Dating with dogs

So I have a young dog (1yr) and have been dating a guy but I don't stay over since I can't leave my dog in a crate for 12 hours. Well he really wants me to stay over to cook me breakfast but I just feel horrible leaving my dog in her crate from 6pm- 6am so I usually leave about 2am. Now, what do most people do with their dogs? This is my first dog by myself. He has his own dogs that are older so I am not sure how they would react bringing my dog over but eventually I will need to do this. I am actually going to board my dog overnight this weekend and wake up there in the morning, but that would get costly quick if I am doing this 2-3 times a week. What do you suggest?

My dog- 1 yr lab/pointer mix

His dogs- 10yr lab/pointer mix & 4 yr chihuahua

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  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    So I have a young dog (1yr) and have been dating a guy but I don't stay over since I can't leave my dog in a crate for 12 hours. Well he really wants me to stay over to cook me breakfast but I just feel horrible leaving my dog in her crate from 6pm- 6am so I usually leave about 2am. Now, what do most people do with their dogs? This is my first dog by myself. He has his own dogs that are older so I am not sure how they would react bringing my dog over but eventually I will need to do this. I am actually going to board my dog overnight this weekend and wake up there in the morning, but that would get costly quick if I am doing this 2-3 times a week. What do you suggest?

    My dog- 1 yr lab/pointer mix

    His dogs- 10yr lab/pointer mix & 4 yr chihuahua

    My dog can make it in her crate for up to 16 hours if she needs to. With no accidents.

    I see no reason you can't go over one night around 9pm and leave and come home around 8-9am after breakfast. Board your dog so you can get laid? lulz, I've heard it all now.

    Or bring your dog over, let them sniff each others *kitten* and they'll be fine. He loses his man card for having a ankle biter dog though.
  • 2stepz
    2stepz Posts: 814 Member
    Are any of the dogs animal-aggressive? My dog is fine at home overnight, but she is aggressive with other dogs. Of course, I don't crate her either.

    Can you start the date later than 6 pm? (Meet for a 9pm show and go from there?)
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865
    This is just one of the reasons I don't own a dog. I love them, but I'm just not home enough to take proper care of one.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    Are any of the dogs animal-aggressive? My dog is fine at home overnight, but she is aggressive with other dogs. Of course, I don't crate her either.

    Can you start the date later than 6 pm? (Meet for a 9pm show and go from there?)
    Every dog should be crate trained.
  • BelMckenzie
    BelMckenzie Posts: 249

    My dog can make it in her crate for up to 16 hours if she needs to. With no accidents.

    I see no reason you can't go over one night around 9pm and leave and come home around 8-9am after breakfast. Board your dog so you can get laid? lulz, I've heard it all now.

    Or bring your dog over, let them sniff each others *kitten* and they'll be fine. He loses his man card for having a ankle biter dog though.

    I should say my dog is spoiled, so I don't know if I could crate her for 16hours and not have a super nervous/anxious dog when I come home. I'm not boarding her to get laid, I already do that without boarding her. He stays over at my place since he doesn't have issues with his dogs being by themselves but we are usually at his place (much nicer).

    Don't worry, I never thought I would date a guy with an ankle biter but it was his ex's that he took after they broke up.
  • 2stepz
    2stepz Posts: 814 Member
    Are any of the dogs animal-aggressive? My dog is fine at home overnight, but she is aggressive with other dogs. Of course, I don't crate her either.

    Can you start the date later than 6 pm? (Meet for a 9pm show and go from there?)
    Every dog should be crate trained.

    She is crate trained, I just don't use it anymore. She's 5 years old, fully fine in the apartment by herself.
  • BelMckenzie
    BelMckenzie Posts: 249
    Are any of the dogs animal-aggressive? My dog is fine at home overnight, but she is aggressive with other dogs. Of course, I don't crate her either.

    Can you start the date later than 6 pm? (Meet for a 9pm show and go from there?)

    No aggressive dogs.

