Crazy Ex Scaring Off Potential Dates

JanieJack

If someone is awesome, but has a crazy ex... would you stop dating him/her?




I don't know that I'd discount a great guy on account of his crazy ex, UNLESS it appears to me that he allows her to run all over him/manipulate him. Even if you have kids together, there’s such a thing as intermediaries to help one break free from a crazy, manipulative, drama-queen ex. My ex is not involved, which is bad for my son but the plus is no "baby-daddy drama."

DMZ_1

I think the only way to address this is on a case by case basis. I can't see any sweeping generalizations that can be made here.

Carl01

In a perfect world and day dream no it would not matter.

In real life if it became or was obviously going to be a soul sucking endeavor then would have to weigh it.
I have been too much of a sucker for hard luck stories in years past and want to get away from that.

Guess would just have to see what was happening and go from there,as in all things I would hate the thought of walking away from a possible great thing because not all circumstances are perfect.

sandrinamsilva

My boyfriend's ex is slightly crazy. Its like she has a radar for when we are having sex. Never fails she will call 20 times or until he gives in to answer her call just to cuss him out about something that had nothing to do with him.

I wouldn't leave him because of that unless I thought there is something more there between them. I know how he feels about her so I'm not threaten.Plus, she makes me look like a level headed good girl. :bigsmile:

Steelheart7

I would think it would be hard for me to even start a relationship with someone if his crazy ex is being crazy ... lol. So at this point in my life I wouldn't stick around. Unless he was really really rich.. lmao!

nammer79

I would think it would be hard for me to even start a relationship with someone if his crazy ex is being crazy ... lol. So at this point in my life I wouldn't stick around. Unless he was really really rich.. lmao!

Marry me well after you marry the rich guy and take half his money ... then marry me :laugh: :laugh:

Ex's are ex's for a reason and most of the time its because they are crazy at least in my neck of the woods so I don't have many options :smokin:

ItsCasey

I don't think I would be able to stop myself from wondering why the guy was attracted to someone who would later be described as a "crazy ex." But I'm also the kind of person who doesn't think people change that much, so I rarely buy the stories about how someone was nearly perfect when they first met and later turned into a sociopath. People will say anything to minimize the implications of their stupid decisions.

scapez

I don't know that I'd discount a great guy on account of his crazy ex, UNLESS it appears to me that he allows her to run all over him/manipulate him.

This. You can't control a crazy ex, but you can control how much you let them impart crazy into your life. Boundaries are a must!

La_Amazona

I would probably avoid it. If she's THAT crazy there's a thing called restraining order... if there's not one in place and she's THAT crazy then obviously he is allowing it to some point.

Eh, I just don't have the patience or will to deal with it.

ItsCasey

I would probably avoid it. If she's THAT crazy there's a thing called restraining order... if there's not one in place and she's THAT crazy then obviously he is allowing it to some point.

Eh, I just don't have the patience or will to deal with it.

That's how I feel. You're a man. Put her in her place. If you're not willing to do it, either you like the drama, or you're not much of a man. In either case, I'll have to take a pass.

Roadie2000

I have one crazy ex, but she doesn't come around enough anymore to really make it an issue. She just spraypaints random things in the street outside my house or eggs my house about once a year. I can't prove it's her but I just know it.

dbrightwell1270

I out-crazied my exs. You'll never find those bodies. :drinker:

christine24t

I don't think I would be able to stop myself from wondering why the guy was attracted to someone who would later be described as a "crazy ex."

That I would question a little too.

TheKitsune6

If he didn't handle it then yes, it could be a deal breaker.

AnnaPixie

I out-crazied my exs. You'll never find those bodies. :drinker:

:laugh:

I've never come across crazy ex's. Thankfully. I guess I'd need him to handle the situations though......

cbeutler

For me it depends on how my new squeeze reacts when said ex is crazy. If the crazy is contagious, or she treated me as a surrogate for the ex that wouldn't fly.

If she was sane and just needed support or to vent that would be fine.

ItsCasey

I have one crazy ex, but she doesn't come around enough anymore to really make it an issue. She just spraypaints random things in the street outside my house or eggs my house about once a year. I can't prove it's her but I just know it.

I'm sorry because I know that's not funny, but that's really funny. She spray-paints random things in the street? And eggs your house? How old is this person?

Roadie2000

I have one crazy ex, but she doesn't come around enough anymore to really make it an issue. She just spraypaints random things in the street outside my house or eggs my house about once a year. I can't prove it's her but I just know it.

I'm sorry because I know that's not funny, but that's really funny. She spray-paints random things in the street? And eggs your house? How old is this person?

The last time she did anything I'm aware of was maybe 2 years ago, she would have been about 28-29ish. We hadn't dated in about 5 years, and we only dated for a few months. Yes, I broke up with her the minute I saw signs of craziness.

Natx83

I ve had a little to do with crazy ex's, least when its girls, its mainly pyschological but with crazy male ex's it has the tendency to get physical. Im not a fan of getting punched in the face.

I was over at a girlfriends house, after a big Australia day party, so everyone everywhere had been drinking. We were in bed and at like 1.30 am, i wake up to this loud banging on the front door. She woke up scared as, i peered through the curtains and told her there was a guy there, she knew straight away it was her ex. I knew he was crazy already but now I was experiencing it first hand. He starts screaming for her to let him in. Im like F%$K that, this dude is huge. Im not tiny, but this dude is wayyy bigger than me lol. She just pretended like she wasnt there, until she starts calling her phone and he hears it ring inside her bedroom through her bedroom window which he is now at. Shes so frightened at this stage, crying etc, Im consoling her and Im pretending to be brave but I was pretty afraid this guy was going to smash the door in, it was hitting it that hard. He was already that violent and he didnt even know I was there yet. THANK GOD I had parked my bike inside her garage, otherwise he would of known for sure. She didnt want me to do anything, pretty glad actually lol. I was thinking if this dude gets inside im probably gonna have to stab this dude or something. Not cool.

After that night, she told me the next day, she couldnt deal with a new relationship whilst she was still getting so much grief from her ex. He kept doing, she called the cops and his parents and eventually he moved away and hasnt heard from him since.. Destroyed any chance of a solid relationship as it messed with her..

I hate that guy.:explode: