How do you spot a married man/woman?
SaSSyhasCurls
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Single people, if you are dating someone and they say they are single, but they are clues they are married or involved, what are the signs?
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When you start suspecting that the person is married. That is a great clue....0
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They always have a reason why you can't visit their place.
They have a tan line on the left ring finger.
They don't answer or respond to texts or calls during times when you suspect they'd be with a spouse (after work, etc.)
You have a hard time getting dates on typical date nights.
The spouse shows up at your home or work with a loaded weapon.0 -
If they can't see you on weekends, they're taken.
If they won't take pictures with you, they're taken.
If they refuse, after a reasonable amount of time has gone by, to introduce you to any of their friends/family, they're taken.
If they only communicate with you during the day, they're taken.
And the often overlooked one ... if they're wearing a ring, they're taken.0 -
When you start suspecting that the person is married. That is a great clue....
Always go with the gutt feeling and yes all the other suggestions are correct....married people generally have things planned with their spouse or kids on the weekends.0 -
Gosh, I dunno! I guess it comes out in the end? But I must say, I was suckered by this once and I didnt have a clue! :grumble:
You definitely need to look for the signs suggested above and then turn up at his house!! If you dont have his address, or know where he works, then he's hiding something.
Good luck :flowerforyou:0 -
You definitely need to look for the signs suggested above and then turn up at his house!! If you dont have his address, or know where he works, then he's hiding something.
Definitely this ..0 -
All of the above + If he won't go places with you in public.0
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You can always tell if someone is involved (not necessarily married, but at very least unavailable) when they are cagey about their personal life and basically insist that you follow their rules and see them on their schedule, and to hell with whatever YOU want.
To me, even the suspicion that a man or woman is seeing someone else is a very bad sign. It obviously means you don't trust him/her, and unless you're just an incredibly paranoid person in general, there is probably a good reason for you feeling that way.0 -
I was seeing someone, and found out the hard way he was taken.....got an answer to a text to him saying......"my fiancee found out".......I knew it had to be the fiancee since he didn't mentione he had one!!! so just pay attention to what he says, AND if you are suspicious....you probably have reason to be!!!0
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What if the person is hanging out on a Friday after work? Is this married men/women signs?0
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What if the person is hanging out on a Friday after work? Is this married men/women signs?
what do you mean? Hanging out with you on Fridays after work?0 -
You all are overlooking the most obvious one...if a guy doesn`t let you know where he lives within a couple of dates there is a reason.
Same for a lady but probably a little longer then a couple dates.0 -
What if the person is hanging out on a Friday after work? Is this married men/women signs?
One Friday? Doesn't necessarily mean he's not married or otherwise taken. The wife/fiancee/girlfriend could be out of town or could be thinking he's out with his friends.
If he's hanging out with you every Friday, I would say he's probably not in a committed relationship.0 -
Maybe the wife/fiance works on Friday evenings. The best thing to do is to ask him. If he gets really defensive, you may be seeing a married or taken man. Better to get it out of the way in the early stages before feelings are hurt.0
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What if the person is hanging out on a Friday after work? Is this married men/women signs?
Makes no difference, he could tell his SO that it's 'boys night'!!
Do you know where he lives? Do you have his landline?0 -
Yeah if you never see where they live there is probably something fishy going on. I'm pretty sure anyone can tell that I'm single when they come to my house since it looks like a bachelor pad.
But also I sort of think I'm a pretty good judge of when someone is lying, so if there are subjects that make them uncomfortable I can usually figure it out.0 -
They never answer their phone they ALWAYS have to call you back.0
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When you get a random email from a women, asking if you are dating their husband. It's happened to me. This man told me that he was widowed, even used his real wife's name. I thought it was disgusting and told her everything, she left him.
Looking back on it, there were many signs that I should have caught on to...phone being off at random times, calling me back when he was in the car, etc.
Thinking about it still makes me sick.0 -
If your gut says they are, they Probabaly are.
If you aren't allowed at their house or don't know where they live.
Only talk from their car or work.
Won't do sleep overs
Won't add you on FB
Gives you a bunch of numbers
Walks away during phone calls
No really public dates
Ring tan line
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The most common one I've had happen to me is when they slip when talking about their ex, calling them their husband/wife. When questioned, they suddenly explain they are separated and/or separating but for some "very valid in their mind" reason still live in the same house and sleep in the same bed. No, papers haven't been filed because we don't have the money. And no, I don't want them or any of my friends to know we're dating because that might complicate the divorce/child support stuff.0
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They never answer their phone they ALWAYS have to call you back.
Yeah, that's super annoying to me. I don't necessarily think it means the guy is seeing someone else. It's just a really big clue that he's not interested. It's one thing if he doesn't answer because he's at work. But if I get his voicemail when I know he's at home watching TV, I'm not calling again.0 -
I'm surprised no one has mentioned how handy a little Facebook stalking could be at this juncture.
And I only suggest this because I agree with everyone else-- if you're even thinking about this, there's likely a serious issue somewhere.0 -
It probably depends on how skilful the person is. Is it really that complicated though when you start to know someone well enough?
How well do you really know the person if you are unable to tell if he is married? Probably not so much.
How emotionally involved should you then be when you discover that he actually is in a relationship? Probably not so much.
If you are not able at this stage to "get invited" at their place, meet their friends, have them on Facebook, why would you really care about the person? The only connection you have created with this man at this stage is a pure product of your imagination.0 -
If they can't see you on weekends, they're taken.
Guess I'm screwed since I work weekends. :laugh:
Well not totally, I can hangout in the evening until 11pm then I gotta bail. I'm sure that won't look suspicious. >.>0 -
I started chatting with this guy from work, and I totally thought he was single. No ring, no pictures in the office cube except for him and his buddies, every story he told was about himself (I bought a house, I have a cat, etc...), and then the chat got a little more riske, I still didn't see it. BUT, I agree with that gut feeling. I knew something was off, so I just straight up asked him. He had been married for 4 years... I kinda pitied his wife! He so clearly wanted to portray the single life and still flirt heavily (or slightly beyond, who knows?!)...0
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All of the above + If he won't go places with you in public.
Or, if he does, he takes you to crazy out of the way places where no one in his circle would ever see you. Of course there is another BIG reason guys do this, but that's a whole 'nother topic.0 -
- if he takes you to out of the way spots. this is especially true is you live close to each other or in the same neighborhood
- he plans dates but then will sometimes disappear and flake out and not tell you they couldnt make it until after the date was supposed to happen.
- he only wants to hang out at your place
- you never meet any of his friends
- when you ask him outright and he cant think of a lie fast enough. this is the easiest way and i cant believe more women dont do it. just ask early on if he's married most wanna be cheaters (unless he's a psycho or sociopath) will be honest and say yes and start in with the "well.. see what happened was.." you dont even need to hear the rest. he's married0