    We are going to a concert and may grill out before so we are probably getting together about 4pm. I did leave her home once from 4pm -4pm with a potty break in there but she was so anxious/nervous when I got home that I felt horrible (I think thats a lab trait).
  • NCTravellingGirl
    NCTravellingGirl Posts: 717 Member
    When my dog was that young, he stayed in his crate 12-14 hours with no issues. He seemed to like it. I'm not sure of your dog's maturity, but around a year or a little after my dog really was grown up (a mini schnauzer who stopped the biting and chewing, etc...) so I stopped keeping him in the crate all day (though he lays in it a lot anyway). Is your dog ready for that?

    I think you'd be fine but am not familiar with labs enough to know when they're ready to come out of the crate or how long they can stay! Good Luck! I hope to meet someone else who loves dogs too, ankle-biters or not!
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    There's no point having a dog if you're going to crate it for that long regularly. It's horrific. Do you not have a properly fenced in backyard? Labs or pointers aren't exactly apartment dogs. If she has an issue with jumping the fence, look into creating a kennel space in the backyard - it should be much larger than her crate, have shelter from the elements but also allow her enough yard to use the restroom and loll about if she wants to.

    If that's not doable, there's nothing wrong with boarding your dog for one night a week or something like that. It's actually awesome to do that instead of keeping her in a crate for 16 hours (breaks my heart :,( but I'm an animal person).

    Then of course there's the best option - introduce your dogs! Have a date where you hit up a dog park and bring all your dogs so they can play around and sniff each others butts! You say there's no aggression so go for it! Before you bring your dog to his house, give him a blanket/towel that your dog sleeps on so that he can put it somewhere in his house for his dogs to explore. That ways they can get accustomed to her scent before she comes over for the first time.

    Remember when you introduce them to have the leashes ON and only one dog meets one dog at a time!! Have treats and toys ready so that they associate the meeting of that dog with good things.

    Good luck! :)
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    I agree with the folks saying to bring your dog over to play. You might as well get that out of the way. If I was dating a girl whose dogs couldn't get along with mine she would have to get rid of her dogs. Sorry, girl, they gotta go. ;)
  • Nerple
    Nerple Posts: 1,291 Member
    I haven't run into this problem with dating, but I already had my dog when I took a job with a huge travel component. My dog is now completely comfortable with my parents or with my sister and her family.

    That said for just one night my dog would probably be fine on her own so long as she went out after 6pm that evening. But honestly I'd feel bad leaving her alone over night.

    I'd start immediately trying to introduce your dog to his though and see how they get along.
  • kerrymh
    kerrymh Posts: 912 Member
    Something to think about when I get a puppy next year..lol at least I hope I'll have this problem :)
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    This is just one of the reasons I don't own a dog. I love them, but I'm just not home enough to take proper care of one.

    Same here. I love em but when they get annoying I give the leash right back to the owner.

    Could you find a neighbor that likes that dogs (maybe a teenager) and have them go over and check on the dog or even take the dog over for nights? You could pay them 5-10 dollars for the night until the dog is old enough to be good in her crate for a while.
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    I agree that you should introduce the dogs and all hang out together for the easiest solution.

    A follow up question for fellow dog owners. Does anyone agree that dogs are some of the most intuitive animals on earth when it comes to judging character, and you sometimes trust you dog's opinion of your date better than your own, if the time comes for the two to meet at least?
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    I've run into this problem sometimes with my bf. He has a lab and a lab/shepherd mix and I have two Corgis. Since I have a roomie she watches them/lets them out for me if I stay the night, but I have brought my dogs over to his place a couple of times before.

    Then again, the whole dog lover thing is a thing we have in common--they're our babies. :) but I understanding leaving your doggy in the crate for 16 hours. I feel bad leaving mine in for 10-11 hours while I'm at work (with a potty break on lunch).

