Date-speak translations?
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JanieJack
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We all know "let's stay friends" is a euphamism for "I don't wanna see you again, but I'm too nice to say so." What are some other date-speak translations?
What made me think of this question was that I had a great time with the guy I met for lunch today...until the end when he hugged me and said "bye, keep in touch!" So I was surprised later when he texted me saying he hoped we could do one of a couple suggestions later. I wrote back I'd like to, but I didn't expect him to ask since he said "keep in touch" and that translates in date-speak to "I'm not interested but don't wanna hurt your feelings." He sent me a long text about how he had no clue it meant that, how he really did want to see me again.
What made me think of this question was that I had a great time with the guy I met for lunch today...until the end when he hugged me and said "bye, keep in touch!" So I was surprised later when he texted me saying he hoped we could do one of a couple suggestions later. I wrote back I'd like to, but I didn't expect him to ask since he said "keep in touch" and that translates in date-speak to "I'm not interested but don't wanna hurt your feelings." He sent me a long text about how he had no clue it meant that, how he really did want to see me again.
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That's always a kind of awkward moment anyways. If the the guy is interested, he many just be nervous and not want to rush asking for a second date. If he texted you shortly after, he's interested!
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the best thing i have learned ( via reading evan marc katz online blog/ newsletter) is that you need to let some of the stuff guys say slide. especially in the beginning. he does recommend not focusing so much on the words, but on their actions and level of interest. so, he might have said "keep in touch" but since he texted and asked you out again he was showing you he was interested and wanted to see you again, regardless of his " keep in touch!" :-)
i didn't realize that " keep in touch" was code for " not interested."0 -
the best thing i have learned ( via reading evan marc katz online blog/ newsletter) is that you need to let some of the stuff guys say slide. especially in the beginning. he does recommend not focusing so much on the words, but on their actions and level of interest.
Actions speak volumes! Nuf said0 -
yeah, I would have taken that 'keep in touch' as a blow off!
The worst one I had was a guy who arranged a second date. He was on his way round to pick me up. Said he'd be 20mins. Then he text and said there was a death in the family and he had to go to his Mum's.
Never saw him again :laugh:
And no, I dont believe in there was a death...............
I just dont take anything men say on the first few dates too seriously anymore........ :noway:0 -
the best thing i have learned ( via reading evan marc katz online blog/ newsletter) is that you need to let some of the stuff guys say slide. especially in the beginning. he does recommend not focusing so much on the words, but on their actions and level of interest. so, he might have said "keep in touch" but since he texted and asked you out again he was showing you he was interested and wanted to see you again, regardless of his " keep in touch!" :-)
i didn't realize that " keep in touch" was code for " not interested."
After you told me about him I spent the whole night on his site and I pretty much love him! He had some really good advice that I am still thinking about.
And yes, I agree about words not necessarily meaning something. In some cases it might but I think a lot of people get nervous and say stupid things! I know I have. But I think if a guy does, in general, say something about keeping in touch, it means "if you want to see me the ball is your court, and I'm kind of wishy-washy about this whole thing, enough so that I'll wait for you." But that is just me.0 -
Women really do analyze too much! I am not pointing this at you JJ, just my observations after being in the single peeps group for awhile. We (men) really don't think that much about some of what we say. Keep in touch probably really meant I had a good time and want to hear from you!
I was on a 2d date with a woman and she made a comment she almost didn't agree to a 2d date. I was a bit confused and asked what she meant since we had met for coffee but ended up having dinner and a 4 hr date with good conversation. So I asked why she was hesitant. She said when we first met (coffee shop) I had chosen to sit outside and it was warm and we were in the sun and she wrote the date off as a loss based on that.
I was wearing shorts and wasn't that uncomfortable so didn't think much of it.
Anyhow that and a lot of the posts on here really opened my eyes to the analyzing women do and the different ways men and women view/take things.
