hanging out vs interested in

Vodkha

Here is a question for you all, and I hope I can word it right...

Is it bad to 'hang out' with someone you are interested in, and be touchy feely and flirty with them (the touching nothing extreme or anything) without knowing if they are into your or not? Are you putting out some sort of vibe by doing this?

Guys, do you hang out and flirt with women you aren't interested in in one way or another?

Nerple

I see nothing wrong with it at all.

Vodkha

I was having a bit of a conversation with a friend about this and he said that I should be playing more hard to get and not showing I am so interested in the guy I like because people want what they can't have and he will be more into me if I keep to myself and not act so interested. I have no idea if this guy is into me or not, so I am a little confused. I'm not going to stress about it, but I don't want to come across as desperate or something...

AllanMisner

I touch women I'm interested in. I don't touch women, I'm not interested in.

I think touch is the single most important indicated of whether someone is interested. And I'm not talking friend hugs.

DMZ has a kinda warped way of saying it, but he's right in a way. Touch can change body chemistry and make people feel differently.

DMZ_1

I touch women I'm interested in. I don't touch women, I'm not interested in.

I think touch is the single most important indicated of whether someone is interested. And I'm not talking friend hugs.

DMZ has a kinda warped way of saying it, but he's right in a way. Touch can change body chemistry and make people feel differently.

What was the warped way that I said it? :laugh: Thanks for the nod. :bigsmile:

Yes, I do the same as you. I touch women when I am interested.

JanieJack

Here is a question for you all, and I hope I can word it right...

Is it bad to 'hang out' with someone you are interested in, and be touchy feely and flirty with them (the touching nothing extreme or anything) without knowing if they are into your or not? Are you putting out some sort of vibe by doing this?

Guys, do you hang out and flirt with women you aren't interested in in one way or another?

To answer the first question... "bad" is in the eye of the beholder. I'm actually more flirty with some of my guy friends because it's safe. They don't seem to mind. If I have a guy friend that seems interested, but I know I'm not, then I stop acting flirty and touchy/feely with him because I don't want to lead him on.

To answer the second question... I'm not a guy, but I have this one guy friend who is CRAZY flirty touchy/feely with all the ladies of our group, but he's not interested in any of us (I know this because he asked me in the past to help him get the girl he really wanted).

Vodkha

Yeah, this guy I would think is not the touchy feely with anyone type. And I know he doesn't have a large group of, (if any) female friends. He'll hit me or touch me in some way or throw something at me in a flirty way. I guess the thing is, I don't like him with the idea of just having someone to have sex with. We get along really well, can joke around with each other and poke fun at each other and our senses of humor are the same, we enjoy the same things...so, I'd like more, but I don't want to push anything. My concern is growing to like him and him liking me in a different way. But I guess that is the risk with liking someone lol!

I just didn't know what his actions towards me should tell me. I also find it interesting that we started hanging out more the very next night after I told him I was hanging out with someone else. I don't know if that is a good sign or a bad sign?

meshashesha2012

if you're essentially throwing yourself at someone and they aren't catching, then you'd have to ask yourself how much self respect you'd be willing to lose and if that would run out before he decided oh hell i might as well take the easy lay

Vodkha

Well, I definitely wouldn't say I am throwing myself at him lol

AnnaPixie

if you're essentially throwing yourself at someone and they aren't catching, then you'd have to ask yourself how much self respect you'd be willing to lose and if that would run out before he decided oh hell i might as well take the easy lay

:laugh: Where did THAT come from?? :laugh:

AnnaPixie

I touch women I'm interested in. I don't touch women, I'm not interested in.

I think touch is the single most important indicated of whether someone is interested. And I'm not talking friend hugs.

DMZ has a kinda warped way of saying it, but he's right in a way. Touch can change body chemistry and make people feel differently.

Yes, this^^^

Absolutely the single most action to indicate interest is touch.

HOWEVER, for some people this doesn't mean romantic interest, just a 'like'!!

I definitely hug my male friends and touch them and hit them and play around and all that!

But if a guy is new, like on a date or something, I wouldnt get that familiar unless I was attracted to him.

So sometimes you can't read it!

:flowerforyou:

Roadie2000

I was having a bit of a conversation with a friend about this and he said that I should be playing more hard to get and not showing I am so interested in the guy I like because people want what they can't have and he will be more into me if I keep to myself and not act so interested. I have no idea if this guy is into me or not, so I am a little confused. I'm not going to stress about it, but I don't want to come across as desperate or something...

Don't play games, in the long run it doesn't really work. Maybe some guys like the hunt but personally I'm over it. I don't want to waste my time with someone that's not interested in me. The friends I have that are married and have the best relationships never needed to play games with each other.

Does the hard to get approach work? Yes, sometimes, but I don't really believe in manipulating someone into liking you.

Vodkha

Yeah i definitely am not into games. Was just curious if I should be worried we have been hanging out, flirting and touching playfully, getting along fabulously, but he hasnt made a move yet...i know he has no problems initiating things because of previous stories he has told me, so its frustrating!