    Good luck, but I agree they should meet! Perhaps in a public place so there's no territorial issues?
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    There's no point having a dog if you're going to crate it for that long regularly. It's horrific. Do you not have a properly fenced in backyard? Labs or pointers aren't exactly apartment dogs. If she has an issue with jumping the fence, look into creating a kennel space in the backyard - it should be much larger than her crate, have shelter from the elements but also allow her enough yard to use the restroom and loll about if she wants to.

    If that's not doable, there's nothing wrong with boarding your dog for one night a week or something like that. It's actually awesome to do that instead of keeping her in a crate for 16 hours (breaks my heart :,( but I'm an animal person).

    Then of course there's the best option - introduce your dogs! Have a date where you hit up a dog park and bring all your dogs so they can play around and sniff each others butts! You say there's no aggression so go for it! Before you bring your dog to his house, give him a blanket/towel that your dog sleeps on so that he can put it somewhere in his house for his dogs to explore. That ways they can get accustomed to her scent before she comes over for the first time.

    Remember when you introduce them to have the leashes ON and only one dog meets one dog at a time!! Have treats and toys ready so that they associate the meeting of that dog with good things.

    Good luck! :)

    Our dogs aren't regularly in their crate for 16 hours, but if they need to be they can be. My older lab still likes to get curious and into stuff - so she used to be in a crate when we're at work (now when my Mom is, since she lives w/ my mom) and my other dog is the same, she has to - she's ADD and gets into books/etc.

    There's no reason why a dog can't stay in a crate. They don't care, they don't know the difference. Granted if they don't need be in a crate, then great. But if they do, it's perfectly fine.

    My lab goes in her crate all hours of the day when someone is home. It's her safety zone.

    I'm an animal person too - but I'm smart enough to realize that dogs can be kept in crates if needed.

    Boarding a dog once a week so you can spend a night at a bf's house is a waste of money.
  • BelMckenzie
    BelMckenzie Posts: 249
    I could never leave my dog in her crate for 16 hours, the most she is in there without a potty break is 8 hours. My parents usually let her out when im away from my house but I'm a little uncomfortable asking my parents to let my dog out while I'm staying over at a guys house. I think I'm just going to board her for this one night (since we are going to a concert out of town as well) and have the dogs meet as well this weekend to get used to each other.

    I could not afford to board my dog weekly.

    Oh yeah I have been over there enough that I know his dogs smell my dog on me and vice versus so they have had the scents of each other introduced.

    Thanks for the input!
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    Why should every dog be crate trained? Why would you put your dog in crate?
  • NYChick84
    NYChick84 Posts: 331 Member
    start bringing your dog over there....introduce the dogs to each other. let them get acquainted and friendly with each other....this way you have no excuse as to why you can't stay over and have him cook that wonderful breakfast for you.....you life shouldn't revolve around a dog....even though it's hard. when i had my dog, it did limit me as to what i can and cannot do. but he's was so awesome he came everywhere with me.

    also, my dog was only in a crate when he was a puppy.....was only in the crate for 6 months. he never once put his teeth to my furniture....yet he loved my bra's and panties....weird bugger!! lol maybe you can also see if leaving him out of the crate will work.
  • Showgirlbody
    Showgirlbody Posts: 402 Member
    I have catered my social life around my dogs since I first got my own. It's really hard to navigate. My first dog I crate trained her because she had bad separation anxiety and it helped her to be in a small space, but I had a doggy door and a patio so she was inside in the crate but could still go out to potty. I had a long commute and a job with long hours so there were no happy hours after work for me. I think much of my 20's were spent with her because after being gone all day, I didn't think it was fair to leave her again. I did have a boyfriend for a short period at the time who would get really mad that I wouldn't go out on weeknights because of her. I just didn't feel right about it. Dogs are companion animals.

