Act Like A Lady - Think Like A Man
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90 day please ........ giving yourself a specific time frame of how long you are going to wait to get twirly ruins it..... What if you miss the best twirl of your life because you hadnt hit the 90 day mark......
Personally I think the only one who can tell you when your ready is you
This isn't speaking for everybody here.. just speaking from what this one person told me. A guy friend told me his ex made him wait 2 months. Cool.
He figured it was going to be GOOD HOT sex due to the wait.
They finally did it and he said he had never been so disappointed in his life.
I know I'm good at what I do
.. so if I did wait 2 months, 6 months, a year with a guy, it'd be GOOD.. but that's just me. 0 -
Anybody could go 90 days with the right mindset.
And, apparently, most of the divorced men I meet say they went years without any in their marriage
Please, I went 2 1/2 years. lol
i went 5 months!
When she says she went 2 1/2 years, you don't come in here w/ your 5 months lol. You've lost already. lol0 -
The same thing happened to my friend. Although it was 2+ years. lol90 day please ........ giving yourself a specific time frame of how long you are going to wait to get twirly ruins it..... What if you miss the best twirl of your life because you hadnt hit the 90 day mark......
Personally I think the only one who can tell you when your ready is you
This isn't speaking for everybody here.. just speaking from what this one person told me. A guy friend told me with his ex made him wait 2 months. Cool.
He figured it was going to be GOOD HOT sex due to the wait.
They finally did it and he said he had never been so disappointed in his life.
I know I'm good at what I do .. so if I did wait 2 months, 6 months, a year with a guy, it'd be GOOD.. but that's just me.
If I can sleep with someone on the first date, the relationship will never be serious. Just my opinion.0 -
Anybody could go 90 days with the right mindset.
And, apparently, most of the divorced men I meet say they went years without any in their marriage
Please, I went 2 1/2 years. lol
i went 5 months!
When she says she went 2 1/2 years, you don't come in here w/ your 5 months lol. You've lost already. lol
LOL true but I was just sayin'... hahaha0 -
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The same thing happened to my friend. Although it was 2+ years. lol
If I can sleep with someone on the first date, the relationship will never be serious. Just my opinion.
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I feel the same way. But I also feel like 90 days is a long time...too long for me...especially if you are seeing each other 2-3 times a week...0 -
I have to kind of chuckle here because so many ladies are saying 90 days...WHAT???? yet on other threads many ladies talk about how they need to wait for commitment and an emotional connection and how that can take months. :laugh:0
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The same thing happened to my friend. Although it was 2+ years. lol90 day please ........ giving yourself a specific time frame of how long you are going to wait to get twirly ruins it..... What if you miss the best twirl of your life because you hadnt hit the 90 day mark......
Personally I think the only one who can tell you when your ready is you
This isn't speaking for everybody here.. just speaking from what this one person told me. A guy friend told me with his ex made him wait 2 months. Cool.
He figured it was going to be GOOD HOT sex due to the wait.
They finally did it and he said he had never been so disappointed in his life.
I know I'm good at what I do .. so if I did wait 2 months, 6 months, a year with a guy, it'd be GOOD.. but that's just me.
If I can sleep with someone on the first date, the relationship will never be serious. Just my opinion.
you see, that's my point. I could never wait that long and up with someone totally incompatible. And as for marrying him first - OMG!! :noway: But each to their own. It works both ways.
So, how long do you think you/she should wait before you take her seriously then Mack? :smokin:0 -
If I can sleep with someone on the first date, the relationship will never be serious. Just my opinion.
What about the 3rd? 4th? 10th? 0 -
If I can sleep with someone on the first date, the relationship will never be serious. Just my opinion.
What about the 3rd? 4th? 10th?
