How many is too many?
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Cheating is different than counting it as a sexual partner! lol If you are in a supposedly monogamous relationship, everything counts as cheating. But I don't think a hand job raises your sexual partner number. ha ha
Yeah I agree, only bumping uglies should really count as a sexual partner. (cant believe I just put it like that)0 -
Do you all actually KNOW your number, without thinking about it? What do you count? Just penetration, or oral too? Too many variables for me...
I know my number.
And I don't care much about his number unless it's astronomical.
I don't ask.
The first two guys who have asked me got upset about my number of partners. Both of these guys were not long after my divorce a couple years ago. One called me a freak. Apparently there is something freakishly wrong in today's society with having waited for marriage and then been faithful in that marriage. The one who called me a freak said he couldn't imagine being faithful to the same person for 12+ years. Amazing.0 -
The topic usually comes up eventually, but I try not to bring it up. I'm always kinda curious, but I'm not sure why. I don't think it'd matter to me too much either way. It does seem to be more socially acceptable for a guy to have a higher number than the girl, so I'm trying to keep my number low. I'm finding that harder to do the older I get :grumble:0
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I have a very strict "don't ask, don't tell" policy. I don't want to know how many she/he has been with, and I won't ever tell my number. There have been rare exceptions to this rule where I've been in open relationships and the sordid details were a turn on for my partner. But in general? No.
Meeting an ex of theirs is the worst. (Reason # 8435 why I won't date someone with children) Being reminded that they've had sex with even one other person and that person has memories of them that I'll never know about is a bit outside my comfort zone. I'm not the least bit jealous, but being face to face with this realization is awfully awkward for me. Talking about it, however, is no problem . I just feel like it's none of my business.
As for the actual number? No. I don't care who or how many they've been with. As long as they haven't slept with my mother or my best friend, I really don't care. With this in mind though, I am also cautious of STD's and yes - he will wrap it up until he gets checked.
I also follow this policy, but without exception.
Another reason to hate facebook is that I am friends with some girls I've gone out with. I think it is important for both people to acknowledge that you had lives before you met each other and leave it at that.0 -
Do you all actually KNOW your number, without thinking about it? What do you count? Just penetration, or oral too? Too many variables for me...
I know my number.
And I don't care much about his number unless it's astronomical.
I don't ask.
The first two guys who have asked me got upset about my number of partners. Both of these guys were not long after my divorce a couple years ago. One called me a freak. Apparently there is something freakishly wrong in today's society with having waited for marriage and then been faithful in that marriage. The one who called me a freak said he couldn't imagine being faithful to the same person for 12+ years. Amazing.
He sounds like a keeper!
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Do you all actually KNOW your number, without thinking about it? What do you count? Just penetration, or oral too? Too many variables for me...
I know my number.
And I don't care much about his number unless it's astronomical.
I don't ask.
The first two guys who have asked me got upset about my number of partners. Both of these guys were not long after my divorce a couple years ago. One called me a freak. Apparently there is something freakishly wrong in today's society with having waited for marriage and then been faithful in that marriage. The one who called me a freak said he couldn't imagine being faithful to the same person for 12+ years. Amazing.
He sounds like a keeper! :laugh:
:laugh: doesnt he just!
I dont know if this is the right way to judge someone, but as soon as a guy hints at being unfaithful in life, I go off him. It makes me think if he can do it to her, he can do it to me.
That's more of a question I would ask a potential b/f, if he's ever been unfaithful, rather than how many0 -
I don't ask anymore. Before I got married and was dating, it seemed like the question to ask... not so much now. Maybe it's because I don't want them to ask me or what not, but honestly I really don't care. We're in our 30's now.. it's pretty safe to assume most of us have been with a couple of people here and there.0
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[I agree that a *kitten* or handjob shouldn't be considered as cheating by women.
I think it's a bit old school for women to be so uptight about it!
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As long as they aren't in the Barney Stintson numbers.
But they could be LEGEN...
Wait for it...
DARY!
Figure I'll give my answer as well.
There was a point in my life where I slept with any woman who would say yes. My wife had cheated on me, we had split, and I felt like my manhood was in question, so I felt the need to prove that I was a man. I hope a woman doesn't ask me, my numbers are really high, but that was in my youth. In the last 7 years it has been dramatically less. At this point, I'd like to be in a monogamous relationship, so I'd probably fib about my numbers because I wouldn't want to scare a woman away. That would be really hard because I've always been honest about it.0 -
Oh my.... I don't want to ask and I don't want to tell. :devil: :bigsmile:
As long as they are clean and monogamous, that's where I am in life and what I expect in return.0
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