Match or Eharmony?
PeekABooGirl
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So I signed up on Match but didn't yet subscribe. In the 24 hrs I've been on there, I've had about 15 winks and now have 5 emails waiting. Looking at profiles on there, doesn't seem much different than POF. SO I'm asking myself if Match is worth paying for - if it's the same perverted peeps as it is on POF, then why would I pay for it? On POF, just YESTERDAY ALONE, I had at least 4 emails that read along the lines of, "Hey, you're so sexy. Give me a chance and you won't be disappointed." REALLY? That's how your introduce yourself to someone who's profile clearly states they're looking for substance in a relationship?? Oh that's right - nobody reads the profiles, do they? Grrrrr.
Is Eharmony any better? More substance perhaps? Or are they are bogged down with those looking for easy hookups?
Is Eharmony any better? More substance perhaps? Or are they are bogged down with those looking for easy hookups?
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My friend is enjoying her eHarmony experience. I caved and signed up thinking I would have the same fun. All I got were really old guys from out of state. :-(
OTOH, I also joined Match and I've met a lot of seemingly nice guys. This is cool because 2 years ago on Match I got a lot of creeps and only a few nice guys. But this time I've met in person 6 guys in the last 2 months (all seemed nice, but most I don't think will work for me so I'm trying to get them to my singles groups hehe) and one more lined up for next week.
I didn't update any of my profile verbiage when I re-opened my account, but I did update my pictures (only lost 14 pounds, so not much of a difference in appearance). The only real difference is this time around I'm not auto-deleting the "hi, how are you" messages. I just respond with a "I'm fine. How are you" and see if they take it from there.
I'm still autodeleting the long canned "you have a nice smile, looking for an amazing woman to walk the beach with" messages and all the creepy sexual messages.0 -
I've done both and prefer match. I like being able to look around. :happy:0
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NEITHER!
(go OUT to meet people)
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Easier said than done when I have 2 young kids living with me 80% of the time.......NEITHER!
(go OUT to meet people)
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You'll find some redundancy between Match & POF, however, actually having to pay for Match cuts down on a lot of the less desirables. POF is more like Walmart - huge selection but mostly poor quality.0
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NEITHER!
(go OUT to meet people)
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Hey! Not everyone is having a bad time online... some of us (especially those of us the guys won't approach in uniform) really benefit from online dating.0 -
Easier said than done when I have 2 young kids living with me 80% of the time.......NEITHER!
(go OUT to meet people)
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Day to day regimen is key. It is hard to date with young kids.0 -
I have not been on match, but tried Eharmony and did NOT like it...painfully slow process and got alot of guys that I had nothing in common with and the ages were crazy...from 27 to 52 (I am 40) and I changed the settings more than once....still crazy age range...and it is expensive.0
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My childhood best friend met her now husband on Eharmony and they are amazingly in love. I also have a friend that met her now husband on POF and they are doing really great too. They both tell me that you just have to be willing to weed through all the bs to find the good guys. They both went on many dates with numerous guys before they found the right one. I gave up on online dating after 2 really disasterous dating experiences and feel that meeting people in person from the start is just better for me personally.0
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I've tried them all. I currently have a POF account and an eHarmony account. I had decided to give eH another shot after being unimpressed the first time. I have had slight more luck the second time, but in general I'm not crazy about it. Really I think all the sites are about the same. You might get fewer creeps on one versus another, but I think you have just as much of a shot meeting someone great on POF as you do eH... or Match or any of the others.0
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I like Match, it has a much larger selection. I've said this before, but when I was on eH I got a bunch of matches the first week or so and then hardly anything. And most of them I really wasn't attracted to, some of them may not have even had subscriptions, and a lot of them didn't even have pictures...and it was a bit expensive. I found myself settling and communicating with people I didn't really have much in common with because I didn't have many options. And online dating is sort of a numbers game, you shouldn't have to settle. I did meet 2 pretty cool people on there though.0
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POF is a freaking wasteland. A buddy of mine convinced me to give it another try recently and I am not impressed. I've also got an OKCupid profile. The latter is much more technically clean and seems to have a higher quality pool of members.
I'm getting fairly jaded on the online dating thing, though. I've met a few cool people on there but none of them top the girls I've met just walking around in public, and absolutely 0 spark for them once actually meeting up.0 -
I haven't tried 'match.com' becuase I couldn't see their prices lol.
I have used POF and just ended a 9 month relationship, but there is alot of crap to weed thru. I got alot of those 'you are sexy wanna hook up' emails. While I was on POF, I joined Eharmony but due to the above relationship I didn't get to use it.