Then that's fine, which is why I simply said the first.0 -
I wouldn't sleep with a man within 90 days. I'm not going to judge anyone who does, other than the women who sleep with someone right away and then, when he never calls again, whine about he just used them for sex. I judge those people as stupid. But if a guy is going to walk away because I wouldn't sleep with him before I was ready, then it stood no chance of being the best sex of my life.
If sex is mostly or completely a physical act to you, then go ahead and get yours. But I just don't buy the sexual compatibility argument from the people who talk about how you need to "test drive" someone before you commit. That's such a load. Most couples need some time and practice before they get into a sexual groove. That isn't the issue. Are you physically attracted to each other? Do you have working parts? Do you know what to do with them? If you answered yes to these questions, then you're sexually compatible. The end.0 -
I say wait 90 minutes, you gotta be sure!! :laugh:
Hahaha! Yes!
Yeah 90 days would be easy. For a while back in my mid 20's I was soooooo single for a long time.. I think I went 3 years without... I made up for that last year though 0 -
I wouldn't sleep with a man within 90 days. I'm not going to judge anyone who does, other than the women who sleep with someone right away and then, when he never calls again, whine about he just used them for sex. I judge those people as stupid. But if a guy is going to walk away because I wouldn't sleep with him before I was ready, then it stood no chance of being the best sex of my life.
If sex is mostly or completely a physical act to you, then go ahead and get yours. But I just don't buy the sexual compatibility argument from the people who talk about how you need to "test drive" someone before you commit. That's such a load. Most couples need some time and practice before they get into a sexual groove. That isn't the issue. Are you physically attracted to each other? Do you have working parts? Do you know what to do with them? If you answered yes to these questions, then you're sexually compatible. The end.
You said it perfectly.0 -
If sex is mostly or completely a physical act to you, then go ahead and get yours. But I just don't buy the sexual compatibility argument from the people who talk about how you need to "test drive" someone before you commit. That's such a load. Most couples need some time and practice before they get into a sexual groove. That isn't the issue. Are you physically attracted to each other? Do you have working parts? Do you know what to do with them? If you answered yes to these questions, then you're sexually compatible. The end.
I disagree, that is incorrect in saying that any member of the opposite sex that you are attracted to, you are going to have a good sex life with. I have been attracted to all the girls Ive been with, does that mean all of the sex was awesome? Nope. Some of it was terrible or there is no sexual connection, some of it was mind blowingly amazing!
Would you disagree... probably..0 -
while i was married there were often times when it was MONTHS!! and not because i was saying no....... after the separation/ divorce it was years!! some people can wait, some people can't ;-)0
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If sex is mostly or completely a physical act to you, then go ahead and get yours. But I just don't buy the sexual compatibility argument from the people who talk about how you need to "test drive" someone before you commit. That's such a load. Most couples need some time and practice before they get into a sexual groove. That isn't the issue. Are you physically attracted to each other? Do you have working parts? Do you know what to do with them? If you answered yes to these questions, then you're sexually compatible. The end.
For once, I have to completely disagree with you. If you want something that the other person is unwilling or unable to do then that can seriously affect sexual compatibility - which is turn seriously affects the entire relationship. I would, personally, never commit long term to a person if I didn't know we could have great sex. On the flip side, if sex just isn't that important to you then yeah, whatever floats your boat, but to generalize and say that just because we have functioning bits we can have good sex.0 -
If sex is mostly or completely a physical act to you, then go ahead and get yours. But I just don't buy the sexual compatibility argument from the people who talk about how you need to "test drive" someone before you commit. That's such a load. Most couples need some time and practice before they get into a sexual groove. That isn't the issue. Are you physically attracted to each other? Do you have working parts? Do you know what to do with them? If you answered yes to these questions, then you're sexually compatible. The end.
For once, I have to completely disagree with you. If you want something that the other person is unwilling or unable to do then that can seriously affect sexual compatibility - which is turn seriously affects the entire relationship. I would, personally, never commit long term to a person if I didn't know we could have great sex. On the flip side, if sex just isn't that important to you then yeah, whatever floats your boat, but to generalize and say that just because we have functioning bits we can have good sex.