    My current dog is 3 years old. I got him when he was just about 1. He could not hold it when I first got him, but now he can. (He used to be in the bathroom instead of a crate since my HOA complained that he howled) I put pee pads or a potty patch because even though I wasn't gone as many hours as before, I still didn't want him to feel like he HAD to hold it. I am usually gone, max 10 hours. That is my self imposed limit to how long I leave him. We moved and now he can be in the apartment freely with my cats and not just the bathroom, but he doesn't use his potty patch and waits for me to get home. That guy has a full tank by the time I get home. He just pees forever. I feel really bad that he holds it but I know part of it is because he wants to "use" it on his walk. lol

    I do not leave him overnight and I wouldn't. He sleeps with me and I'm afraid that he will howl and disturb people if I don't come home. He is good now when it's a regular thing like work, but once in a while, he gets pissed that I'm leaving and will bark and make a ruckus. He wants to be with me. That's the way dogs are. My bf has a dog but he has a roommate who is always home and a yard with a sliding door. So the dog can go potty whenever. We still haven't done overnights though. His dog won't eat if he's not home and mine can't go out to potty without me home. So until they meet and make friends, I will not be spending the night anywhere. But I would board him for a special occasion.
    Dogs really shouldn't be crated for more than 12 hours and I know how many times I pee in that time and wouldn't ask my dog to hold it that long. A lab also has a lot of energy so I would seriously exercise that dog to make it tired before leaving it for a long period of time. Bottom line is, a dog is a responsibility and don't give in to pressure to shirk that responsibility because your boyfriend wants to make you breakfast. Dogs don't understand that, they just know they miss you. :) But I know we can't always bend our lives around our dogs either, find a balance. And nobody should get a puppy if they cannot let it out every couple of hours and dedicate time to training it. I got my dogs from shelters when they were over a year because I knew that a single person who worked all day could not care for a puppy properly.
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    I agree, take him over there. It will be good for your dog to socialize with other dogs since he's still young. Take all of the dogs for a walk together, like the dog whisperer says it's a good bonding experience for them. Also, like someone else said, maybe ask some of your neighbors if they like dogs and wouldn't mind watching him on the occasional night.

    In my experience, it does get kind of complicated when dogs are involved. My dog does get a little crazy when I take him new places and it makes it hard for me to relax. I can leave him home alone over night but I don't really like to. But I don't crate him anymore since he's never gotten into anything he wasn't supposed to inside the house.
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    There's no point having a dog if you're going to crate it for that long regularly. It's horrific. Do you not have a properly fenced in backyard? Labs or pointers aren't exactly apartment dogs. If she has an issue with jumping the fence, look into creating a kennel space in the backyard - it should be much larger than her crate, have shelter from the elements but also allow her enough yard to use the restroom and loll about if she wants to.

    If that's not doable, there's nothing wrong with boarding your dog for one night a week or something like that. It's actually awesome to do that instead of keeping her in a crate for 16 hours (breaks my heart :,( but I'm an animal person).

    Then of course there's the best option - introduce your dogs! Have a date where you hit up a dog park and bring all your dogs so they can play around and sniff each others butts! You say there's no aggression so go for it! Before you bring your dog to his house, give him a blanket/towel that your dog sleeps on so that he can put it somewhere in his house for his dogs to explore. That ways they can get accustomed to her scent before she comes over for the first time.

    Remember when you introduce them to have the leashes ON and only one dog meets one dog at a time!! Have treats and toys ready so that they associate the meeting of that dog with good things.

    Good luck! :)

    Our dogs aren't regularly in their crate for 16 hours, but if they need to be they can be. My older lab still likes to get curious and into stuff - so she used to be in a crate when we're at work (now when my Mom is, since she lives w/ my mom) and my other dog is the same, she has to - she's ADD and gets into books/etc.

    There's no reason why a dog can't stay in a crate. They don't care, they don't know the difference. Granted if they don't need be in a crate, then great. But if they do, it's perfectly fine.

    My lab goes in her crate all hours of the day when someone is home. It's her safety zone.

    I'm an animal person too - but I'm smart enough to realize that dogs can be kept in crates if needed.

    Boarding a dog once a week so you can spend a night at a bf's house is a waste of money.

    Your dog doesn't have ADD, your dog is a dog that needs regular exercise and mental stimulation. A properly trained and exercised dog won't get into your things/knock stuff over/ruin furniture - it just takes work to get there. Crate training is incredibly important, and I understand that some people will leave their dog in the crate while they're at work.