Bottom line he wasn't blowing you off, we really do make off hand comments and not everything we say deserves to be dissected as a possible turning point!0 -
I don't like being told to keep in touch. It's not that I think it means "I don't want to see you again." I just think it means "If you want to see me again, you're going to have to call me." Which is fine, if you want to be friends. If you want more than that, try harder.0
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Dudes totally over analyze as well...it's definitely not just chicks. True story.0
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'Dudes totally over analyze as well...it's definitely not just chicks. True story.
The statistics are on our sides though.0 -
Dudes totally over analyze as well...it's definitely not just chicks. True story.
True there are I am sure men out there that could be that girl in the He doesn't like you movie waiting by the phone and going over everything said on a date, but not many because as soon as he tried to ask his friends what did she mean when she said, x or y. His friends would slap him! True story0 -
'Dudes totally over analyze as well...it's definitely not just chicks. True story.
The statistics are on our sides though.
Where's your source? Not buying it. 0 -
Dudes totally over analyze as well...it's definitely not just chicks. True story.
True there are I am sure men out there that could be that girl in the He doesn't like you movie waiting by the phone and going over everything said on a date, but not many because as soon as he tried to ask his friends what did she mean when she said, x or y. His friends would slap him! True story
lmao @ he doesn't like you movie...WTG!0 -
'Dudes totally over analyze as well...it's definitely not just chicks. True story.
The statistics are on our sides though.
Where's your source? Not buying it.
Read a few threads here...case closed. :laugh:
As for the topic...
"I am not looking for a relationship right now"
Which means "I am not looking for a relationship or fling with you,now or ever".0 -
'Dudes totally over analyze as well...it's definitely not just chicks. True story.
The statistics are on our sides though.
Where's your source? Not buying it.
Read a few threads here...case closed. :laugh:
As for the topic...
"I am not looking for a relationship right now"
Which means "I am not looking for a relationship or fling with you,now or ever".
BOOM! Don't second guess Carl he knows!0 -
It'd be nice if everyone was a bit more real and said what was on their minds. If you don't want to see someone again, just say so. Just say that we're not compatible. Never give false expectations. Easier said than done.0
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From a man's perspective:
"Hey, do you want have a drink back at mine? / I've got to show you this [object name] I was talking about earlier... Come back to mine." = Get naked b!tch. Ooooh those tits...
"Oh no no no. I really like you... You're a really nice girl (but...)" = Damn, you're ugly... Your pics didn't look like you AT ALL.
"Hey what's up?" (via text) = OK... How am I going to reconnect with this girl?! She's better give me a hook in her f'in text when she replies or I'll have a hard time bouncing back on it. From then hopefully I can plan the next date.
"Can we do Wednesday instead?" (via text) = She'll think I'm a busy bee ahaha. I'm such a winner! Now let's go back to Youtube. Maybe some porn later? Where are her pics again...
"Small tits" = big @ss. Otherwise I'd be gone.
"I'm a work hard play - hard kind of person" = I hate my f'in job, life is hard. So I get pissed every night to forget about it...
"Uhuh... Uhuh..." (nodding while the girl is talking) = zZzZz damn what is she talking about? I can't even remember when she started talking. She's boring. But hot. But boring. Hmmm... Wonder if I can still at least try to have sex with her? Not sure. Man... ****! She just asked me a question. Think think think... Say something smart NOWWWW!!!
"You're funny!" = Shut up.
"You've got an amazing personality/You seem like a very intelligent girl!" = Fck! She's hot... Like really really hot. Do not tell her she's hot. Make her believe you're interested for other reasons or you're doomed man! I'm smart.
"Should we get another beer?" = My ears need a rest.
"Should we go to yours?" = I forgot to clean my room, there are clothes everywhere... And maybe even condoms stuck on the walls. I think yours is a better bet.
"My dog died next Friday. I won't be able to have a date with you on that day." = I don't even care about finding good excuses anymore. Leave me alone, never call again.
"I'm blind" (man touches tits) = I'm not blind, I'm just desperate. Take pity on me.
"I understand... It's fine you want to take things slowly." = Why don't you want to have sex already!!!??
