Those little things...
Meghan0116
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Jen's dumping post made me wonder about this.
What are the little things that lead to break ups or just poofing. For example, does it really matter if a girl's bra and undies match? Or if a guy uses too much hairspray or gel?
What are the little things that lead to break ups or just poofing. For example, does it really matter if a girl's bra and undies match? Or if a guy uses too much hairspray or gel?
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If it's little crap like that which I'm looking to break up with someone over then it's not really something I wanted in the first place.0
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Good point. So take out the break up part. Could those be quirks?0
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Quirks don't scare me, they make people more endearing to me. Flat out weird is another thing... That isn't weird. Licking bricks, eating bugs, polyamory (again, not wrong, just weird, not my thing), other stuff like that...0
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I do remember laughing in the face (not in a mean way) at the last guy I dated for using more hair products than I ever have. His hair DID look fabulous though, so I wasn't complaining.0
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I think those little things are just masking other things, well in my experience anyway.
For example, let's say Smiley is failing big time on making me feel like a priority in his life... I sense it but it's not really so evident there in my face or maybe I'm just in denial because I like him so much.
Suddenly his little "bad" habits (which I think are adorable by the way
) start irking me.. such as how he doesn't fold his clean laundry right away and it sits right there in that window nook or how his facial hair irritates my skin sometimes.
With the ex, there were underlying issues as you all know and all his little gross things disgusted me by the end. Yuck!!!0 -
Quirks I can handle. Lord knows I have my own. But I agree those are things that becoming endearing ... things you start to miss when the person isn't around.
One of the most annoying things to me is when a guy starts to treat me like I'm a child. I like protectiveness. I even like a certain amount of possessiveness. But do not tell me how to dress, where I can and can't go, who I can and can't be friends with, etc. I already have a father, and he stopped being in charge of those things years ago.
Another big one for me is when guys don't listen or pay attention. I will never interrupt a man when he is doing something that is important to him, like watching his team or having poker night with his friends. But if it's just the two of us, sitting on the couch, having an actual conversation, I want you to listen to me. If you are focused on other things or looking around and giving me the occasional "uh huh ... sure," it will be a clear cut signal to me that you couldn't care less what I'm saying, and that is not okay.0 -
In my experience it is always something different, could be the way someone walks or the way she says "tortilla".0
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When I was 15 it was a pain to get my boyfriend off the phone. At first it was cute "Awww, he just doesn't want to stop talking to me" but it quickly turned into annoying when I had my dad telling me to hang up and go to bed and he would always say "Okay but really quick" and then talk and try to keep me on for however much longer. It got to the point where I would just hang up on him. That's when I knew I was over it. Of course, it didn't help that he was professing his love for me and talking about marriage and kids. I had no interest in being pregnant when I was fifteen (hell, still don't).0
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Some quirks are endearing, while others are irksome. And it's the irksome ones that can build up and enhance the breakup feelings, but not create them altogether. There has to be a greater motivator underneath.
Endearing (though slightly annoying at times): Adding "if" to the end of other words, leading to redundancy: "unless if...", "in case if..."
Hair pulling frustrating: Jumping out of the shower without drying off first, leaving the entire floor wet. Or pulling out strands of hair and dropping them on the floor of my car.0 -
Hair pulling frustrating: Jumping out of the shower without drying off first, leaving the entire floor wet. Or pulling out strands of hair and dropping them on the floor of my car.
Gross to both of those. And I have to agree with roadie on the tortilla thing. If you say it like "tortilya," it's game over.0 -
The needy/clingy thing just for the sake of being needy/clingy. Not cause it is you they want but just have to be in a "relationship"...
Quoting you on things you NEVER said.0 -
I don't know what my problem is with this .. but I find it disturbing when men use a tanning bed. I think that and the use of hair spray are the MOST unmanly things you can do . Total turn off to me. I like my men to be MEN .. not girly men. lol0
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I don't know what my problem is with this .. but I find it disturbing when men use a tanning bed. I think that and the use of hair spray are the MOST unmanly things you can do . Total turn off to me. I like my men to be MEN .. not girly men. lol
Amen on the tanning bed. I just think big girl....LOL0 -
I'm really not a picky person but years ago I quit seeing a guy because he would grind his teeth so bad at night. I still feel bad about it but I couldn't take it anymore. He had a guard and wouldn't wear it. It was like nails on a chalk board to me. It would wake me up out of a dead sleep it was so loud and non-stop. :grumble:0
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Hehe, regarding hair...
The other morning I was with bf after a night of fun time and we were in his car and he said "here you can have this back".. it was one of my long hairs (UM from my head.. I don't have long hairs anywhere else!!!) in his beard.
Kind of grossed me out in a sweet way.0 -
I broke up with a guy because of the way he ate...........I think I was just not that into him and then the way he ate totally bugged me, so I broke up with him. I recently met up with him again (my uncle just married his mom), and the way he eats didn't bother me at all
---- unfortunatley he is no longer single---he has been engaged for like 9 years.............. 0 -
I don't know what my problem is with this .. but I find it disturbing when men use a tanning bed. I think that and the use of hair spray are the MOST unmanly things you can do . Total turn off to me.
Guess you won't be hanging out at the Jersey Shore.
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I don't know what my problem is with this .. but I find it disturbing when men use a tanning bed. I think that and the use of hair spray are the MOST unmanly things you can do . Total turn off to me.
Guess you won't be hanging out at the Jersey Shore.
hahahahahaha! for sure!!!0 -
When I find I'm nitpicking someone then I know it's time to cut ties and move on and if someone starts nitpicking me I do the same because I'll likely start retaliating and there's really no fun in bickering all the time about the little things.0
