Do most people cheat??
HealthyNFit4Life
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Nowadays, it seems like everyone is cheating!! I personally have never had any desire to cheat on a boyfriend who I was really into. I have never cheated at all. It makes me jaded about relationships-like what's the point of being in one if you're not going to be faithful and trustworthy?? I just can't trust any men. Do you think most people cheat, and if they do, are they really in love with their partner??
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No. Most people don't cheat.
But many people don't know when it's over. As a result, they find themselves in dilemmas where they have to choose between passion and promise. You can avoid all that through communication and effort.0 -
Most people? No.
Some people? Yes.
Have I? Yes, once.
But, you can't let your past determine where you're going in the future. Otherwise, you'll never get away from being in your past.0 -
A lot of people do.
My ex husband did.
But I refuse to believe all men cheat. There are good ones out there!!! Just like good women..0 -
I believe most people don't cheat.0
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Stop dating cheaters!0
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I cheat at monopoly.0
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:noway: course not!
I've never cheated nor been cheated on! Make it one of the first things you agree on. I just let the guy know that there is no excuse for it and I will never forgive him, no matter what. Agree that he ends the relationship if its going that badly that he feels the need to hurt you that way.
I'm not saying talking about it is fool proof but usually if you communcate your biggest fears people tend to respect them.
You have to trust in order to live a full life. Don't let bad experiences or bad stories mar your trust in a decent man :flowerforyou:0 -
I am gonna have to go against the grain thus far. I am admittedly somewhat cynical and I don't fully trust a lot of people, but I think most people cheat. I haven't and I think if someone is going to cheat they should break it off with their SO first.
Either way, yes I think most people cheat and it is only getting worse. Maybe not so much for those of us who are older (don't get bent out of shape 20 something's), but cheating is more prevalent and more accepted. Don't believe me, read these forums, read blogs, talk to strangers...he'll go be a bartender and listen to people. Or just think of your group of 10 close friends...odds are half or more have, are or are seriously considering cheating.
Our moral character and our desire as a people to stand up for what is right is eroding. It has been replaced with rationalizations and an overwhelming attitude of entitlement.
My 2 pennies0 -
If you mean sexual cheating, no, I don't think most people do. But I also think love has little to do with it. You can love someone and still betray their trust. People do it all the time. And not just in romantic relationships.0
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I am gonna have to go against the grain thus far. I am admittedly somewhat cynical and I don't fully trust a lot of people, but I think most people cheat. I haven't and I think if someone is going to cheat they should break it off with their SO first.
Either way, yes I think most people cheat and it is only getting worse. Maybe not so much for those of us who are older (don't get bent out of shape 20 something's), but cheating is more prevalent and more accepted. Don't believe me, read these forums, read blogs, talk to strangers...he'll go be a bartender and listen to people. Or just think of your group of 10 close friends...odds are half or more have, are or are seriously considering cheating.
Our moral character and our desire as a people to stand up for what is right is eroding. It has been replaced with rationalizations and an overwhelming attitude of entitlement.
My 2 pennies
Damn you and your academic answer. Yes, the current gen considers cheating differently than we did. Burst her bubble, damn you.0 -
Doesn't it get old to have sex with the same body all the time?0
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Nope, even spread. But I do think non-cheaters attract or are attracted to cheaters, which obviously sucks for the non-cheaters. I don't think gender plays a role either--men or women equally either cheat or don't. I think when coming out of divorce or a breakup, especially after being cheated on, you're just more aware of it and on guard.0
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It would seem that something happend to inspire this op but with no details it is hard to judge the context.
No offense intended but tend to be a bit ambivalent about emotion filled but vague things like this.
What I mean is was the op or a friend clearly cheated on or was there a non exclusive relationship that one part erroneously refused to accept as such now consider themselves cheated on?0 -
Doesn't it get old to have sex with the same body all the time?
You were doing it wrong.
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ummm, MOST? i doubt most. A LOT do, that is true. not ALL people cheat though. i think that technology makes it very easy to hide cheating. and i think that people are so busy with their lives that they forget to appreciate each other and it becomes very easy for someone else to come in, show some attention and off you go............0
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Doesn't it get old to have sex with the same body all the time?
tsssk!0 -
No, not all men cheat....but some do. Is it wrong? YES......I don't understand how one can cheat on their S.O. if they "love them so much". If you "love them so much", then why cheat? Break it off first, let the other person go....it is (for some) and can be very detrimental to them. I know from my experience, that when I love someone, the rest of the world sort of, (for a lack of better words) disappears.0
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I think its terrible, I have been on the recieving end of it, I found out by seeing it on video that a friend took at party before I got there. I killed that party when I found out. Worst night ever. That was years ago now.
I think there is a slight difference "in general" when male and females cheat and the reasons why, I might be alone in think this, but I reckon when guys cheat, they are using their smaller brain, acting phyiscally with a bit of primal instinct blah blah. Then I think when a lady cheats its more of an emotional thing. Ie, boyfriend has been a douche and a *kitten* pushing her away etc. Whilst there are no legit excuses, does anything think there is any logic to what Im saying?0 -
I am gonna have to go against the grain thus far. I am admittedly somewhat cynical and I don't fully trust a lot of people, but I think most people cheat. I haven't and I think if someone is going to cheat they should break it off with their SO first.