    Of COURSE the dog knows the difference between having free reign and being in a crate for 16 hours. What on earth would possess you to make a claim like that? Your concept of animal awareness and intelligence is very archaic.

    A dog choosing to nap in a crate and being locked up for hours at a time is different, a difference that your dog recognizes. You like sleeping in your bed, but if someone shut and locked the door for 8 hours I'm pretty sure you'd notice the difference too.

    When I say I'm an "animal person" I don't just mean I think dogs are cute. I mean I am an animal sciences major with a background in animal training and behavior and it's my chosen career. So it's great that you're smart enough to understand that crates can be a necessity, but I suggest re-examining what you think you know. I highly suggest checking out the studies and books by Karen Pryor and Ken Ramirez.

    It's a waste of money to -you- but you don't get to determine where someone else might find worth.
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    Why should every dog be crate trained? Why would you put your dog in crate?

    It's incredibly useful to have a crate trained dog. Dogs should almost always be transported in crates while driving, in case of an accident. Also if company comes over and you don't want to worry about dogs being underfoot. I don't disagree with people putting their dogs in a crate while they're at work (though it's not ideal), I just think that anything more than 10 hours is unnecessary.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    There's no point having a dog if you're going to crate it for that long regularly. It's horrific. Do you not have a properly fenced in backyard? Labs or pointers aren't exactly apartment dogs. If she has an issue with jumping the fence, look into creating a kennel space in the backyard - it should be much larger than her crate, have shelter from the elements but also allow her enough yard to use the restroom and loll about if she wants to.

    If that's not doable, there's nothing wrong with boarding your dog for one night a week or something like that. It's actually awesome to do that instead of keeping her in a crate for 16 hours (breaks my heart :,( but I'm an animal person).

    Then of course there's the best option - introduce your dogs! Have a date where you hit up a dog park and bring all your dogs so they can play around and sniff each others butts! You say there's no aggression so go for it! Before you bring your dog to his house, give him a blanket/towel that your dog sleeps on so that he can put it somewhere in his house for his dogs to explore. That ways they can get accustomed to her scent before she comes over for the first time.

    Remember when you introduce them to have the leashes ON and only one dog meets one dog at a time!! Have treats and toys ready so that they associate the meeting of that dog with good things.

    Good luck! :)

    Our dogs aren't regularly in their crate for 16 hours, but if they need to be they can be. My older lab still likes to get curious and into stuff - so she used to be in a crate when we're at work (now when my Mom is, since she lives w/ my mom) and my other dog is the same, she has to - she's ADD and gets into books/etc.

    There's no reason why a dog can't stay in a crate. They don't care, they don't know the difference. Granted if they don't need be in a crate, then great. But if they do, it's perfectly fine.

    My lab goes in her crate all hours of the day when someone is home. It's her safety zone.

    I'm an animal person too - but I'm smart enough to realize that dogs can be kept in crates if needed.

    Boarding a dog once a week so you can spend a night at a bf's house is a waste of money.

    Your dog doesn't have ADD, your dog is a dog that needs regular exercise and mental stimulation. A properly trained and exercised dog won't get into your things/knock stuff over/ruin furniture - it just takes work to get there. Crate training is incredibly important, and I understand that some people will leave their dog in the crate while they're at work.

    Of COURSE the dog knows the difference between having free reign and being in a crate for 16 hours. What on earth would possess you to make a claim like that? Your concept of animal awareness and intelligence is very archaic.

    A dog choosing to nap in a crate and being locked up for hours at a time is different, a difference that your dog recognizes. You like sleeping in your bed, but if someone shut and locked the door for 8 hours I'm pretty sure you'd notice the difference too.

    When I say I'm an "animal person" I don't just mean I think dogs are cute. I mean I am an animal sciences major with a background in animal training and behavior and it's my chosen career. So it's great that you're smart enough to understand that crates can be a necessity, but I suggest re-examining what you think you know. I highly suggest checking out the studies and books by Karen Pryor and Ken Ramirez.

