Under the neon moon...

La_Amazona

Well I'm single again.

Last week I explained how I felt my bubble was bursted and how I was thinking a lot about whether this was long term or not. I had decided to see how the weekend went and take it from there. Friday I could tell he was being distant. Saturday morning, he did my oil, we went to breakfast but he didn't seem himself and I felt like I had to walk on eggshells- which is the worst feeling. I did that too many years with ex!
So I brought it up because he was almost being purposely irritating. We talked and we agreed we starte off great but we just didn't make it. He told me I was a wonderful sweet woman and I told him he was a great guy. It was nice... Nothing dramatic. Then I told him how about we spend the rest of the weekend together and just have a good time so we can end it nice and friendly. So last night we went out, had a good time and I'm about to leave his place now.

I liked him a lot. You all know that.. But there was 1 thing about him that I don't know if I could have lived with forever. This is the only reason why I feel okay. I'd be heartbroken otherwise. I know he's not the man for me. I'll take this and learn from my mistakes.

I'm sad because I'm going to miss him. Since we spent sooo much time together, there's going to be a void. I also will miss the chemistry we had. I am so so so attracted to him. So although I'll miss him, the biggest reasons aren't good enough and it just confirms that I'm ready to move on. Even thinking about dating again doesn't seem scary.

So there you have it... Aww smiley!!

I'm sure I'll be mopey for a bit...

lorro

Really sorry to read this Diana. :frown: Big hugs!! :flowerforyou:

oddyogi

{{hugs}}

Sorry to hear this but glad to read that you are okay and handling things well. It does stink, but at least you ended things sooner rather than later instead of wasting time trying to make something that's not gonna work work.

AnnaPixie

Awww babe, I'm so sad now too My heart sank as I read that! :flowerforyou:

You seem ok though, so I'm going to go with the fact that you had a great time together can only be a good thing. And its testimony to the fact that you can't even decide if you want to be with someone in less than 3 months.

Don't worry, I've had loads of 2/3 month relationships that have ended 'just because'

I hope you can pick yourself up in a few days and start again :flowerforyou:

Steelheart7

Aw. so sorry. But I am glad to hear that you took charge and didn't let it drag out and get ugly. You know what you want and need and that my dear is priceless!

Hugs!

La_Amazona

Ok I'm sad. I'm laying here looking at him and I'm going to miss him!!!! :brokenheart:

Steelheart7

Don't be sad it ended .. be glad it happened.

Natx83

Better to regret something you did, than something you didn't. Least you learnt you can throw yourself into something again. Sorry about the breakup, that sucks to hear miss!

lacroyx

aww

Don't be sad it ended .. be glad it happened.

agreed.

Nerple

Sorry to hear that!

JanieJack

Don't be sad it ended .. be glad it happened.

What she said

{{{{Diana}}}}

AllanMisner

One thing I've seen over your past month or so of posting: you've become a stronger woman. That is a good thing. It is sad he wasn't the one, but you learned and had some great times. The right guy will come along.

lorro

Yup, Smiley is a stepping stone to your eventual happiness, even though you are sad right now :flowerforyou:

will010574

One thing I've seen over your past month or so of posting: you've become a stronger woman. That is a good thing. It is sad he wasn't the one, but you learned and had some great times. The right guy will come along.

^^^^ Concur! You had some great experiences, learned a lot and are a better stronger person for having lived it these past few months! So be sad for a little bit and then keep on living!!

Maybe too soon to point this out, but the silver lining here is we will all once again get Amazon dating stories again!

AmericanExpat

I don't know you, but I have read your posts over the last few days and it seems like this is a good thing for you. I saw on the forum yesterday where someone said if they broke up from their 6 1/2 year relationship they would have wasted 6 1/2 years. I don't think this is true, whether a few years or a few months every relationship teaches us something and helps us grow. Eventually you will find you forever but enjoy learning from the for-nows.

Daisy_Cutter

Yup, Smiley is a stepping stone to your eventual happiness, even though you are sad right now :flowerforyou:

^^^ This... you'll find him.... you had some great experiences. I'm so sorry.

Carl01

You have matured a great deal in the past month Diana,it is something you have talked about needing to do and is a good thing.
Remember fondly the good things,what you have learned about yourself and about others and build from it.

