It's still "no sex," so what difference does it make?

JanieJack

I REALLY appreicate the encouragement over starbucks/bodybuilder guy moving on after he found out I was deploying, and I just wanted to explain real quick why it doesn't bother me: I don't hold hard feelings against a man who won't wait for sex (indeed I appreciate his honesty, even though I feel it's his loss), so I won't hold hard feelings against a man who won't wait to develop a relationship.

This guy eventually wants to get married... I guess there wasn't enough he saw in me in the 2 months we've been getting to know each other to make it worth his while to put that on hold 8 months when he could continue looking for his next wife. And I really don't blame him. Though I will be tempted to see if he's still single when I get back ;-)

christine24t

I have to admire that he was honest about the whole thing, rather than saying one thing and doing another behind your back. I think that if you got back and he was still single, you should go for him again!

AnnaPixie

A lot can happen in 8 months.

If its meant to be, it will be! :flowerforyou:

MNchick

*sigh*...the military aspect always throws a little drama into the mix, doesn't it?

I have been in for almost 13 years and have always been the one 'left back home' as far as deployments/TDYs go...and have never had it work out well.

I'm impressed that he was upfront about it (but wouldn't be above chuckling if he were still single when you get back). I admire and respect your positive attitude...if you need any awesome care packages, let me know!

JanieJack

I have been in for almost 13 years and have always been the one 'left back home' as far as deployments/TDYs go...and have never had it work out well.

A friend's dad runs a dating advice website, and he always says that men don't do long distance well because they need to reach out and touch their woman. Judging by how many of my (our?) coworkers cheat while TDY I would say this is true.

I try to stay positive by considering that my next assignment will be my retirement assignment and so I'll be able to put down roots and hopefully find someone I can share a life with. And if I find that someone sooner than bonus!

castadiva

I agree - at least he was direct about it, rather than saying what he thought you might have wanted to hear. Ditto on the care packages, btw - anything you fancy from the UK/France/Italy? I have cousins and friends deployed with the UK forces, and they always tell me how much they love getting parcels and what a difference it can make.

MNchick

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A friend's dad runs a dating advice website, and he always says that men don't do long distance well because they need to reach out and touch their woman. Judging by how many of my (our?) coworkers cheat while TDY I would say this is true.

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Totally agree...I've been nothing but disgusted at how everyone (both men and women) were acting at both the promotion schools I've been to so far. I just don't understand it

Good luck on your next assignment...I have at least 2 left