Cold Feet
MdmAcolyte
Posts: 382 Member
I love The Man, and I dont want to break things off or anything, but I just dont feel the "oomphff" to get married anymore. We planned a July 1 wedding, and I said I wanted to put it off until I got some personal financial things straightened out, and he said September would be fine (we talked about going to New Mexico for Fiesta for our honeymoon), but now I cannot honestly say I really want to get married anymore. I dont have the jitters, and I dont have the butterflies. =( He doesnt talk about it much because I think he knows it stresses me out, but he's still all for getting hitched. So I feel bad because I dont. Anyone else feel that way?
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Im getting married. NEVER thought I would want too. Honestly! Never saw it in my future. BUT this guy made me think different and I am SO excited! Honestly, if you dont feel it 100% then let him know. Maybe go to couples councling (My man and I went to pre-marraige councling). It can help you understand exacly what both are feeling and why and there is someone there to explain it in a way that makes the other understand in a way that you might not be able too. Getting married is HUGE, you dont want to go into it with a "maybe". It will hurt both of you more if you keep going twords something that just isnt for you. GOOD LUCK!0
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Yeah, I know it is all just me. It would be my third marriage. The first one I chalked up to a "starter" marriage and we were just too young. The second ended abruptly, and quite badly (hence, two years later I am just now finishing up cleaning up the financial aspects). I guess Im just apprehensive and worried that I just suck at life and dont want to drag him down with me, eventhough he seems completely willing. Lol (And dont say good things come in 3's cuz I got married last time on 03/03/03 and that is a day that will remain in infamy now... LOL)0
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You cant drag someone down. If he knows what he is getting into then that is his choice. You have to let him know EVERYTHING so he has the right to make that choice. He is his own person and can chose where his life is headed. You cant make that for him or "save" him. If he things you are worth it, then so be it. You can only make a choice for yourself and know if he is worth it or not. Work on yourself first but you can do that with someone by your side. Love, friendship, honestly and communication. Getting married says "you are who I want to share everything with for the rest of my life". You have to be able to share even the bad.0
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This is true. He knows everything. Thank you for the perspective!!
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You are welcome! Now get excited or get out of it! It should be a happy time!!!
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