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To Smart to date
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absolutely not! I would rather date someone I can have an intelligent conversation with than someone acting like an idiot all night. Although men lilke that are few and far between, so the journey for him continues ...0
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I refuse to dumb myself down because if I'm not with someone who will intellectually stimulate me, I get soooooo bored. I'd rather be smart and single than dumb and bored. But that's just me.
That said, if a guy wants to feel really intelligent with me, he should just talk cars, because as far as I'm concerned, cars are magic. If I turn the key and it doesn't turn on, the magic is broken.0 -
lol I hear the same thing from my friends, that I'm TOO smart to date.
I'm highly educated (masters in engineering), applying to go for my PhD, and I have a lot of interests (part time plus size model, active in my church, working 2 jobs), which keep me super busy so apparently I "scare" guys off.
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One of my friends told me last night that I need to dumb-down...a lot.
Seriously?
Good start with the spelling... ;-)
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Watch reality tv shows like Jersey Shore for long periods of time then you wont have to pretend to dumb it down, it will be real.0
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There were intentions of joking on you about the topic line....
Refusal to dumb down is about self-confidence. If a guy's preference is dumber and cutesy, he's relegated to the friend sand box, and not sharing my toys, unless I choose and purely for entertainment purposes. Kinda like a lioness playing with her food.......0 -
I have nothing against intelligence, I think many people look for it in a date. It's how people choose to show their intelligence that can be a real turn off. If someone is constantly trying to show you that they're smarter than you or just plain condescending then it's goodbye!0
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Based on how many idiots that are out there, yeah, you need to dumb it down, make fun of everyone, and booty dance on the table.
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Apparently intelligence is intimidating.
As am I.
P.S. I'd rather be alone and awesome than pretend I'm a stupid b*tch to get attention.
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:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:no. other people just need to either not be such non-curious, simple minded dullards or at least stop complaining when the rest of us smarties treat them like minions
Anyway, I generally explain to people that they had to create a new IQ scale to cater for my superior mind. The [insert your name here]-Scale.
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Unless you're constantly trying to prove how smart you are or how smart I'm not, then don't dumb it down at all. I'd love to find an intelligent man.0
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And there I was thinking it was only clever girls who got told to 'dumb it down'...that's the first time I've heard of a male receiving that suggestion. I agree with the majority here - don't do it. I've never seen the point. Pretending to be someone you aren't is a form of dishonesty, which sets any resulting relationship up for problems before it's even begun. Most women of comparable intellect will find intelligence highly attractive in a man - you just have to find them! Maybe a better approach would be to change the places you go to meet women - late openings at museums, places near colleges with significant post-graduate populations or venues frequented by professional groups with higher-than-average IQs are a few options that come to mind.0
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Sorry, but I just don't buy that intelligence, in and of itself, is a dealbreaker. If you're into someone, you're turned on by how intelligent he/she is. If you're not into the person (no physical chemistry, personalities don't mesh, etc.), you'll use intelligence as an excuse to stop seeing them because it sounds less assholish to say "You're too smart for me," than "I just don't like you very much."0
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I guess my thought is .. who are you trying to date that you have to dumb it down for??0
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A woman, of course. Silly question!I guess my thought is .. who are you trying to date that you have to dumb it down for??0 -
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A woman, of course. Silly question!
OH MY GOSH... you DID NOT just go there! LMAO! Friggin' Flam.....:grumble:
Good thing I like you...or I'd be hunting you down.... :flowerforyou:0 -
A woman, of course. Silly question!I guess my thought is .. who are you trying to date that you have to dumb it down for??
LOL .. this is one of those shake my head at you moments. ha!
I MEANT .. what kind of woman is he dating that he has to dumb himself down for and is that someone he really wants to date anyway.0 -
I'm surprised that a guy would be told to "dumb himself down" a bit. I thought that smart men were thought of as being attractive? I've always been attracted to intelligent women. Sadly, I've never dated a woman who was more intelligent to me. Given my age (48), I doubt that it will ever happen. What I've noticed though is that as people age they tend to use less of their intellect, if they have any. A lot of the hobbies that middle aged women do involve either watching television or arts and crafts. Neither of them is a turn-on for me.0
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Be yourself. Only. Always.
I prefer to date someone who can actually carry on an intelligent conversation. However, I also agree that I do not like arrogant "know it alls." I do not mind dating someone more intelligent than myself as long as he is not condescending.
But never "dumb yourself down" for anyone. Be who you are. The right person will like and accept you for you.0 -
I think intellegent men are sexy. It is was I personally gravitate towards. Most of my significant others have had mastersdegrees or PHD/MD's. I have been told that I need to dumb things down too. I actually told my lat boyfriend I enjoyed conversing with him because I didn;t have to dumb things down when I spoke with him and he got offended because he said he usually just guessed what I was meaning by the context of the sentence. Still making him smart, but he didn't get that. Furthermore, I look so young it really intimidates people or they don't find me credible. I used to get called encyclopedia in college because of my excessive use of precise words. I pride myself on being articulate. However, men do find that challenging. When a man can't comprehend what you are saying it gives them some sort of complex. My problem is with texting, online dating, and anything that involves typing. My dyslexia causes havoc with my spelling and proper word usage like too and to. Those nuances may seem simplistic and obvious to others but my disability might as well make it quantum physics. This does not make me ignorant, stupid, or uneducated. To make things more entertaining spell check often fails to acknowledge my interpretation of phonetics. I wish sites like MFP would consider including a spell check because I see so much drama and hatred aimed at those individuals who do not spell or punctuate perfectly. Believe me if this was not my work PC I would have firefox installed immediately. Don;t change who you are. Women love smart men.0
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