    It's a waste of money to -you- but you don't get to determine where someone else might find worth.

    I love how you think you know my dog(s) and don't even have a clue as to what I do for a profession. This dog gets over 2 hours of exercise and running a day.

    Please, move on.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    Why should every dog be crate trained? Why would you put your dog in crate?

    It really breaks down to being a good training tool. My lab treats her crate as her safety zone. She's never disciplined when she's in her crate.

    There are hundreds of reasons as to why you would put your dog in a crate.
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    There's no point having a dog if you're going to crate it for that long regularly. It's horrific. Do you not have a properly fenced in backyard? Labs or pointers aren't exactly apartment dogs. If she has an issue with jumping the fence, look into creating a kennel space in the backyard - it should be much larger than her crate, have shelter from the elements but also allow her enough yard to use the restroom and loll about if she wants to.

    If that's not doable, there's nothing wrong with boarding your dog for one night a week or something like that. It's actually awesome to do that instead of keeping her in a crate for 16 hours (breaks my heart :,( but I'm an animal person).

    Then of course there's the best option - introduce your dogs! Have a date where you hit up a dog park and bring all your dogs so they can play around and sniff each others butts! You say there's no aggression so go for it! Before you bring your dog to his house, give him a blanket/towel that your dog sleeps on so that he can put it somewhere in his house for his dogs to explore. That ways they can get accustomed to her scent before she comes over for the first time.

    Remember when you introduce them to have the leashes ON and only one dog meets one dog at a time!! Have treats and toys ready so that they associate the meeting of that dog with good things.

    Good luck! :)

    Our dogs aren't regularly in their crate for 16 hours, but if they need to be they can be. My older lab still likes to get curious and into stuff - so she used to be in a crate when we're at work (now when my Mom is, since she lives w/ my mom) and my other dog is the same, she has to - she's ADD and gets into books/etc.

    There's no reason why a dog can't stay in a crate. They don't care, they don't know the difference. Granted if they don't need be in a crate, then great. But if they do, it's perfectly fine.

    My lab goes in her crate all hours of the day when someone is home. It's her safety zone.

    I'm an animal person too - but I'm smart enough to realize that dogs can be kept in crates if needed.

    Boarding a dog once a week so you can spend a night at a bf's house is a waste of money.

    Your dog doesn't have ADD, your dog is a dog that needs regular exercise and mental stimulation. A properly trained and exercised dog won't get into your things/knock stuff over/ruin furniture - it just takes work to get there. Crate training is incredibly important, and I understand that some people will leave their dog in the crate while they're at work.

    Of COURSE the dog knows the difference between having free reign and being in a crate for 16 hours. What on earth would possess you to make a claim like that? Your concept of animal awareness and intelligence is very archaic.

    A dog choosing to nap in a crate and being locked up for hours at a time is different, a difference that your dog recognizes. You like sleeping in your bed, but if someone shut and locked the door for 8 hours I'm pretty sure you'd notice the difference too.

    When I say I'm an "animal person" I don't just mean I think dogs are cute. I mean I am an animal sciences major with a background in animal training and behavior and it's my chosen career. So it's great that you're smart enough to understand that crates can be a necessity, but I suggest re-examining what you think you know. I highly suggest checking out the studies and books by Karen Pryor and Ken Ramirez.

    It's a waste of money to -you- but you don't get to determine where someone else might find worth.

    I love how you think you know my dog(s) and don't even have a clue as to what I do for a profession. This dog gets over 2 hours of exercise and running a day.

    Please, move on.

    I don't need to know your dogs to know that if they regularly get into things they shouldn't be getting into when you let them out that they aren't properly trained. It's wonderful that you have the exercise part down though :)

    I wasn't aware that you have a background in animal sciences and behavior! What do you do?
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    There's no point having a dog if you're going to crate it for that long regularly. It's horrific. Do you not have a properly fenced in backyard? Labs or pointers aren't exactly apartment dogs. If she has an issue with jumping the fence, look into creating a kennel space in the backyard - it should be much larger than her crate, have shelter from the elements but also allow her enough yard to use the restroom and loll about if she wants to.

