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Weird texts

Meghan0116
Meghan0116 Posts: 1,263 Member
edited December 2024 in Social Groups
I need ya'lls opinions about the texts exchanged today between me and Thursday night guy. Don't judge me for texting first. lol

Me 1:00 pm: I have missed chatting with you. Guess I just wanted you to know. I hope you find what you are looking for.
Him 1:05 pm: I have missed it as well, I didn't see a reason why it had to stop. Was it cause I left? I thought we were past that, but I guess I was wrong.
Me 1:18 pm: No. Not at all. I am past that, it was minor. I guess I took the last of communication as a sign you weren't interested in seeing me again.
Him 1:24: I will admit that the talking got less the past few days, but if I was uninterested, I would have had the decency to tell you
Me 1:38: Oh okay. I was just going off past experiences. I have always been upfront, the guys not so much.
Me 2:02: So what was the deal with less communication?
Him 2:03: It was a busy weekend.
Me 2:17: Alrighty

Nothing since. I am not getting a whole lot of interest signals here and think I should just let it go. What do ya'll think?

Replies

  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    Well, do you feel like you can take him on his word?


    As the movie says, if a guy is interested, he'll make it known.
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,263 Member
    I don't know. Before the date, we were averaging a few hundred texts a day, plus emails, and phone conversations. Now, pretty much nada.

    Eh. I think I will move on.
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    I don't know. Before the date, we were averaging a few hundred texts a day, plus emails, and phone conversations. Now, pretty much nada.

    Eh. I think I will move on.

    I agree.
    (so easy to say when it's someone else's sitch, lol!)
  • The_Iron
    The_Iron Posts: 288
    His texts aren't engaging' so yeah I think he doesn't want to 'say it'. So he would rather just kind of roll over and play 'possum until you turn around and walk away. Don't text him. I have a feeling he won't either or if he does it will be of little value.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    It sounds awkward.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    Next!!
    Good for you for stepping out and speaking your mind. That's all you can do.

    The ball was left in his court and unfortunately he's not picking it up.
  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    I don't know. Before the date, we were averaging a few hundred texts a day, plus emails, and phone conversations. Now, pretty much nada.

    Eh. I think I will move on.

    I agree with this too - very much so. You deserve someone who will go after you if he really wants you!
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,263 Member
    Thanks everyone! Pretty much my thinking.
  • r1ghtpath
    r1ghtpath Posts: 701 Member
    sounds like he wants to keep you on a back burner, not make you the priority. i'm sorry. you have a great attitude :-) keep moving forward!
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    I dunno, to me it sounds like a miscommunication and then you came off as... mad? Dismissive. I'd be pretty annoyed if I'm getting grilled by someone after one date just because I was busy. Yeah the texts may have dropped off, but they dropped off on your side too. Instead of owning up you seemed like you just wanted to push the responsibility on him.

    Though, at this point there probably is no salvaging it anyway. So... NEXT! hehe
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member

    Him 1:24: I will admit that the talking got less the past few days, but if I was uninterested, I would have had the decency to tell you

    Why would someone say this and not mean it??

    I think texts ALWAYS taper off after you've met. And even more so after you're sleeping together. I think men only engage in constant texting cos they feel they have to! :laugh:

    I think you should take him at his word and let him make the next contact :bigsmile: If nothing by the weekend, then move on :flowerforyou:
  • porcelain_doll
    porcelain_doll Posts: 1,005 Member
    It sounds like he is interested, but not "I-can't-get-this-chick-off-my-mind" interested. I would say you'd have to decide if you're ok with a guy having lukewarm interest in you like that. Like you are not the girl he thinks about all week and then can't wait to see on Friday night; more like, you are the girl that he will text when everyone else has plans and he is bored. That's how I would see it, anyway. And some girls are fine with that.
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    Sounds like a lame. He's not as interested as you might hope. It could be from the other night, you've lost all your mystery when it happens so soon.
  • toots99
    toots99 Posts: 3,794 Member
    Next!
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,263 Member
    He texted me last night as asked if I still wanted to keep talking. He was cranky because his hockey team was losing and I made a joke asking if he jinxed them by changing his underwear or socks. He was not amused. Eh, I thought it was funny.

    Yeah, this is going nowhere fast.
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    What did you say? Do you want to keep talking or are you backing off because you are afraid he doesn't like you anymore?

    Uh .. hockey is serious business lady!! There are certain things that need to be done each and every game .. it is no joking matter! Especially when the cup is on the line!!!! lol
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I think because of the way he made you feel, you'll probably have a hard time picking up like nothing.

    Honestly, you told him how it made you feel. If he cared he could have stepped up to reassure you all was good. He had a chance to make it less awkward. And no, I'm not blaming it on the guy but you were the one that reached out to him about the subject and your concerns.
  • solman66
    solman66 Posts: 175 Member
    Uh .. hockey is serious business lady!! There are certain things that need to be done each and every game .. it is no joking matter! Especially when the cup is on the line!!!! lol

    Truth. But apparently he's a devils fan if the conversation was last night and they're generally boring people :laugh:
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,263 Member
    Uh .. hockey is serious business lady!! There are certain things that need to be done each and every game .. it is no joking matter! Especially when the cup is on the line!!!! lol

    Truth. But apparently he's a devils fan if the conversation was last night and they're generally boring people :laugh:

    I have no idea. He is from Michigan. Would he be a devil's fan?
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    Oh Meghan. smh. lol
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,263 Member
    Oh Meghan. smh. lol

    What????? I am from Virginia. We don't do hockey. Well except for our minor league team here.
  • The_Iron
    The_Iron Posts: 288
    Oh Meghan. smh. lol

    What????? I am from Virginia. We don't do hockey. Well except for our minor league team here.

    lol truth.

    Closest we got are the Caps.
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,263 Member
    Oh Meghan. smh. lol

    What????? I am from Virginia. We don't do hockey. Well except for our minor league team here.

    lol truth.

    Closest we got are the Caps.

    We have the Admirals in Norfolk. I have lived here for 13 years and never been to a game. lol
  • r1ghtpath
    r1ghtpath Posts: 701 Member
    most of my friends are caps fans!! i may live in VA, but i'm a chicagoan! love me some blackhawks!!

    if he wants to keep talking, because he's truly interested in you, then he will. if he's not interested, he'll contact you less and less til nothing. i would not initiate contact. see what happens??!!
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    He texted me last night as asked if I still wanted to keep talking. He was cranky because his hockey team was losing and I made a joke asking if he jinxed them by changing his underwear or socks. He was not amused. Eh, I thought it was funny.

    Yeah, this is going nowhere fast.

    Cool, glad he text :smile:

    Dont worry about what you say or how you say it. It's not up to you to be a hockey fan when you're NOT a hockey fan :laugh: I actually think he likes you! But somewhere along the line your personalities are clashing!

    The things is, you BOTH sound insecure? I dunno, just go with it and see what happens? But let him text YOU! that's assuming you said YES you DO still want to keep talking?? You did answer the question, didnt you? :happy:

    :flowerforyou:
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    i would not initiate contact. see what happens??!!

    I kind of hate this - maybe it's because I hate games and drama? The way I see it, is if both people are waiting to see if the other person will be interested enough to text, then they're both going to not text each other and assume the other person isn't interested.

    If you want to talk to him, TALK TO HIM, if he doesn't respond then he's not interested. It's really as simple as that.
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