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TheKitsune6
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I need a break from working so I figured I'd post this.
Was talking to a guy online and we got along pretty well. I wasn't thinking it was going to work out but he was good looking and we had a lot in common. We met up last night for some coffee and the conversation was fun! We have a lot in common and there are no lulls. Problem? There's two major ones.
1) I am not attracted to his body type. He put online that he was taller and posted outdated pictures of when he was more filled out. He wasn't any taller than me and incredibly skinny. I personally make it a point to be up front in regards to what I look like (recent pictures, honest about body type, etc) so I felt a bit deceived as well.
2) He's got no real direction and is still trying to figure out what he wants to do with his life. He had a couple cute ideas for opening his own companies but it felt like I was talking to a high schooler that had no idea how businesses actually work. I have a strong preference for someone that is motivated and driven and he didn't really seem to fit the bill.
When we parted ways he was already talking about future plans, he's going to be busy for the next week at least though so that gives me some time to consider trying another date or if I just tell him I'm not feeling it.
Was talking to a guy online and we got along pretty well. I wasn't thinking it was going to work out but he was good looking and we had a lot in common. We met up last night for some coffee and the conversation was fun! We have a lot in common and there are no lulls. Problem? There's two major ones.
1) I am not attracted to his body type. He put online that he was taller and posted outdated pictures of when he was more filled out. He wasn't any taller than me and incredibly skinny. I personally make it a point to be up front in regards to what I look like (recent pictures, honest about body type, etc) so I felt a bit deceived as well.
2) He's got no real direction and is still trying to figure out what he wants to do with his life. He had a couple cute ideas for opening his own companies but it felt like I was talking to a high schooler that had no idea how businesses actually work. I have a strong preference for someone that is motivated and driven and he didn't really seem to fit the bill.
When we parted ways he was already talking about future plans, he's going to be busy for the next week at least though so that gives me some time to consider trying another date or if I just tell him I'm not feeling it.
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From how you stated some of the things - you are already not fully there. NEXT!0
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Well, as I've intimated on here many times, we have gotten so judgmental about our dates (particularly when viewing/meeting online) that we've forgotten the basics!! My point is that you can/will ALWAYS find flaws in people if you look hard enough.....
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1) I'm not into skinny men either HOWEVER, at least half of my b/fs have been skinny!! :laugh: I think you can easily overcome that one if he makes you laugh, shares your interests, has a great smile/eyes, doesnt care about YOUR weight.........etc
2) Only you can call this one as to the degree of ambition you covet. If he's lazy and cant be bothered in life and will get on your nerves then....Next!
From what you've said I think there's enough there to give it a second/third date! :flowerforyou:0 -
Sounds like you're not that interested. For me the looks or body type can only be overlooked easily if they come on really strong in other areas, doesn't seem like he did.0
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The way I see it is that there are plenty of people that have similar interests as me - I call them my friends. The difference between someone that I want as a friend and someone I want to be in a relationship with is if I want to have sex with them. I don't want to have sex with this guy :<0
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The way I see it is that there are plenty of people that have similar interests as me - I call them my friends. The difference between someone that I want as a friend and someone I want to be in a relationship with is if I want to have sex with them. I don't want to have sex with this guy :<
Then you've answered your own question! :bigsmile: I was thinking the sex part was ok, just the longer term was lacking.........I wouldnt even consider a second date if I didnt want to kiss the guy ........ :flowerforyou:0
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