Posting income in dating profiles...?

jesusHchris

I've always left that section blank in my online dating profiles. I happen to have a career with a fairly high income and have done this for two reasons:

1.) I don't want to look like a douche bragging
2.) I'm not looking for someone who just wants a guy with cash

I've been thinking about it, though. A huge part of my life and personality is my motivation to advance my career, and I guess you could argue that it says a lot about who I am.

What are your thoughts? Girls, how (if at all) does this section of someone's profile affect your view of them? Be honest. I know that people swear up and down that they ignore this type of thing but I'm not buying that. We all judge constantly and then maybe try to filter that judging out in our minds based on our own values and morals, but the judging is still there.

Thanks!

catherine4211

When I tried the online dating thing I did look at that section. I just wanted to see if they made equal or more than what I make. Money isn't a huge deal but I'm not looking for a guy that makes minimum wage that will want to move into my house and mooch off me. The first guy I dated after my divorce didn't have a steady job. In the beginning I was fine with it but after a while it got very annoying.

poncho33

I've always left that section blank in my online dating profiles. I happen to have a career with a fairly high income and have done this for two reasons:

1.) I don't want to look like a douche bragging
2.) I'm not looking for someone who just wants a guy with cash

I've been thinking about it, though. A huge part of my life and personality is my motivation to advance my career, and I guess you could argue that it says a lot about who I am.

What are your thoughts? Girls, how (if at all) does this section of someone's profile affect your view of them? Be honest. I know that people swear up and down that they ignore this type of thing but I'm not buying that. We all judge constantly and then maybe try to filter that judging out in our minds based on our own values and morals, but the judging is still there.

Thanks!

Why not fill in that section and see how it goes... if it's good leave it and if bad take it out.

mrmanmeat

I've always left that section blank in my online dating profiles. I happen to have a career with a fairly high income and have done this for two reasons:

1.) I don't want to look like a douche bragging
2.) I'm not looking for someone who just wants a guy with cash

I've been thinking about it, though. A huge part of my life and personality is my motivation to advance my career, and I guess you could argue that it says a lot about who I am.

What are your thoughts? Girls, how (if at all) does this section of someone's profile affect your view of them? Be honest. I know that people swear up and down that they ignore this type of thing but I'm not buying that. We all judge constantly and then maybe try to filter that judging out in our minds based on our own values and morals, but the judging is still there.

Thanks!

I wouldn't date someone just because they had money. I also wouldn't not date someone based on it. But if they're relying on other people at this point in our lives, it says something more about them. If it's a rough patch, so be it. That's fine.

I'm a dude, but I wanted to type

Miss_Chievous_wechange

I do not include that in my profile. That is something that can always be discussed later if I end up meeting someone.

MissingMinnesota

I will look at type of job before I look at the actual income. I want someone that is at least equal to me in the job situation.

2stepz

I don't pay attention to the number, but I do pay attention to the occupation. I basically want to make sure someone has a career, not just a food service or retail job. (Student is acceptable, too.)

JanieJack

I don't even look at it anymore, to be honest because it triggers my insecurities and scares me away from going out.

If a guy makes less than me (usually), I get worried they aren't going to want to be with me when they find out what I do and what I make (which often happens), or, if they do "like me" it's only because they're looking for a sugar mama. If a guy makes more than me (happens sometimes) then I get worried they aren't going to want to be with me long term since they have the buying power to get a younger, thinner, prettier girl.

Maybe both cases are over-analyzing ...idk... but since I know I get wrapped around that I might as well take it out of the equation.

The only things I look at are pictures and if they are divorced, single, or separated. I only actually go back and read it if we're actually gonna go out (only about 10% ever do).

mrmanmeat

I don't even look at it anymore, to be honest because it triggers my insecurities and scares me away from going out.

If a guy makes less than me (usually), I get worried they aren't going to want to be with me when they find out what I do and what I make (which often happens), or, if they do "like me" it's only because they're looking for a sugar mama. If a guy makes more than me (happens sometimes) then I get worried they aren't going to want to be with me long term since they have the buying power to get a younger, thinner, prettier girl.

Maybe both cases are over-analyzing ...idk... but since I know I get wrapped around that I might as well take it out of the equation.

