guy is laying on the compliments really thick

jend114

and I don't know how to deal with it. My best friend and her friend are setting us up. We haven't met yet. We've been texting and talking on the phone and he's laying on the compliments really thick and I don't know how to deal with it. Last relationship, I got called fat pretty much everyday and my self-esteem isn't 100% again. how do I deal with this or ask him to tone it down without hurting his feelings??

Carl01

I would suggest just being open with him about it and maybe letting it lead to a get to know each other better conversation.

La_Amazona

what kind of compliments if he hasn't met you??

dbrightwell1270

How long until you're going to meet him. It's not a good sign that you already feel overwhelmed and you haven't met yet. How are you going to deal with him if you discover in the meeting that you don't have any chemistry?

Natx83

Better than put downs! Just be open with him about it, you'll prob find out more about him from his reaction than you will from a 100 texts

DMZ_1

I foresee a future post from you...

"How do I tell a nice guy that I'm not really into him?"

mrmanmeat

I foresee a future post from you...

"How do I tell a nice guy that I'm not really into him?"

Those damn nice guys always finish last cause of some other *kitten*.

Roadie2000

Sounds kind of needy. It's kind of a desperate attempt to make themselves seem nice, and maybe he is really nice, but I know it kind of lowers my interest level when people lay on the compliments too thick.

AnnaPixie

I would just laugh it off with " wow, aren't you the charmer!! lol You haven't even met me yet so it all sounds a bit like false flattery to be hoenst. If you say that in the future, then I might believe you! "

IOW just be honest with him. Have a conversation about it. He might even say somthing like "forgive me, I am really nervous and have nothing better to say" :laugh:

AllanMisner

Seems a bit spooky since he hasn't met you. I'll admit when I'm really into someone, I'll complement them a lot (maybe even too much). I am in the camp that believes a woman should never have to wonder how you feel about her. If she has to analyze it, it won't end up good for me.

If it is bothering you, have a brief conversation about it. Just tell him that you appreciate complements, but he's pouring them on a bit too heavy. He should get the picture.

flimflamfloz

I foresee a future post from you...
"How do I tell a nice guy that I'm not really into him?"

This made me laugh. :laugh:

Yeah, follow Anapixel's advice: tell him to back off a bit with humour, and if he's as thick as his layers of compliments - i.e. he doesn't get it - then start a serious conversation.
Nobody should be keen on someone before meeting them.

SouthernSweetie74

I am in the camp that believes a woman should never have to wonder how you feel about her. If she has to analyze it, it won't end up good for me.

I like that camp!

SouthernSweetie74

I would just laugh it off with " wow, aren't you the charmer!! lol You haven't even met me yet so it all sounds a bit like false flattery to be hoenst. If you say that in the future, then I might believe you! "

Yep, I agree.

Handle it with humor.

That's how I do it.

SouthernSweetie74

Oops... I'm still learning how these message boards work... can't seem to get the quotes and replies right!

Natx83