Looking for something better still?

BelMckenzie

So I have been dating a guy for about 6 weeks. We talk daily and hang out about twice a week. I deleted my dating profile last week since I want to be more serious with him and don't care to keep looking for something else. I was talking to someone on there so I used to go on often too, but I tapered off as my feelings have grown. Well, my friend told me that she has taken a look at his profile a couple of times lately and noticed he is still on about daily. Now I am getting nervous, that maybe we aren't as serious as I thought we were getting to be. I did ask him if he was sleeping with anyone else and he said no.

I would bring up the talk, but I have always heard it is better coming from the guy and he is the manly man/old fashion type so I would assume it would be a better to wait for him.

I really like him a lot and I keep thinking that maybe he is still looking for something better and just keeping me around for company.

mrmanmeat

So I have been dating a guy for about 6 weeks. We talk daily and hang out about twice a week. I deleted my dating profile last week since I want to be more serious with him and don't care to keep looking for something else. I was talking to someone on there so I used to go on often too, but I tapered off as my feelings have grown. Well, my friend told me that she has taken a look at his profile a couple of times lately and noticed he is still on about daily. Now I am getting nervous, that maybe we aren't as serious as I thought we were getting to be. I did ask him if he was sleeping with anyone else and he said no.

I would bring up the talk, but I have always heard it is better coming from the guy and he is the manly man/old fashion type so I would assume it would be a better to wait for him.

I really like him a lot and I keep thinking that maybe he is still looking for something better and just keeping me around for company.

Talk to him about it.

If you wait around to live your life the way someone else did it, things can change.

hcoburn37

I agree talk with him about it. But also keep in mind that some of the online dating sites show people are online when they actually are not. It may very well just be the site has him online and not him still looking at all.

Myslissa

It could also be his phone that keeps him signed on or signs him on and he doesnt know it. Victim of that before myself.

Showgirlbody

I've been guilty of just browsing when I was bored even when not actively looking for anyone. Even now that I've deleted my profiles, sometimes when I am putzing around on the internet I feel like doing a search and reading profiles but I can't. I have to stick to reading craigslist for kicks. lol He may be looking, he may not. But that is an easy way to bring up the subject without being too eager. "So, I'm happy I met you so I've deleted my dating account so I can concentrate on getting to know you better". Then see what he says or if that is something that he is happy about. My bf told me first that he was deleting his because he didn't need to be looking and muddy the water. It can just mean that or it could mean exclusivity but you don't know unless you discuss if that is where you are headed.

MyTime1985

So I have been dating a guy for about 6 weeks. We talk daily and hang out about twice a week. I deleted my dating profile last week since I want to be more serious with him and don't care to keep looking for something else. I was talking to someone on there so I used to go on often too, but I tapered off as my feelings have grown. Well, my friend told me that she has taken a look at his profile a couple of times lately and noticed he is still on about daily. Now I am getting nervous, that maybe we aren't as serious as I thought we were getting to be. I did ask him if he was sleeping with anyone else and he said no.

I would bring up the talk, but I have always heard it is better coming from the guy and he is the manly man/old fashion type so I would assume it would be a better to wait for him.

I really like him a lot and I keep thinking that maybe he is still looking for something better and just keeping me around for company.

Talk to him about it.

If you wait around to live your life the way someone else did it, things can change.

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BelMckenzie

Talk to him about it.

If you wait around to live your life the way someone else did it, things can change.

Ok, I agree with your second point. I know what I want from this, I just don't know where he stands.

Carl01

Take a step back and look at things.

You unilaterally deleted your account without saying a word about doing so.
Curious if deep down you would hope he noticed that but regardless from him not doing so or the same you have made the assumption that he isn`t serious and then lept to the conclusion that he is stringing you along.

When you look at it as an observer does all this really seem to be logical?
Best thing to do is talk about it,6 weeks is time enough to ask where are we going.

mrmanmeat

Talk to him about it.

If you wait around to live your life the way someone else did it, things can change.

Ok, I agree with your second point. I know what I want from this, I just don't know where he stands.

Which is why I put the first part, talk to him about it.

BelMckenzie

Talk to him about it.

If you wait around to live your life the way someone else did it, things can change.

Ok, I agree with your second point. I know what I want from this, I just don't know where he stands.

Which is why I put the first part, talk to him about it.

Sorry, I agree with the first part too, just didn't say so- it would be an important part to get to the second point

La_Amazona

Take a step back and look at things.

You unilaterally deleted your account without saying a word about doing so.
Curious if deep down you would hope he noticed that but regardless from him not doing so or the same you have made the assumption that he isn`t serious and then lept to the conclusion that he is stringing you along.