These are truer than you think.0 -
From a man's perspective:
"Hey, do you want have a drink back at mine? / I've got to show you this [object name] I was talking about earlier... Come back to mine." = Get naked b!tch. Ooooh those tits...
"Oh no no no. I really like you... You're a really nice girl (but...)" = Damn, you're ugly... Your pics didn't look like you AT ALL.
"Hey what's up?" (via text) = OK... How am I going to reconnect with this girl?! She's better give me a hook in her f'in text when she replies or I'll have a hard time bouncing back on it. From then hopefully I can plan the next date.
"Can we do Wednesday instead?" (via text) = She'll think I'm a busy bee ahaha. I'm such a winner! Now let's go back to Youtube. Maybe some porn later? Where are her pics again...
"Small tits" = big @ss. Otherwise I'd be gone.
"I'm a work hard play - hard kind of person" = I hate my f'in job, life is hard. So I get pissed every night to forget about it...
"Uhuh... Uhuh..." (nodding while the girl is talking) = zZzZz damn what is she talking about? I can't even remember when she started talking. She's boring. But hot. But boring. Hmmm... Wonder if I can still at least try to have sex with her? Not sure. Man... ****! She just asked me a question. Think think think... Say something smart NOWWWW!!!
"You're funny!" = Shut up.
"You've got an amazing personality/You seem like a very intelligent girl!" = Fck! She's hot... Like really really hot. Do not tell her she's hot. Make her believe you're interested for other reasons or you're doomed man! I'm smart.
"Should we get another beer?" = My ears need a rest.
"Should we go to yours?" = I forgot to clean my room, there are clothes everywhere... And maybe even condoms stuck on the walls. I think yours is a better bet.
"My dog died next Friday. I won't be able to have a date with you on that day." = I don't even care about finding good excuses anymore. Leave me alone, never call again.
"I'm blind" (man touches tits) = I'm not blind, I'm just desperate. Take pity on me.
"I understand... It's fine you want to take things slowly." = Why don't you want to have sex already!!!??
These are truer than you think.
Lol. Dont let out all the secrets hahaha0 -
From a man's perspective:
"Hey, do you want have a drink back at mine? / I've got to show you this [object name] I was talking about earlier... Come back to mine." = Get naked b!tch. Ooooh those tits...
"Oh no no no. I really like you... You're a really nice girl (but...)" = Damn, you're ugly... Your pics didn't look like you AT ALL.
"Hey what's up?" (via text) = OK... How am I going to reconnect with this girl?! She's better give me a hook in her f'in text when she replies or I'll have a hard time bouncing back on it. From then hopefully I can plan the next date.
"Can we do Wednesday instead?" (via text) = She'll think I'm a busy bee ahaha. I'm such a winner! Now let's go back to Youtube. Maybe some porn later? Where are her pics again...
"Small tits" = big @ss. Otherwise I'd be gone.
"I'm a work hard play - hard kind of person" = I hate my f'in job, life is hard. So I get pissed every night to forget about it...
"Uhuh... Uhuh..." (nodding while the girl is talking) = zZzZz damn what is she talking about? I can't even remember when she started talking. She's boring. But hot. But boring. Hmmm... Wonder if I can still at least try to have sex with her? Not sure. Man... ****! She just asked me a question. Think think think... Say something smart NOWWWW!!!
"You're funny!" = Shut up.
"You've got an amazing personality/You seem like a very intelligent girl!" = Fck! She's hot... Like really really hot. Do not tell her she's hot. Make her believe you're interested for other reasons or you're doomed man! I'm smart.
"Should we get another beer?" = My ears need a rest.
"Should we go to yours?" = I forgot to clean my room, there are clothes everywhere... And maybe even condoms stuck on the walls. I think yours is a better bet.
"My dog died next Friday. I won't be able to have a date with you on that day." = I don't even care about finding good excuses anymore. Leave me alone, never call again.
"I'm blind" (man touches tits) = I'm not blind, I'm just desperate. Take pity on me.
"I understand... It's fine you want to take things slowly." = Why don't you want to have sex already!!!??
These are truer than you think.