    If that's not doable, there's nothing wrong with boarding your dog for one night a week or something like that. It's actually awesome to do that instead of keeping her in a crate for 16 hours (breaks my heart :,( but I'm an animal person).

    Then of course there's the best option - introduce your dogs! Have a date where you hit up a dog park and bring all your dogs so they can play around and sniff each others butts! You say there's no aggression so go for it! Before you bring your dog to his house, give him a blanket/towel that your dog sleeps on so that he can put it somewhere in his house for his dogs to explore. That ways they can get accustomed to her scent before she comes over for the first time.

    Remember when you introduce them to have the leashes ON and only one dog meets one dog at a time!! Have treats and toys ready so that they associate the meeting of that dog with good things.

    Good luck! :)

    Our dogs aren't regularly in their crate for 16 hours, but if they need to be they can be. My older lab still likes to get curious and into stuff - so she used to be in a crate when we're at work (now when my Mom is, since she lives w/ my mom) and my other dog is the same, she has to - she's ADD and gets into books/etc.

    There's no reason why a dog can't stay in a crate. They don't care, they don't know the difference. Granted if they don't need be in a crate, then great. But if they do, it's perfectly fine.

    My lab goes in her crate all hours of the day when someone is home. It's her safety zone.

    I'm an animal person too - but I'm smart enough to realize that dogs can be kept in crates if needed.

    Boarding a dog once a week so you can spend a night at a bf's house is a waste of money.

    Your dog doesn't have ADD, your dog is a dog that needs regular exercise and mental stimulation. A properly trained and exercised dog won't get into your things/knock stuff over/ruin furniture - it just takes work to get there. Crate training is incredibly important, and I understand that some people will leave their dog in the crate while they're at work.

    Of COURSE the dog knows the difference between having free reign and being in a crate for 16 hours. What on earth would possess you to make a claim like that? Your concept of animal awareness and intelligence is very archaic.

    A dog choosing to nap in a crate and being locked up for hours at a time is different, a difference that your dog recognizes. You like sleeping in your bed, but if someone shut and locked the door for 8 hours I'm pretty sure you'd notice the difference too.

    When I say I'm an "animal person" I don't just mean I think dogs are cute. I mean I am an animal sciences major with a background in animal training and behavior and it's my chosen career. So it's great that you're smart enough to understand that crates can be a necessity, but I suggest re-examining what you think you know. I highly suggest checking out the studies and books by Karen Pryor and Ken Ramirez.

    It's a waste of money to -you- but you don't get to determine where someone else might find worth.

    I love how you think you know my dog(s) and don't even have a clue as to what I do for a profession. This dog gets over 2 hours of exercise and running a day.

    Please, move on.

    I don't need to know your dogs to know that if they regularly get into things they shouldn't be getting into when you let them out that they aren't properly trained. It's wonderful that you have the exercise part down though :)

    I wasn't aware that you have a background in animal sciences and behavior! What do you do?

    Again, please drop the subject. I'm trying to be polite here. Please continue to live your life with a blanket assumption that all dogs have the same behavior.

    Just drop it. Do not reply to me or this post.
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    Just happened upon this article today and thought it might interest those of you who have dogs:
    http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/study-reveals-dog-dating-life-190000242.html
  • BelMckenzie
    BelMckenzie Posts: 249
    Just happened upon this article today and thought it might interest those of you who have dogs:
    http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/study-reveals-dog-dating-life-190000242.html

    I just sent this to the guy I'm dating and told him his dog is giving him a bad rep. Thanks for the article!
  • i keep mine in a laundry basket. lol

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    Thunderstorm by Rusty Clark, on Flickr

    actually, she hates thunder and hides in the closet. dirty clothes make her feel safe, i guess.