When breaking things off with someone.......
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The last guy I dated broke up with me in a text message on February 13. The next day at work, I got Valentine's Day flowers and balloons from him that he had clearly ordered before he decided to break up with me. It was like taking a bullet. He could've at least warned me.
If I could maintain my composure through that, this guy can manage a swift kick in the balls.0 -
The last guy I dated broke up with me in a text message on February 13. The next day at work, I got Valentine's Day flowers and balloons from him that he had clearly ordered before he decided to break up with me. It was like taking a bullet. He could've at least warned me.
If I could maintain my composure through that, this guy can manage a swift kick in the balls.
Exactly. And it's not even a month relationship, so a swift kick it is not.0 -
I would text back as soon as he texts me - "Yeah, I'm ok thanks, but I dont think its going to work out between us. Sorry to mention it now, but Mackeric said I should man up" :laugh:
Or if he doesnt text for the day, after work :bigsmile:0 -
Sorry, mack... I got side tracked. I promise to finish licking you later ;-P I adore arguing with you.
I want in on this too.:smokin:0 -
Pepper spray sends a clear and unmistakable message. ;-)0
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First....I also want in on the licking!
Next and to the OP's ???? Who cares if it is during working hours or not. It was barely a relationship, so little time invested you are going to dump him via text. I dont mind it at all, but regardless of lenght of relationship/dating every woman I have told via text that it wasnt going to work, lost her sh** because I had the balls to tell her over text vice in person.
So my point is, who cares, you are about to dump a guy over text that you have been seeing for less than a month. He isnt going to die, hell he probably wont even lose any sleep over it, so just do it!0 -
Jesus, just do it as soon as you know you want to.
There is no perfect time. As soon as you know is the best time.
Totally disagree. Never discuss personal *kitten* during work hours. I find it disrespectful.
I find it disrespectful to continue playing as if everything is fine. Maybe because I can distinguish work and person life with no problems, but waiting until "the right time" is dumb. Just do it.
There is no right time but there are certainly wrong times. An examples may be at her birthday party.
It may depend on the type of work you're doing. My job requires a lot of mental concentration and I'd rather not be distracted with a break up during the business day. Especially if it blind sided me.0 -
The last guy I dated broke up with me in a text message on February 13. The next day at work, I got Valentine's Day flowers and balloons from him that he had clearly ordered before he decided to break up with me. It was like taking a bullet. He could've at least warned me.
If I could maintain my composure through that, this guy can manage a swift kick in the balls.
To OP: I just saw the "relationship was only a few weeks. I'd be surprised if he's overly devastated. Use your judgement. You know him better than we do.
To Jq: That sounds pretty harsh. I don't think it's a question of whether you or anyone else put in your position could maintain their composure. I think it's a question of whether there is a better way to approach the subject.0 -
Lord, I don't think he is going to go jump off a bridge or anything. But it is uncomfortable to tell someone you don't want to see them anymore. I just wanted to know if doing at work is bad. The consensus is yes.
Appreciate the minimizing of me not wanting to hurt feelings anymore than I have to though.0 -
First....I also want in on the licking!
Next and to the OP's ???? Who cares if it is during working hours or not. It was barely a relationship, so little time invested you are going to dump him via text. I dont mind it at all, but regardless of lenght of relationship/dating every woman I have told via text that it wasnt going to work, lost her sh** because I had the balls to tell her over text vice in person.
So my point is, who cares, you are about to dump a guy over text that you have been seeing for less than a month. He isnt going to die, hell he probably wont even lose any sleep over it, so just do it!
I didn't lose any when it happened to me.
And sorry guys, she's still licking. I'll be keeping her for a few more days
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I would text back as soon as he texts me - "Yeah, I'm ok thanks, but I dont think its going to work out between us. Sorry to mention it now, but Mackeric said I should man up" :laugh:
Or if he doesnt text for the day, after work :bigsmile:
It's too bad we can't be friends.0 -
Don't be lame and harden up and do it face to face. Think of how you would feel getting dumped via text. Grow some ovaries.0
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I think after only a couple weeks I'd rather someone broke things off by text rather than an awkward phone call. I don't need some big explanation as to why it isn't working out, just rip it off like a band-aid.Don't be lame and harden up and do it face to face. Think of how you would feel getting dumped via text. Grow some ovaries.0 -
I think after only a couple weeks I'd rather someone broke things off by text rather than an awkward phone call. I don't need some big explanation as to why it isn't working out, just rip it off like a band-aid.Don't be lame and harden up and do it face to face. Think of how you would feel getting dumped via text. Grow some ovaries.