Lol. Dont let out all the secrets hahaha
Dude, turn over your man-card. You are a man-traitor.
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From a man's perspective:
"Hey, do you want have a drink back at mine? / I've got to show you this [object name] I was talking about earlier... Come back to mine." = Get naked b!tch. Ooooh those tits...
"Oh no no no. I really like you... You're a really nice girl (but...)" = Damn, you're ugly... Your pics didn't look like you AT ALL.
"Hey what's up?" (via text) = OK... How am I going to reconnect with this girl?! She's better give me a hook in her f'in text when she replies or I'll have a hard time bouncing back on it. From then hopefully I can plan the next date.
"Can we do Wednesday instead?" (via text) = She'll think I'm a busy bee ahaha. I'm such a winner! Now let's go back to Youtube. Maybe some porn later? Where are her pics again...
"Small tits" = big @ss. Otherwise I'd be gone.
"I'm a work hard play - hard kind of person" = I hate my f'in job, life is hard. So I get pissed every night to forget about it...
"Uhuh... Uhuh..." (nodding while the girl is talking) = zZzZz damn what is she talking about? I can't even remember when she started talking. She's boring. But hot. But boring. Hmmm... Wonder if I can still at least try to have sex with her? Not sure. Man... ****! She just asked me a question. Think think think... Say something smart NOWWWW!!!
"You're funny!" = Shut up.
"You've got an amazing personality/You seem like a very intelligent girl!" = Fck! She's hot... Like really really hot. Do not tell her she's hot. Make her believe you're interested for other reasons or you're doomed man! I'm smart.
"Should we get another beer?" = My ears need a rest.
"Should we go to yours?" = I forgot to clean my room, there are clothes everywhere... And maybe even condoms stuck on the walls. I think yours is a better bet.
"My dog died next Friday. I won't be able to have a date with you on that day." = I don't even care about finding good excuses anymore. Leave me alone, never call again.
"I'm blind" (man touches tits) = I'm not blind, I'm just desperate. Take pity on me.
"I understand... It's fine you want to take things slowly." = Why don't you want to have sex already!!!??
These are truer than you think.
DUDES ARE NOT THE ONLY ONES WHO USE THESE:laugh: TRUE STORY.....OR STORIES RATHER:bigsmile:0 -
Flam! You just gave away all my secrets.
I don't think "Keep in touch" really means anything. Sometimes I say things like that and when I look back on it I know it probably wasn't the best choice of words. If he wants to see you again he'll call, you can't take everything people say so literally.0 -
Now I wouldn't have taken the "keep in touch" as a brush off... but I would have thought (over thought) he's not THAT into me.0
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Dudes totally over analyze as well...it's definitely not just chicks. True story.
True there are I am sure men out there that could be that girl in the He doesn't like you movie waiting by the phone and going over everything said on a date, but not many because as soon as he tried to ask his friends what did she mean when she said, x or y. His friends would slap him! True story
Haha!!
Smiley said it took him about 45 minutes to write me that 1st message on POF.. true story. He said he kept stressing out about it and overthinking (didn't want to come on too strong, like a creeper, perv, etc).0 -
"We need to slow things down" -- normally means you've already gotten on my nerves past redemption, so I'm easing you out of the "relationship."
"I promised my girlfriends I would hang out with them this weekend" -- a guilt-free way of getting out of plans with a dude who asks you out on a date.
"I haven't spent that much quality time with my dogs this week. I think I will stay home and relax this weekend with them!" -- lets me be labeled as the crazy dog lady and hopefully starts to scare the guy away a little bit.
"I was so drunk last night, I don't remember anything" -- if I texted you last night/anything happened between us, it was meaningless and get that damn apple out of your eye.
