I have no idea what's going on.
TheKitsune6
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There's this very good looking guy that lives in my apartment complex that I keep running into at the pool area. My roommate, his daughter and I often frequent the area, and the guy (Johnathan) has a daughter that is the same age as my roommates daughter so they've become friends. Well yesterday we run into each other again since I meet everyone there after my mudrun. I'm already exhausted and sunburned from having woken up at four in the morning and run the race but I keep up as best I can. We're all drinking and having a good time until the kids go back to their mothers for the week and the adults decide to go to trivia and hit up the bar.
Johnathan and I were alone while my roommate took his daughter back to her mothers, during which Johnathan and I flirted and made out a bit... We don't start heading home from the bar until 9pm and I am exhausted. I was falling asleep at the bar and on the drive home (Johnathan drove me home). Well, on the way he asked me if I wanted to pop up to his apartment for a drink or two.
Now, as far as I know, a "drink or two" basically means "let's have sex". I am flipping exhausted, literally falling asleep. I might be crazy horny but if I'm going to have sex with someone I'd really like to be conscious for it. I told him that I was too tired but that we should try again later. He seemed a bit disappointed so I followed up with, what I thought was cute, "besides, we shouldn't have sex on the first "date" anyway!" with a laugh.
Apparently, wrong thing to say. He got defensive and said that he hadn't mentioned sex - he asked me if I thought he was a ho or something. I apologized profusely and almost had a full on anxiety attack. I tried to tell him that I hadn't meant to offend him, nor did I even consider that sort of offer to be wrong in any way. I babbled a bit and then it got quiet for a minute until I just straight up asked him if he was mad. He said he wasn't so I told him I would take him at his word. Then we talked about Tosh.O until I got home... and he proceeded to shake my hand and tell me it was nice to meet me.
At this point I'm hella confused but I say "You have my number." to which he says "And you have mine." before we part ways for the night. My roommate says that of course he meant to have sex with me and that I should have just done it, my girl friend thinks that he was being a **** and that he either calls me or he doesn't and it's not my problem. I am honestly just exhausted by the whole thing and am on the brink of saying screw the whole dating life is all far too complicated I'm just going to be a cat lady for the rest of my life.
Thoughts?
Johnathan and I were alone while my roommate took his daughter back to her mothers, during which Johnathan and I flirted and made out a bit... We don't start heading home from the bar until 9pm and I am exhausted. I was falling asleep at the bar and on the drive home (Johnathan drove me home). Well, on the way he asked me if I wanted to pop up to his apartment for a drink or two.
Now, as far as I know, a "drink or two" basically means "let's have sex". I am flipping exhausted, literally falling asleep. I might be crazy horny but if I'm going to have sex with someone I'd really like to be conscious for it. I told him that I was too tired but that we should try again later. He seemed a bit disappointed so I followed up with, what I thought was cute, "besides, we shouldn't have sex on the first "date" anyway!" with a laugh.
Apparently, wrong thing to say. He got defensive and said that he hadn't mentioned sex - he asked me if I thought he was a ho or something. I apologized profusely and almost had a full on anxiety attack. I tried to tell him that I hadn't meant to offend him, nor did I even consider that sort of offer to be wrong in any way. I babbled a bit and then it got quiet for a minute until I just straight up asked him if he was mad. He said he wasn't so I told him I would take him at his word. Then we talked about Tosh.O until I got home... and he proceeded to shake my hand and tell me it was nice to meet me.
At this point I'm hella confused but I say "You have my number." to which he says "And you have mine." before we part ways for the night. My roommate says that of course he meant to have sex with me and that I should have just done it, my girl friend thinks that he was being a **** and that he either calls me or he doesn't and it's not my problem. I am honestly just exhausted by the whole thing and am on the brink of saying screw the whole dating life is all far too complicated I'm just going to be a cat lady for the rest of my life.
Thoughts?
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Maybe he was hoping for it maybe he wasn`t,can`t guess not being him but think when you responded as you did it probably sounded to him like you were accusing him of something that at that point wasn`t clearly stated.
From then on he was doing all he could to not seem like a creeper.0 -
I agree with Carl -- he backpedaled. Call him... I'd give it another shot.0
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I agree, give him a call. you call him you will be saying you are open to seeing him again but if you wait for him he might never do it since he thought you might be offended by something he didn't even do.0
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I'd be more inclined to agree if I hadn't already spent so much time apologizing to him and assuring him I didn't think there was anything wrong with the offer and that I was just tired. Do you all really think despite that he thinks -I'm- the one offended?0
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I'd be more inclined to agree if I hadn't already spent so much time apologizing to him and assuring him I didn't think there was anything wrong with the offer and that I was just tired. Do you all really think despite that he thinks -I'm- the one offended?
Yes, since a bigger deal was made of it by both of you then it should have been.0 -
I'd be more inclined to agree if I hadn't already spent so much time apologizing to him and assuring him I didn't think there was anything wrong with the offer and that I was just tired. Do you all really think despite that he thinks -I'm- the one offended?
Call him.0 -
I say call him, not because he thinks you're still offended but because he probably feels, in some sense, like he was rejected the first time. But only call once. If he doesn't answer and doesn't return your call, move on.0
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Call!
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Seems unanimous. I suppose I will call later today then
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Yep, I agree with everyone else. He is probably leaving the next move up to you as his perception was that his advances were shunned.
You got it in the bag, give him a call.0 -
I say call him, not because he thinks you're still offended but because he probably feels, in some sense, like he was rejected the first time. But only call once. If he doesn't answer and doesn't return your call, move on.
Always spot on Casey!0 -
I say call him, not because he thinks you're still offended but because he probably feels, in some sense, like he was rejected the first time. But only call once. If he doesn't answer and doesn't return your call, move on.
I so agree with this!!!0
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