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Define "serious" because I'm stumped here. Anyway, it hasn't been my experience, I guess because for me sex isn't "sacred" - so there is no "loss of value" by having sex on the first date.If I can sleep with someone on the first date, the relationship will never be serious. Just my opinion.
Does that account for sexual practices such as spanking, strangulation, S&M and coprophilia?If sex is mostly or completely a physical act to you, then go ahead and get yours. But I just don't buy the sexual compatibility argument from the people who talk about how you need to "test drive" someone before you commit. That's such a load. Most couples need some time and practice before they get into a sexual groove. That isn't the issue. Are you physically attracted to each other? Do you have working parts? Do you know what to do with them? If you answered yes to these questions, then you're sexually compatible. The end.
I prefer personally when I don't need time and practice before getting in a sexual groove, that's what I would call being sexually compatible (also do you share the same preference, are you after the same role in bed or different roles, etc.)...0 -
If sex is mostly or completely a physical act to you, then go ahead and get yours. But I just don't buy the sexual compatibility argument from the people who talk about how you need to "test drive" someone before you commit. That's such a load. Most couples need some time and practice before they get into a sexual groove. That isn't the issue. Are you physically attracted to each other? Do you have working parts? Do you know what to do with them? If you answered yes to these questions, then you're sexually compatible. The end.Does that account for sexual practices such as spanking, strangulation, S&M and coprophilia?
I prefer personally when I don't need time and practice before getting in a sexual groove, that's what I would call being sexually compatible (also do you share the same preference, are you after the same role in bed or different roles, etc.)...
OMG I nearly spat my tea out!!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: What about the scat one Florian??? :laugh:
But yes, indeed jq, Florian has a very valid point. And the only reason I can be so sure about it is because of my experience with men. Some are deviants/perverse/whatever you want to call it. That's not to say that you won't like it (eg you might very well love being called a *kitten* in the bedroom), but unless you're compatible with the same kink, there is going to be a problem.
I really hope you dont end up with someone perverse. Fetishes are very common. And I guess, unless you sleep with a guy who has them, and you don't, then you wouldnt consider it. At the very least, have a discussion with him about it before you marry him!! :flowerforyou:
ETA: And it goes both ways, the man may find the woman's fetishes/habits/lack of adventure/whatever unbearable too!!0 -
^^ haha I haven't found any yet :laugh: 0
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I have to kind of chuckle here because so many ladies are saying 90 days...WHAT???? yet on other threads many ladies talk about how they need to wait for commitment and an emotional connection and how that can take months. :laugh:
It can take months.. but not all the time (obviously for me it didn't!!! :bigsmile: )
I got my committment first then soon after I felt an emotional connection which doesn't mean I was in love with him.. but I felt something more than 'this is just sex'.
And it has been!0 -
I have to kind of chuckle here because so many ladies are saying 90 days...WHAT???? yet on other threads many ladies talk about how they need to wait for commitment and an emotional connection and how that can take months. :laugh:
It can take months.. but not all the time (obviously for me it didn't!!! :bigsmile: )
I got my committment first then soon after I felt an emotional connection which doesn't mean I was in love with him.. but I felt something more than 'this is just sex'.
And it has been!
It just seems often the narrative changes with the context of the topic.
If I start a thread next week saying that a woman needs to decide if she has connected with me by date certain whether it is within 90 days or less and that means she needs to sleep with me or forget about it all I will be told endlessly how crude that is.0 -
Most couples need some time and practice before they get into a sexual groove. That isn't the issue. Are you physically attracted to each other? Do you have working parts? Do you know what to do with them? If you answered yes to these questions, then you're sexually compatible.
One thing I would add to this is a *willing mindset* to please your partner. You can both have all the working parts, but that doesn't mean both will come away with enjoyment.0