Sorry! Missed that it was only a couple of weeks, pet hate. But still if it's only a couple of weeks it shouldn't be that hard to do face to face. Bit of common courtesy0 -
I think after only a couple weeks I'd rather someone broke things off by text rather than an awkward phone call. I don't need some big explanation as to why it isn't working out, just rip it off like a band-aid.Don't be lame and harden up and do it face to face. Think of how you would feel getting dumped via text. Grow some ovaries.
Sorry! Missed that it was only a couple of weeks, pet hate. But still if it's only a couple of weeks it shouldn't be that hard to do face to face. Bit of common courtesy
Kinda have to agree with the guys here..... Atleast make a phone call not text....
The one time I told a FWB that we couldn't be FWB anymore via text it was ugly...... Phone calls atleast seem more considerate of thier feelings ......0 -
I think after only a couple weeks I'd rather someone broke things off by text rather than an awkward phone call. I don't need some big explanation as to why it isn't working out, just rip it off like a band-aid.Don't be lame and harden up and do it face to face. Think of how you would feel getting dumped via text. Grow some ovaries.
Sorry! Missed that it was only a couple of weeks, pet hate. But still if it's only a couple of weeks it shouldn't be that hard to do face to face. Bit of common courtesy
Kinda have to agree with the guys here..... Atleast make a phone call not text....
The one time I told a FWB that we couldn't be FWB anymore via text it was ugly...... Phone calls atleast seem more considerate of thier feelings ......0 -
Personally, I'd rather someone just sent me a text rather than me make room in my schedule only to waste my time by having some awkward conversation about why things aren't working. Plus if neither person has time to meet up then it is just prolonged.Sorry! Missed that it was only a couple of weeks, pet hate. But still if it's only a couple of weeks it shouldn't be that hard to do face to face. Bit of common courtesy0 -
Did you tell him? How did it go? And...........did you wait?0
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Yep. I waited until I got off work, I have no idea if he still was. I just said that he is a great guy but we don't fit. I didn't get a response.0
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Yep. I waited until I got off work, I have no idea if he still was. I just said that he is a great guy but we don't fit. I didn't get a response.
It'll come lol0 -
Yep. I waited until I got off work, I have no idea if he still was. I just said that he is a great guy but we don't fit. I didn't get a response.
It'll come lol
Really??? I hope not.0 -
Yep. I waited until I got off work, I have no idea if he still was. I just said that he is a great guy but we don't fit. I didn't get a response.
It'll come lol
Really??? I hope not.
Well, it's very possible. Depends how much he liked you I guess. He might have some questions as to a deeper explanation.0 -
Yep. I waited until I got off work, I have no idea if he still was. I just said that he is a great guy but we don't fit. I didn't get a response.
It'll come lol
Really??? I hope not.
Well, it's very possible. Depends how much he liked you I guess. He might have some questions as to a deeper explanation.
Meh. I would tell him why I didn't want to see him anymore if he asked. It is bad.0 -
Yep. I waited until I got off work, I have no idea if he still was. I just said that he is a great guy but we don't fit. I didn't get a response.
It'll come lol
Really??? I hope not.
Well, it's very possible. Depends how much he liked you I guess. He might have some questions as to a deeper explanation.
Meh. I would tell him why I didn't want to see him anymore if he asked. It is bad.
The reason is bad? Because of something he did or said or as in bad reason as kind of a weak excuse on your part?0 -
Ummmmmm. He has some proclivities that I am not interested in pursuing with him ever again. It is so bizarre because he is very sweet, gentle, and overall great until dtd. Then he becomes something else. I don't think he has any idea either how off putting he is.0
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Have you heard from him??0
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Ummmmmm. He has some proclivities that I am not interested in pursuing with him ever again. It is so bizarre because he is very sweet, gentle, and overall great until dtd. Then he becomes something else. I don't think he has any idea either how off putting he is.
Ohhhh. Sounds like a good call then 0 -
Have you heard from him??
Nope!0 -
Ummmmmm. He has some proclivities that I am not interested in pursuing with him ever again. It is so bizarre because he is very sweet, gentle, and overall great until dtd. Then he becomes something else. I don't think he has any idea either how off putting he is.
Ohhhh. Sounds like a good call then
Absolutely.0 -
Have you heard from him??
Nope!
:huh: Seriously??? That is weird.0
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