Opinions???

Meghan0116

My son's father doesn't have court mandated child support. He pays half of daycare, which is $360 a month each, and gives me $240 a month in child support. It isn't as much as he should but he mostly does that. Well, at least the daycare part. I have been putting off taking him to court because I really haven't wanted to do this fight with him. I will file, and he knows I am going to, but I am procrastinating.

Well, not having mandated child support really pisses my mom off. I have a good job and am mostly able to balance everything. I never ask her for money but she hates that I don't have extra money to travel or do more stuff. Duh, single mom here. My workshop presenter cancelled yesterday for my client's workshop tonight. So I called my mom and asked her if she would watch D while I did the workshop. She said on one condition, if you go file today. She said if I do she will watch him, if I don't she won't. I was and am pretty furious. I don't like my son and my job being used as pawns to push me to do something. I know I need to file but I think this is pretty unforgivable. I called my son's father and asked him to do it and he is. I have not talked to my mom since yesterday morning.

I am so angry with her. Do ya'll think I have the right to be?

Z_I_L_L_A

Hmmm...Should I take your side? I need to take my X to court, we have joint custody and I have my daughter all the time and my son 75% of the time. She doesn't help with anything and as they get older things cost more. He can always stop paying you. Your mom doesn't have to do anything for you either so how can you be mad unless she owes you something. I don't know, thats a tough one. I don't like being manipulated of course nobody can make me do something I don't want to. So question is do you want to take him to court or not. If so do it and get it out of the way. I don't know Megs, hope you figure it out before youstress too much over it.

Meghan0116

You should absolutely take my side. Just because. lol

I am going to take him to court. I know I have to to provide for my son and I have procrastinated.

What I am upset about is that she used my son as a pawn to push me to do something. I understand why she is pushing me to file, just do not use my son. She could have said, I will never buy you dinner again unless you file. Okay, not painful. But what she said is that I will not watch your son while you have to work last minute unless you do this. That is ****ty.

ILoveBrownies2

I agree that it was wrong of her to put you in a situation like that. I think it was smart of you to not use her care. However, I wouldn't consider her request unforgiveable. It sounds like she was trying to help you help yourself, she just went about it the wrong way. I would make it clear to your mom that you you appreciate her guidance and support, but ultimately everything that goes on in your household is ultimately YOUR decision. From personal experience, be careful when complaining to someone about something that you have the power to change. If it goes on long enough and nothing gets done, eventually someone is going to say something about it.

Hope your day gets better :flowerforyou:

Steelheart7

Just my thought, but she was trying to get you to do what you need to do .. and she did it for a good reason. You are her daughter and she wants to make sure you are getting what you deserve. Wouldn't you want the same for your child?

However .. it is a bit underhanded .. crossing a line. I would just say you didn't appreciate her tactics and to not do it again or she will risk losing you being in her life. If she doesn't know its unforgiveable to you .. she didn't know not to do it. If you tell her, then she will know.