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kimi131
kimi131 Posts: 1,058 Member
edited December 19 in Social Groups
A guy said to me today that if a guy has been on more than four dates with you, then he's your boyfriend whether he's said it or not. I know that's not absolutely always the case, but in general, is it true?

(Note, there is a story here, but I'll spare you :wink: )

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  • Saruman_w
    Saruman_w Posts: 1,531 Member
    I've never heard that before. I always assumed it'd take much longer to transition into something like that... I'd be lucky if I can even get one date.
  • will010574
    will010574 Posts: 761 Member
    False
  • kimi131
    kimi131 Posts: 1,058 Member
    I always assumed it'd take much longer to transition into something like that.

    Well, okay. How about twelve or thirteen dates? I've sorta lost track, but I've been out with a certain guy once or twice a week since February.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    that sounds like some rule most women hope would be true :laugh:

    i know people who dated guys for a couple of years only to find the guy never thought of them as girlfriends... so i'd say until you've had some variation of the "we're monogamous" conversation, just assume you arent and treat the relationship as such
  • will010574
    will010574 Posts: 761 Member
    that sounds like some rule most women hope would be true :laugh:

    i know people who dated guys for a couple of years only to find the guy never thought of them as girlfriends... so i'd say until you've had some variation of the "we're monogamous" conversation, just assume you arent and treat the relationship as such


    ^^^True
  • AccordingtoTodd
    AccordingtoTodd Posts: 197 Member
    does the female get to pay for dinner on the fourth date?
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    Dates are dates.

    Dinners drinks, parties, chores, are relationships.
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    i know people who dated guys for a couple of years only to find the guy never thought of them as girlfriends... so i'd say until you've had some variation of the "we're monogamous" conversation, just assume you arent and treat the relationship as such

    yup
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    I wouldnt say boyfriend, I would say, exclusivitiy.
  • atjays
    atjays Posts: 797 Member
    Nothing is official until it's on facebook... hahaha

    4 dates doesn't mean much. I'd hope to have been on more than just 4 dates before I label a girl that
  • Generalle
    Generalle Posts: 201 Member
    I wouldn't call a guy my boyfriend until we'd both agreed that's what he was, it's a no brainer to me
  • Neahpata
    Neahpata Posts: 322 Member
    that sounds like some rule most women hope would be true :laugh:

    i know people who dated guys for a couple of years only to find the guy never thought of them as girlfriends... so i'd say until you've had some variation of the "we're monogamous" conversation, just assume you arent and treat the relationship as such

    ^
    ^
    this
  • flimflamfloz
    flimflamfloz Posts: 1,980 Member
    Well... It depends on the context, and where you're starting from.

    It might be true for me, but then again, I normally try to have sex early with the women... So if I see the same girl a lot, I'm moving towards exclusivity with her everyday a little bit.
    Or are you talking about sexless stuff? In which case, I could perfectly imagine dating the girl and another one at the same time.
  • Nerple
    Nerple Posts: 1,291 Member
    (Note, there is a story here, but I'll spare you :wink: )

    I'm dissapointed there is no story being told! I am on this forum to live vicariously through others!
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    Oh hell no, unless she gets pregnant on the fourth date.
  • The_Iron
    The_Iron Posts: 288
    Oh hell no, unless she gets pregnant on the fourth date.

    Hahahaha.

    Hell to the NO.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I've never heard that before...

    If I went out with a guy on a 4th date I'd take it as he's interested but I'd never assume he's committed to me unless we had THE conversation.
  • MyTime1985
    MyTime1985 Posts: 456 Member
    I wouldn't call a guy my boyfriend until we'd both agreed that's what he was, it's a no brainer to me

    Ditto
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    This is where communication comes in handy, lol.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    There's no time limit or date limit as to when it happens. It could happen after 30 minutes, another after 30 weeks. If it's right, they'll know it and will gladly agree upon said title. If not, more work is to be done.
  • poncho33
    poncho33 Posts: 1,511
    False, but I would say it's heading in the right direction after 4 dates
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    Because people are individuals, nothing is static when it comes to relationships (or really, most anything). Certainly nothing should be automatic or assumed when it comes to a change in routine like that. I would say maybe the fourth date is when you start considering/talking about exclusivity and go from there? If you're ready. Or just... roll with it.
  • kimi131
    kimi131 Posts: 1,058 Member
    Dates are dates.

    Dinners drinks, parties, chores, are relationships.

    We've done all of that except chores.
  • kimi131
    kimi131 Posts: 1,058 Member
    Well... It depends on the context, and where you're starting from.

    It might be true for me, but then again, I normally try to have sex early with the women... So if I see the same girl a lot, I'm moving towards exclusivity with her everyday a little bit.
    Or are you talking about sexless stuff? In which case, I could perfectly imagine dating the girl and another one at the same time.

    With... and twelve or thirteen dates actually, not four.
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