Hey guys, what would you think if...

kansasbelle

I was sitting in my office (where I work with the severely mentally ill) when a client came in and started to ask me about my Match.com profile, which I took down that evening. My friend called me yesterday several times on her first Match.com date just to check in. I would just get his info ahead of time. Also google them. If you have there name you can usually find a facebook page or place of employment to show they are who they say they are. Plus a lot of times an address. So you can give your friend that information without making the guy think you are crazy. I have been stalked twice now from online dating in small town america. Someone actually got one of my business cards and when I turned them down on line they started calling my work cell. Also asked when I was going to church again. I threatened the police. the second one I hadn't met but lived two hours away. he just happened to be in town. I got a message asking if it was me at the grocery store at 6 pm. It was and I was very unhappy.

ItsCasey

It does bother me that a lot of men are so put off by a woman taking precautions about dating someone she doesn't know. I understand why, on a 4th or 5th date, a guy might be offended if a woman is still acting like he might be a serial killer. But you have to realize that MANY women have been stalked and even attacked by guys who seemed harmless. It is more common than most men seem to understand.

I do think women need to do a better job of listening to and following their instincts, though. It's not just about following rules like always letting a friend know where you are, whom you're with, and when you expect to be home. That gives you a false sense of security and dulls any gut feeling you might otherwise get about a person. Following rules is rarely going to be enough if you're with someone who intends to hurt you. You have to learn how to read people and when to stay away from someone when it just doesn't feel right. Frankly, if you've been on 2 or 3 dates, and you still feel uncomfortable, it's time to move on.

mrmanmeat

I figure if someone is out to murder you, which is about a 1 in a 100 million chance, then there isnt a lot you can do to prevent it! Asking for ID is about as secure as them giving you their real name in the first place!

Hold your breath and whisper to Jesus, we all gotta go some day! :flowerforyou: :bigsmile:

They're also not going to wait until the 5th date to do it.