I`m sorry this time hurts but you have grown closer to knowing and finding what is perfect.

MissingMinnesota

Hugs. I think it was a good thing that you had that relationship to be able to learn to love again. Now your heart has just gotten bigger so you can fit the person that you are ment to be with in it.

r1ghtpath

THIS!!!

You have matured a great deal in the past month Diana,it is something you have talked about needing to do and is a good thing.
Remember fondly the good things,what you have learned about yourself and about others and build from it.

I`m sorry this time hurts but you have grown closer to knowing and finding what is perfect.

take every single one of these experiences, grieve the loss and then learn and grow from it :-) it's a GOOD thing that you were able to talk and then mutually agree that you weren't right for the long term, and you had fun and ended things on GOOD terms. all of that is GOOD.

it's good to grieve a loss, as long as you grieve and then move on.......

(((HUGS)))

jbella99

One thing I've seen over your past month or so of posting: you've become a stronger woman. That is a good thing. It is sad he wasn't the one, but you learned and had some great times. The right guy will come along.

i agree

Katefab26

(((Diana)))

hypallage

Don't be sad it ended .. be glad it happened.

Sorry to hear about this but enjoy the memories.

La_Amazona

Thanks everybody. I left his place around noon. Just got back from having lunch with my friend.

We hugged and said goodbye. I didn't even cry in front of him but I asked him questions, I guess for closure. He was sure that this is what he wanted. He said there was a lot of good but then there were just as many cons as pros.

My chest hurts!!!

_SpeshK_

Sucks that it happened but your outlook on it is very positive and it's very mature of the both of you that you could end it on a good note and still enjoy each other's company. Good for you for being the person to realize it wasn't going to work. A lot of the time, I'm the girl who will try to make the broken thing work for way longer than I should.

jlsAhava

Don't be sad it ended .. be glad it happened.

Agreed! :flowerforyou:

Vodkha

Id be annoyed that he probably knew the first tim he talked to you (and maybe even before then) that he didnt want to be in the relatiinship but let it go on longer. But thats just me. It sounds like it was a peaceful breakup and you learned from it. But I for one am looking forward to more date stories! Any chance of getting together with FL when he moves back?

sunnymel126

Don't be sad it ended .. be glad it happened.

I agree but I know it still hurts. :::: hugs :::: :flowerforyou:

La_Amazona

Id be annoyed that he probably knew the first tim he talked to you (and maybe even before then) that he didnt want to be in the relatiinship but let it go on longer. But thats just me. It sounds like it was a peaceful breakup and you learned from it. But I for one am looking forward to more date stories! Any chance of getting together with FL when he moves back?

He wants a relationship. He's looking for someone to settle down with. He's been going through a lot but he's looking. It just wasn't me. :brokenheart:

I feel like I'm in a daze. This sucks!!!!

I was at my friends Angela's for the whole day. I told her more about him, issues, etc and she said he isn't the man for me. I honestly think he truly believes we're different in a way to the point where we live completely different type of lifes. The issue I said about earlier was a big one for me. And he knew that. I think in the end, he thought I was too good for him.. from my family, to my values, to church, to my everyday choices. He would say things about my family (we're very united and close) and how he probably wouldn't fit in. And though I liked him, there were things about him that didn't fall in line with my values but I overlooked it, I figured I could deal with it. I need to be honest with myself next time.

I treated him well. I come from a good family. I have a good stable life. You all know my crazy overthinking and although he caught on, and yes, at times I was needy, I was good to him. I won't keep second guessing myself. The times I'd have crazy thoughts I'd text friends or write here or even journal. So trust me, he didn't know half of the freak outs I had. I wasn't clingy either. I would just be needy at certain times.

Anyway, I honestly don't think he'd fit in it. And he's probably right. In the end, he has a different point of view on certain things. And he's set in his ways. It hurts but talking with my friend helped. When I told her more about it, she said I didn't belong with a man like that.

Still hurts.

AllanMisner

*HUGS*

r1ghtpath

(((hugs))))!!!!!!!!!

calvert6183

IM sorry for your loss, it sucks. I dont know you well but honestly, maybe you should take a break from dating for awhile and focus on you. It seems you find a man and put your heart into in too quickly and you get your heart broken. Take your time, you are young and their are many great guys who would love to find you and will.