When you look at it as an observer does all this really seem to be logical?
Best thing to do is talk about it,6 weeks is time enough to ask where are we going.

I agree with this. Don't assume. If you hadn't talked to him about it, then that should tell you that ya'll are on different pages. Talk to him.

gerard54

If yall arent "serious" about each other then do what yall want, but if you are feeling like him still getting on the site is a prob, then let him know...

BelMckenzie

Take a step back and look at things.

You unilaterally deleted your account without saying a word about doing so.
Curious if deep down you would hope he noticed that but regardless from him not doing so or the same you have made the assumption that he isn`t serious and then lept to the conclusion that he is stringing you along.

When you look at it as an observer does all this really seem to be logical?
Best thing to do is talk about it,6 weeks is time enough to ask where are we going.

Good point! I really like him and I am looking for excuses to run since I get scared very easily. I need to take risks, I just haven't felt this way in so very long (not even my last relationship) and the last time I did I got hurt very badly. I know logically he likes me since everything he does indicates he would. He even played his guitar and sung to me (which he said he hadnt played guitar for 2 years and originally told me he doesn't sing in public since he is horrible). So I was shocked when he said he was going to sing.

I am looking to much into everything. I am going to see him this weekend since we both have busy work weeks (at least I do) but I will attempt to have "the talk" I am usually not a shy person when it comes to this stuff, but I am so very smitten with him.

yoovie

Id wait another two weeks without monitoring his online situation and see if yall are still having fun. 6 weeks seems a bit early for a DTR talk.

I wouldnt really worry about him still having a profile. I always keep mine up in case things dont work out, i dont have to rewrite everything. its not about looking for something better, its just about not putting all your eggs in one basket.

Not everyone is quick to leave their single status behind just because they found someone amazing and wondrful and mind-blowing! .....that's usually how they met the ex that broke their heart.

Its ok for them to drag their feet

christine24t

I think it's not a big deal. I like looking at the dating websites even if I have no intention of doing anything. But if it bothers you you should say something.

yoovie

couldnt help it ♥

AllanMisner

Communication [/thead]

Natx83

couldnt help it ♥

HAHAHA! Sorry I LOL'd

Natx83

In my honest oppinion, from my own doings. When I find a girl online and we've started talking regularly and have met, I'm all about her.

One girl only.

I might be different to other guys, but I would be nervous in your situation also. If you had been dating for a while, it would be natural to feel that way, as you have feelings for him.

I dont want to be the pessimist in this situation but I would probs call him out on it in a casual way and try and find out where you stand... If he gives you a round- a-bout sort of answer... forget it. Move on now, you deserve someone who give you there all, not just some, when they feel like it.

MikeM53082

So I have been dating a guy for about 6 weeks. We talk daily and hang out about twice a week. I deleted my dating profile last week since I want to be more serious with him and don't care to keep looking for something else. I was talking to someone on there so I used to go on often too, but I tapered off as my feelings have grown. Well, my friend told me that she has taken a look at his profile a couple of times lately and noticed he is still on about daily. Now I am getting nervous, that maybe we aren't as serious as I thought we were getting to be. I did ask him if he was sleeping with anyone else and he said no.

I would bring up the talk, but I have always heard it is better coming from the guy and he is the manly man/old fashion type so I would assume it would be a better to wait for him.

I really like him a lot and I keep thinking that maybe he is still looking for something better and just keeping me around for company.

Definitely talk to him about it. Not in an angry way, but in a polite way. Communication and respect are very important when dealing with people. He'll appreciate your honestly and letting him know how you feel. Good luck!

BelMckenzie

Definitely talk to him about it. Not in an angry way, but in a polite way. Communication and respect are very important when dealing with people. He'll appreciate your honestly and letting him know how you feel. Good luck!

I'm not angry so I won't say it that way, just confused is all in what we are. I did take a step back since I was becoming overwhelmed with my feelings for him so I'm not sure if he is on anymore or not. I really was over thinking everything he was doing which was driving me nuts and was not healthy. I did just delete my own profile and I was talking to other guys on there and I never told him that I did delete it. We talked a little last night on the phone about how long we have been dating and if I don't talk to him this weekend- I will bring it up since I am looking for a relationship and if after 2 months it is not leading to that, there is no point in dating anymore.

oddyogi

I'm kinda going through the same thing with the guy I've been dating for the past two months. He's mentioned more than once that he wants to delete his though because he's tired of getting messages. He only logs in through his phone I think, and I don't think you can delete it off there. I told him that I've deleted mine and we played around a little bit with words but still nothing. Blargh. I feel your pain. Lol. Feel like we're walking thru mud here!