAL La_Amazona comes out. Rawr!
The first few times wouldn't be vanilla but I wouldn't tell my guy the 1st time we're making love to choke me. haha
That's how I am... I need some time to get comfortable... But I only have a limited time window to sleep with my partner... Its complicated.0 -
Let your freak flag fly. Chains, whips, chips and dip, its all good LMAO.0
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Right away??? Like let's say you had just slept with her the first time and you're at the gym together the next day and she suggests having sex in the sauna...? Do you think if you do too much too quick that it'll get boring?0
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Right away??? Like let's say you had just slept with her the first time and you're at the gym together the next day and she suggests having sex in the sauna...? Do you think if you do too much too quick that it'll get boring?
Maybe not right away but ease into it a little. Start with the biting and scratching and see how he reacts. Also I keep all my condoms in the drawer with all my other 'goodies' so he'll get a glimpse of them. One guy and I had a straight out conversation the first time about what was out of bounds and pretty much played into everything else right away.0 -
Okay, so when you start sleeping with someone for the first time how long do you usually wait to bring our your kinky side?
If you rush into exploring do you think the sexual relationship will get boring quick?
I kinda expect to have some of that discussion before getting too involved. It's a great way to test out compatibility before certain good feelings cloud your judgment. My sister sells Passion Parties, and I was telling a guy I liked how I hoped, after marriage, to be her second biggest customer (you'll never guess who is her first, lol). His intense negative reaction (even after reminding him about certain scriptures) was enough to end any hope we'd be compatible.0 -
Right away??? Like let's say you had just slept with her the first time and you're at the gym together the next day and she suggests having sex in the sauna...? Do you think if you do too much too quick that it'll get boring?
I don't see a problem with that!
I mean, usually after the 1st time you have sex with someone you're dating, you have constant sex in the "honeymoon" period so you'd probably want it the next morning, later at the gym, later that night... etc
Or is that just me? This is how it plays in my mind.0 -
Right away??? Like let's say you had just slept with her the first time and you're at the gym together the next day and she suggests having sex in the sauna...? Do you think if you do too much too quick that it'll get boring?
I don't see a problem with that!
I mean, usually after the 1st time you have sex with someone you're dating, you have constant sex in the "honeymoon" period so you'd probably want it the next morning, later at the gym, later that night... etc
Or is that just me? This is how it plays in my mind.
You're so right girl! honey moon phase equals sex all day erryday.0 -
Well we've discussed it, but haven't has sex yet... So clearly im not going to be bringing out whips right away. My definition of kinky would be.... Ties, blind folds, submission, role playing, spanking and other forms of pleasured pain, body paints or edible items, public sex, im pretty open... Nothing insane like fisting though.
Who's who in this scene?0 -
The first few times wouldn't be vanilla but I wouldn't tell my guy the 1st time we're making love to choke me. haha
Maybe this is why I keep scaring them away :P
This scares them away?!?!0 -
Thanks for turning me on, GUYS. I'm supposed to be sleeping right now. I have to wake up in 5 hours. :sad:0
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No need to get Cray straight away... Keep something a mystery and discoverable and draw it out... but def dont hold back on that..
Have to admit, I had a girl ask me to choke her the first time we had sex, so I suppose it depends on the person and how comfortable you feel with them!!0 -
Depends on my mood. I'll bring in the kinky side if I know it's going to be casual. Just depends on how heated things get.0
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Okay, so when you start sleeping with someone for the first time how long do you usually wait to bring our your kinky side?
If you rush into exploring do you think the sexual relationship will get boring quick?
I kinda expect to have some of that discussion before getting too involved. It's a great way to test out compatibility before certain good feelings cloud your judgment. My sister sells Passion Parties, and I was telling a guy I liked how I hoped, after marriage, to be her second biggest customer (you'll never guess who is her first, lol). His intense negative reaction (even after reminding him about certain scriptures) was enough to end any hope we'd be compatible.
agreed. there needs to be some sort of test conversation before hand. there's nothing worse than being ready to be extra frisky for your first time and the other party barely feels comfortable in the missionary position :laugh:0 -
Well we've discussed it, but haven't has sex yet... So clearly im not going to be bringing out whips right away. My definition of kinky would be.... Ties, blind folds, submission, role playing, spanking and other forms of pleasured pain, body paints or edible items, public sex, im pretty open... Nothing insane like fisting though.
When you're talking BDSM I think you need to discuss straight away. It's not everyone's cup of tea!
As for the other stuff, I think you just do what you fancy. Depends on the person and how they are. Part of the adventure is discovery........ :bigsmile:
As for sex getting boring, I really think that depends on you.....:flowerforyou:0 -
Depends on my mood. I'll bring in the kinky side if I know it's going to be casual. Just depends on how heated things get.
This usually seems to be the case with me too. For some reason if I know it is going to be casual I am more apt to say yes to any request she has. If it could be more of a long term thing I am more hesitant to bring out my crazy requests.
I realize that should be the opposite and if I am going to be in a real relationship I should not hold back but casual to me doesnt imply a real level of trust whereas real relationship does so it takes me longer to bring out the kinky side.0 -
Okay, so when you start sleeping with someone for the first time how long do you usually wait to bring our your kinky side?
If you rush into exploring do you think the sexual relationship will get boring quick?
I kinda expect to have some of that discussion before getting too involved. It's a great way to test out compatibility before certain good feelings cloud your judgment. My sister sells Passion Parties, and I was telling a guy I liked how I hoped, after marriage, to be her second biggest customer (you'll never guess who is her first, lol). His intense negative reaction (even after reminding him about certain scriptures) was enough to end any hope we'd be compatible.
I always say that I think people who are non-religious or even those who just aren't that familiar with the Bible would be shocked to know what it says about sex and how critical a satisfying sex life is to a healthy marriage. But then I know religious people who are horrified at the thought of anything other than missionary, and I wonder at what point we got our wires crossed.0 -
right away, but I normally start with the lighter stuff and then gradually increase the kink til I'm comfortable with him and then the flags are flyin!0
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Depends on the person, but the sooner the better after a few initial encounters, so you know if you're compatible in that area...0
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My vote would be gradually. First, you don't want to give out all your best moves at once! Keep things interesting. But also, at least for me personally - I need to be SUPER comfortable with a guy before I'd be able to fully let myself go.0
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Okay, so when you start sleeping with someone for the first time how long do you usually wait to bring our your kinky side?
If you rush into exploring do you think the sexual relationship will get boring quick?
I kinda expect to have some of that discussion before getting too involved. It's a great way to test out compatibility before certain good feelings cloud your judgment. My sister sells Passion Parties, and I was telling a guy I liked how I hoped, after marriage, to be her second biggest customer (you'll never guess who is her first, lol). His intense negative reaction (even after reminding him about certain scriptures) was enough to end any hope we'd be compatible.
Sound policy. Next time I date, I'm not waiting for either of us to find out any of this stuff gradually. Some men fear toys as competition, the poor things.0 -
The first few times wouldn't be vanilla but I wouldn't tell my guy the 1st time we're making love to choke me. haha
Maybe this is why I keep scaring them away :P
This scares them away?!?!
The majority of the guys that I have been with are scared to get super rough. I'm sure they could work up to it, but most are quite scared to try
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Trust is a prerequisite for anything kinky. Once the trust is built, developed, cultivated and grows, the kinkiness takes on a whole new life of its on.
It is not kinky anymore, it becomes romantic passion.0
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