"Well I've got to get ready for (insert random volunteer event here), so I'll talk to ya later" -- easy way to get a guy/girl out of your house. who can get mad at you for volunteering?0 -
Don't forget some female translations:
"No" - yes (Haha, sorry, just had to throw that one in there)
"I'm fine" - I'm so NOT fine
"You're a nice guy" - you lack confidence
"I'll call you later" - I won't call you later
"I'm not going to sleep with you tonight" - I'm thinking about sleeping with you tonight
"I'm focusing on my career right now" - My life sucks because I can't find a man
"My mom is my best friend" - I have no close friends
"I'd love to hang out but I have too much to do" - You are lower on my things to do list than doing laundry
"I just want to take things slow" - I don't really like you that much, or I'm seeing 5 other people
"I don't care, where do you want to eat?" - You make a suggestion so I can shoot down all of your ideas
"I hung out with my girlfriends" - I had a lesbian orgy (okay that one was just a fantasy)0 -
Don't forget some female translations:
"No" - yes (Haha, sorry, just had to throw that one in there)
"I'm fine" - I'm so NOT fine
"You're a nice guy" - you lack confidence
"I'll call you later" - I won't call you later
"I'm not going to sleep with you tonight" - I'm thinking about sleeping with you tonight
"I'm focusing on my career right now" - My life sucks because I can't find a man
"My mom is my best friend" - I have no close friends
"I'd love to hang out but I have too much to do" - You are lower on my things to do list than doing laundry
"I just want to take things slow" - I don't really like you that much, or I'm seeing 5 other people
"I don't care, where do you want to eat?" - You make a suggestion so I can shoot down all of your ideas
"I hung out with my girlfriends" - I had a lesbian orgy (okay that one was just a fantasy)
I'm going to open a restaurant called "I don't care"
Then guys will ALWAYS win.0 -
Don't forget some female translations:
"No" - yes (Haha, sorry, just had to throw that one in there)
"I'm fine" - I'm so NOT fine
"You're a nice guy" - you lack confidence
"I'll call you later" - I won't call you later
"I'm not going to sleep with you tonight" - I'm thinking about sleeping with you tonight
"I'm focusing on my career right now" - My life sucks because I can't find a man
"My mom is my best friend" - I have no close friends
"I'd love to hang out but I have too much to do" - You are lower on my things to do list than doing laundry
"I just want to take things slow" - I don't really like you that much, or I'm seeing 5 other people
"I don't care, where do you want to eat?" - You make a suggestion so I can shoot down all of your ideas
"I hung out with my girlfriends" - I had a lesbian orgy (okay that one was just a fantasy)
I'm going to open a restaurant called "I don't care"
Then guys will ALWAYS win.
I make that one pretty easy. My response is always "I'm a big fan of red meat." If he doesn't get that, he doesn't get me.0 -
I had a great time with the guy I met for lunch today...until the end when he hugged me and said "bye, keep in touch!" So I was surprised later when he texted me saying he hoped we could do one of a couple suggestions later. I wrote back I'd like to, but I didn't expect him to ask since he said "keep in touch" and that translates in date-speak to "I'm not interested but don't wanna hurt your feelings." He sent me a long text about how he had no clue it meant that, how he really did want to see me again.
FWIW, I never saw this guy again.0 -
FWIW, I never saw this guy again.
Hmm, interesting?! So maybe he subconsciously realized that it wasn't a good fit before he mentally did?! Haha, OK, never mind, he's a guy...0 -
I've got one:
"You're funny, and really nice! But I just got out of a relationship recently and am not ready for anything yet."
This is a paraphrase of the response from a girl I met about a week and a half ago, who I was hoping to meet up with again last weekend.
What it translates to in my mind is:
"I'm going to find someone better looking to be my rebound."
Needless to say, I won't be wasting my time trying to woo her.0 -
I've got one:
"You're funny, and really nice! But I just got out of a relationship recently and am not ready for anything yet."
This is a paraphrase of the response from a girl I met about a week and a half ago, who I was hoping to meet up with again last weekend.
What it translates to in my mind is:
"I'm going to find someone better looking to be my rebound."
Needless to say, I won't be wasting my time trying to woo her.
I've said something similar before, to someone I saw as having real potential and I didn't want to just use as a rebound. Rebounds are disposable. FWIW, I should have just used him, he wasn't worth waiting for, and kind of turned me against younger guys.0
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