The only things I look at are pictures and if they are divorced, single, or separated. I only actually go back and read it if we're actually gonna go out (only about 10% ever do).

Yes, over analyzing. With out even giving the situation a chance.

Mist1981

When I did the online dating I did include it in my profile, and I did look if it was in theirs. However it was never a deal breaker for me! I looked more on their occupation, if they smoked, drank, had kids, did for fun, and appearances first.

BelMckenzie

I admit I look but it doesn't faze me unless they aren't working or working a mimium wage job with no ambition. I am a very motivated individual and expect the same out of a partner. Leaving that area blank is fine as well, I won't judge someone on having it blank- my income is blank on my dating profile.

ItsCasey

How much money I make is not the business of any man I am dating until we're talking about combining our incomes (i.e. marriage). I am well-educated. I have a good job. These are indicative of my work ethic, ability to support myself, and lack of desire to mooch off anyone else. That is all a dating prospect is entitled to know. Likewise, that's all I care to know about him in the beginning.

Moe4572

I don't look at it........in fact, POF doesn't have a spot for income and that is the site I use the most. I do look at the occupation, though.

oddyogi

I've always left that section blank in my online dating profiles. I happen to have a career with a fairly high income and have done this for two reasons:

1.) I don't want to look like a douche bragging
2.) I'm not looking for someone who just wants a guy with cash

I've been thinking about it, though. A huge part of my life and personality is my motivation to advance my career, and I guess you could argue that it says a lot about who I am.

What are your thoughts? Girls, how (if at all) does this section of someone's profile affect your view of them? Be honest. I know that people swear up and down that they ignore this type of thing but I'm not buying that. We all judge constantly and then maybe try to filter that judging out in our minds based on our own values and morals, but the judging is still there.

Thanks!

Hey there. How you doin'? :happy:

Lol, just kidding.. but seriously when it comes to money, I will date somebody who makes a lot of it or doesn't make a lot of it. As long as they have goals that they are working towards or have goals that they've already accomplished, and as long as they're happy.

I do have to admit though, if I find out a guy is well-off in the job department, and he's not a total *kitten* because of being "loaded," then it is kind of a relief to know that money won't be a burden (because I make decent money myself).

After being married twice, I can honestly say I will never do a joint checking account ever again.

PedmomJill

I list it in mine and I like it if a guy lists it also. It's a big enough range usually that it's just that-a range. It's not the exact amount of money I earn.

The reason it's important to me is that I want to be with someone that can also afford to travel and go OUT. I've dated someone that had no money and it came down to if I wanted to go out for dinner, I knew I would be paying. Every time. I believe in sharing the costs of the fun we have together, and if my income is pretty far above the guy I'm dating, chances are we aren't going to be doing much traveling and other things that cost money.

TheKitsune6

If it's posted I look, and I combine that information with other information - what field does he work in? Is he currently in school? Is he driven and ambitious? Income can reflect that, but it's silly to make a decision based on that alone - especially considering there's no way to prove someone isn't lying.

natvanessa

Honestly, If I do look at that section, I take it with a grain of salt. A lot of guys I've noticed put that they make over $1M or whatever (and you know that can't be true). I just don't take it seriously.

When I meet the guy I def get a better feeling of what their job is, how much they make anyway (and I really don't care that much! As long as they don't mooch off me I could care less!!)

Nerple

When my income jumped significantly a couple years ago I put it on my OKCupid profile just to see how ti turned out. After a couple weeks of no change and feeling douchey I deleted it again,

PedmomJill

When my income jumped significantly a couple years ago I put it on my OKCupid profile just to see how ti turned out. After a couple weeks of no change and feeling douchey I deleted it again,

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j4nash

Just put your income requirements high or near your level. Depends really on what you're looking for though. For me not having a good income is a deal-breaker.

TheKitsune6

Just put your income requirements high or near your level. Depends really on what you're looking for though. For me not having a good income is a deal-breaker.

"Good" or "reliable"? Because the former is arbitrary

whitehandlady

i don't care ...........as long as he makes enough to pay his own bills and keep himself up...............i have always supported myself

and my son.....raised him for 18 years without financial aide from a man
(for 14 of those 18 yrs)


i like it that way....all i want is not to have to pay a dudes way through life.............