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JanieJack
JanieJack Posts: 3,830 Member
edited December 2024 in Social Groups
Have you ever known one to work out long term? Do tell...

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  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,136 Member
    Have you ever known one to work out long term? Do tell...

    Nope. But I have a friend in one and I'm praying it does for him.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    Mine did not but I'm sure there are some that do!
  • Freida_MS
    Freida_MS Posts: 97 Member
    Mine lasted for 7 years but only because I was a dummy and married him and didn't want a second divorce.
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    Hmmm... It's hard to say. There are Heaps of variables in break ups so it's difficult to work out if it's because of the "rebound" or just simply from differences like any other relationship ends over.
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    I think it depends on how soon after you are rebounding .. lol.
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,830 Member
    I didn't think so either.

    One of the guys I've been getting to know seems like he might be really good for me.. super hot, like me he doesn't drink or smoke (which is rare to find in a hot guy), is great with his kids (from what I can see so far) really into fitness (but not critical of me and my starbucks) and got along well with my church singles group when he met them this weekend.

    Even though he's had a couple other dates since his marriage fell apart, I'm the first one he's actually "dated." Last night, he was pushing for more of a relationship, but I just hate to get all caught up in this guy and have it all fall apart since I'd just be his "rebound."

    Then again, my stepdad was my mom's "rebound" and that worked out pretty well for all of us, lol!
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    No, that's what rebound relationships are for, just to help get over the person you are rebounding from.
  • Nerple
    Nerple Posts: 1,291 Member
    I've known 2 that resulted in marriages. Though one of them is a new marriage and already shwoing signs of frustration.
  • shammxo
    shammxo Posts: 1,432 Member
    Mine did. 2 years.

    But, that ended. So, maybe not.
  • sandrinamsilva
    sandrinamsilva Posts: 651 Member
    Mine lasted over 3 years, but it was a toxic relationship and I didn't want to "fail" again.
  • sandrinamsilva
    sandrinamsilva Posts: 651 Member
    I didn't think so either.

    One of the guys I've been getting to know seems like he might be really good for me.. super hot, like me he doesn't drink or smoke (which is rare to find in a hot guy), is great with his kids (from what I can see so far) really into fitness (but not critical of me and my starbucks) and got along well with my church singles group when he met them this weekend.

    Even though he's had a couple other dates since his marriage fell apart, I'm the first one he's actually "dated." Last night, he was pushing for more of a relationship, but I just hate to get all caught up in this guy and have it all fall apart since I'd just be his "rebound."

    Then again, my stepdad was my mom's "rebound" and that worked out pretty well for all of us, lol!


    You'll never know if it'll work out unless you try....He "seems" to fit well into what you want/need.
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    I didn't think so either.

    One of the guys I've been getting to know seems like he might be really good for me.. super hot, like me he doesn't drink or smoke (which is rare to find in a hot guy), is great with his kids (from what I can see so far) really into fitness (but not critical of me and my starbucks) and got along well with my church singles group when he met them this weekend.

    Even though he's had a couple other dates since his marriage fell apart, I'm the first one he's actually "dated." Last night, he was pushing for more of a relationship, but I just hate to get all caught up in this guy and have it all fall apart since I'd just be his "rebound."

    Then again, my stepdad was my mom's "rebound" and that worked out pretty well for all of us, lol!
    It depends on how long he's been divorced for and how the marriage ended. If they just drifted apart and he's been unhappy for years than it's not really a rebound, since he's probably looking for a meaningful long lasting relationship. If she cheated on him or something and they got divorced a couple months later then I would be a bit skeptical, because he's probably just looking for something to take his mind off his ex-wife.
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,252 Member
    Mine lasted for 8 years and resulted in a gorgeous son. He is now an ex and nothing has really worked since.

    However, your guy might be emotionally ready for a healthy relationship. I think it is okay to discuss this with him.
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,830 Member
    He "seems" to fit well into what you want/need.

    Yeah, but so do some of the other guys I'm getting to know... including from MFP, so I'm hesitant to cut all that off for someone that 99% of the time is gonna fizzle out.

    I guess I feel like he's moving much faster than I'm ready for, and given that with most guys I'm done with them after the first or second date, it's not something I’m used to. OTOH, if he’s genuinely ready for a relationship I don’t want to push him away.

    Maybe it’s not him who isn’t ready… maybe it’s me. Maybe I’m still not ready to jump on the “relationship” train everyone else is riding over the last month.

    Thanks, everyone, for your inputs
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