So since they had a sale on, I just re-did my profile and will try again. I think alot of the people can be the same, but maybe on the paid sites you can weed out some of the players?!?! I don't know, the whole process can be frustrating. It is true you have to go thru some duds to find the good ones.
I have lost alot of weight since my last go round, so I am sure I will get more responses. Let's be honest, online dating can be shallow. I hope the matches I am given on EH are better this time around. I agree with some of the other posters about feeling you need to settle on who you reply too.
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Real life. From the guy's perspective, most females there are time wasters. Sure, it could be effective, but even when online is effective, it is horribly inefficient and produces lots of waste (wasted time on lousy dates for women, wasted time for men as well and often wasted money if you're picking up the cost of the activity).
Best thing for meeting people is your day to day regimen. Fixups too are even better.
The bar scene and online are bottom of the barrel.0 -
Real life is easier said than done. I'm out there living....I work on a military base. I've had a couple guys ask me out there, but creepy "hey girl, you look sexy" types. I also work out at the gym, go to my kids' school functions, little league games, go out to the local minor league baseball games, museums, bookstores, festivals, etc. I've smiled and even had nice conversations....and, then their wives or girlfriends walked up. lol
I'm out and about all the time and real life is not working out.... I asked a guy friend about this and he said guys are just too chicken now to ask a woman out. He said it's easier to go on Match, eHarmony or POF and that he even gets more info about the woman before talking to her. Really???0 -
Best thing for meeting people is your day to day regimen. Fixups too are even better.
The bar scene and online are bottom of the barrel.
This would be sound advise if I wanted to date one of the 55-65 year old married men I work with, the neighbor with the psycho ex-husband, or one of the 18-20 year old girls working the check out lane at the grocery store.0 -
Best thing for meeting people is your day to day regimen. Fixups too are even better.
The bar scene and online are bottom of the barrel.
This would be sound advise if I wanted to date one of the 55-65 year old married men I work with, the neighbor with the psycho ex-husband, or one of the 18-20 year old girls working the check out lane at the grocery store.
LOL! Hey man, guys always want younger women. Why not go for one of those 18-20 year old girls at the check out lane? :laugh:
Day to day regimens are not set in stone. I think many people can do some new things in real life to put themselves in closer proximity to the types of women that they desire.0 -
Real life. From the guy's perspective, most females there are time wasters. Sure, it could be effective, but even when online is effective, it is horribly inefficient and produces lots of waste (wasted time on lousy dates for women, wasted time for men as well and often wasted money if you're picking up the cost of the activity).
Best thing for meeting people is your day to day regimen. Fixups too are even better.
The bar scene and online are bottom of the barrel.
only problem with this is I go to work and I go home...that will get worse when I find a part time job...no prospects either place :-(0 -
Best thing for meeting people is your day to day regimen. Fixups too are even better.
The bar scene and online are bottom of the barrel.
This would be sound advise if I wanted to date one of the 55-65 year old married men I work with, the neighbor with the psycho ex-husband, or one of the 18-20 year old girls working the check out lane at the grocery store.
LOL! Hey man, guys always want younger women. Why not go for one of those 18-20 year old girls at the check out lane? :laugh:
Day to day regimens are not set in stone. I think many people can do some new things in real life to put themselves in closer proximity to the types of women that they desire.
DM, In theory I agree with you that meeting people in person to date is best. However, I've been back on the dating scene since January and have yet to meet someone new worth dating in real life. Seems like everyone is married or just not in my age range, or a thousand other factors, and at least I know guys online want to date... Since you preach in-person over online dating so often, do you have any personal success stories or ideas to share with the rest of us? By the way, this is not sarcasm, I'm sincerely interested. I assume you wouldn't be touting it if it hasn't worked for you personally on numerous occasions.0 -
POF is a freaking wasteland. A buddy of mine convinced me to give it another try recently and I am not impressed. I've also got an OKCupid profile. The latter is much more technically clean and seems to have a higher quality pool of members.
I'm getting fairly jaded on the online dating thing, though. I've met a few cool people on there but none of them top the girls I've met just walking around in public, and absolutely 0 spark for them once actually meeting up.
My exact experience0 -
I think for me one of the key thing was stopping for a while to think about the kind of woman I desire.Best thing for meeting people is your day to day regimen. Fixups too are even better.
The bar scene and online are bottom of the barrel.
Day to day regimens are not set in stone. I think many people can do some new things in real life to put themselves in closer proximity to the types of women that they desire.
After that, I have been going to bars, clubs and gigs where the women I want to meet are hanging out... It is easier for me to talk to people with who I am in phase. And the added benefit is that I've also stopped thinking I'm a freak!
All good stuff.0
