Boys and Piercings

KimmyEB

If I did have a son, and he wanted a piercing, I'd let him, on the grounds that he takes care of it himself, and if he doesn't, then it will be taken out for health reasons. Otherwise, he can go for it.

SarahMorganP

I do not have different rules for different sex children in my house. Anyone can get their ears pierced once they are 12. Anyone can wear makeup (though I hope neither sex want to, I hate that stuff and don't own any or ever wear it) once they are old enough to buy it on their own. Anyone can wear dresses or pants, or any style of clothing as long as they are covered. No short shorts, no belly showing shirts, no mini skirts, on either sex child. Anyone can have any hairstyle they want, and once old enough to pay for it, any color hair they want. Anyone can wear nail polish of any color.

I don't understand different rules for different sex children. At all. If my son decides to wear a dress to school and he gets picked on for it he will learn a lesson, a sad lesson that is caused by people who care about that kind of thing. And then he will get to decide for himself if the reaction he got is worth him being himself. He will decide if wearing a dress is something that is important enough to him to keep doing, and try to change the opinions of others, or if it is not worth it. I will allow him to figure that out on his own. Though I of course would let him know before he did it that there are sadly people in this world who would have a problem with it and that people might make fun of him or give him a hard time. If after knowing that he still decided to do it than I would support him. Because I love him, for who he is. Not how he looks.

KimmyEB

I do not have different rules for different sex children in my house. Anyone can get their ears pierced once they are 12. Anyone can wear makeup (though I hope neither sex want to, I hate that stuff and don't own any or ever wear it) once they are old enough to buy it on their own. Anyone can wear dresses or pants, or any style of clothing as long as they are covered. No short shorts, no belly showing shirts, no mini skirts, on either sex child. Anyone can have any hairstyle they want, and once old enough to pay for it, any color hair they want. Anyone can wear nail polish of any color.

I don't understand different rules for different sex children. At all. If my son decides to wear a dress to school and he gets picked on for it he will learn a lesson, a sad lesson that is caused by people who care about that kind of thing. And then he will get to decide for himself if the reaction he got is worth him being himself. He will decide if wearing a dress is something that is important enough to him to keep doing, and try to change the opinions of others, or if it is not worth it. I will allow him to figure that out on his own. Though I of course would let him know before he did it that there are sadly people in this world who would have a problem with it and that people might make fun of him or give him a hard time. If after knowing that he still decided to do it than I would support him. Because I love him, for who he is. Not how he looks.

:flowerforyou: I love this attitude.

CasperO

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To address the employer issue: my dad is a fire cheif. He will not hire a person if they have tattoos. He will not even consider their qualifications, their degree..he won't even look at their resume. That is discrimination and he turns away qualified people because of his mindset of tattoos. Thankfully, spending time around my bf, he has grown to appreciate him and respect him and he has slowly started to change his mindset. This is why it's important to me, to push for acceptance.
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Don't spread that around, your Dad could lose at least his job, and maybe a lot more.

Our rules were "Nothing permanently freaky 'til you're on your own". Earring holes close up, clothes change, wierd haircuts grow out, hair color fades or grows out and nail polish washes off.

My son never mentioned piercings - possibly because I've had an ear pierced for close to 30 years, and I do wear a stud occasionally.

Yes, I wear it at work, and I'm a professional, and no - it's never been a problem - nor have the <non-public-skin> tattoos.

Wait,,, one time it came up. A coworkder, major douchenozzle, very conservative (pic of Reagan on the office wall) said "What's that in your ear?". I replied "That's my suicidal a-hole detector. Works good, don't it?". Never another word. :laugh:

We all have our levels of what's Ok and what ain't. If my son wanted to pierce something, that would'a been Ok. When my daughter wanted pink hair, that was Ok. If either of them had wanted "Thug Life" tattooed on their neck in dark green, that would not have been Ok.

Both kids turnes out fine BTW. Solid, decent adults, doing fine.

TheRoadDog

Had three girls, so I never addressed this issue. I let my daughters pierce their ears. I even took my youngest down when she was 15 and let her pierce her belly button.

If I had a boy, I'd have to hear his pitch and see how I felt. It'd be a case by case type of thing. I couldn't give a blanket yes or no based on gender. That's kind of bullsh*t if you ask me.

macpatti

Both kids turnes out fine BTW. Solid, decent adults, doing fine.

There you have it. Some boys can grow up in homes where piercings are allowed and be fine, just as some boys who grow up in homes where it is prohibited can turn into solid, decent young men. My house, my rules for my reasons.