Either way, yes I think most people cheat and it is only getting worse. Maybe not so much for those of us who are older (don't get bent out of shape 20 something's), but cheating is more prevalent and more accepted. Don't believe me, read these forums, read blogs, talk to strangers...he'll go be a bartender and listen to people. Or just think of your group of 10 close friends...odds are half or more have, are or are seriously considering cheating.
Our moral character and our desire as a people to stand up for what is right is eroding. It has been replaced with rationalizations and an overwhelming attitude of entitlement.
My 2 pennies
Damn you and your academic answer. Yes, the current gen considers cheating differently than we did. Burst her bubble, damn you.
Personally I don't know how the current generation can even say "cheating" when most of them don't appear to be officially in relationships...they are either hitting this or NSAing that or fwbing one another!!!! How is it even cheating when most don't even know what a committed relationship is in the first place? Not saying it doesn't exist, but it seems common there is a whole lotta hooking up going on".
Since my divorce I'm finding out who in my circle of friends are cheaters or not. It's funny how some guys act once you become available, even if they are not. Unfortunately there are many reasons for this to take place and for men I think it is more physical and for women more emotional.0 -
Unfortunately there are many reasons for this to take place and for men I think it is more physical and for women more emotional.
Agreed.0 -
Unfortunately there are many reasons for this to take place and for men I think it is more physical and for women more emotional.
Agreed.
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I think its terrible, I have been on the recieving end of it, I found out by seeing it on video that a friend took at party before I got there. I killed that party when I found out. Worst night ever. That was years ago now.
Been through that as well. Mine wasn't a video but in person. Walked in on them right in the middle of the act. Didn't kill anyone. Just was in shock and left.0 -
Yep, and I agree with you.I think there is a slight difference "in general" when male and females cheat and the reasons why, I might be alone in think this, but I reckon when guys cheat, they are using their smaller brain, acting phyiscally with a bit of primal instinct blah blah. Then I think when a lady cheats its more of an emotional thing. Ie, boyfriend has been a douche and a *kitten* pushing her away etc. Whilst there are no legit excuses, does anything think there is any logic to what Im saying?
Which is why I was saying earlier that it gets old to have sex with the same (woman) "body" all the time. For men, it's mostly disconnected from emotions, it's more of a physical thing.
Although I can easily imagine a frustrated woman doing the same thing.0 -
Been through that as well. Mine wasn't a video but in person. Walked in on them right in the middle of the act. Didn't kill anyone. Just was in shock and left.
Ouch. I always wondered how I would react if I ever walked in on that.0 -
Some people do and some people don't, it all depends on the people. I don't condone it, i've had it done to me before and it..... well lets just say those women ( yes plural, cheating gf's are a nice military perk) were unworthy of my love. If you don't love the person anymore then end the relationship, plain and simple. But sneaking around behind their back is low.0
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Yep, and I agree with you.I think there is a slight difference "in general" when male and females cheat and the reasons why, I might be alone in think this, but I reckon when guys cheat, they are using their smaller brain, acting phyiscally with a bit of primal instinct blah blah. Then I think when a lady cheats its more of an emotional thing. Ie, boyfriend has been a douche and a *kitten* pushing her away etc. Whilst there are no legit excuses, does anything think there is any logic to what Im saying?
Which is why I was saying earlier that it gets old to have sex with the same (woman) "body" all the time. For men, it's mostly disconnected from emotions, it's more of a physical thing.
Although I can easily imagine a frustrated woman doing the same thing.
I can understand a one off shag being unemotional. For both male and female. But affairs are emotional for both. Men know they are hurting their partner by playing away. That in itself makes it an emotional decision.
I would say that people cheat for a few reasons. 1. Ego 2. The sex has got boring and unfulfilling with their partner. 3. The relationship is dead but they have no balls/ovaries to end it!
I'd say those reasons are good for both men and women, but I agree that the emotional reasons are tipped in favour of a woman :flowerforyou: But I have known some men have affairs and fall bang in love with that person.........maybe even because the sex is better??0 -
My ex told me she'd cut off my balls if I ever cheated on her. Not that I would have anyway, but it definitely gave me something to think about. The only times I've even been tempted have been when I was just really unhappy in my relationships. I've always been able to refrain but I wish I could say the same for the girls I've dated.No. Most people don't cheat.
But many people don't know when it's over. As a result, they find themselves in dilemmas where they have to choose between passion and promise. You can avoid all that through communication and effort.0 -
Just going to go off of my immediate family:
Father: cheated on my mother(my sister snuck out to a bar her senior year in high school and saw my dad there with another woman)
Sister: her husband cheated on her (not doing the actual deed .. but nasty emails with her best friend at the time, planned a time to meet up .. she found the emails before the meet up day had arrived)
Brother: his wife cheated on him (he found pictures of her and her boyfriend on her laptop)
Me: my exhusband cheated on me.
Cheaters rock.0 -
No. Most people don't cheat.
But many people don't know when it's over. As a result, they find themselves in dilemmas where they have to choose between passion and promise. You can avoid all that through communication and effort.
I was ready to come in here and be cynical, but this actually makes a lot of sense.0
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