Meeting the friends/co-workers...

BelMckenzie

So the guy I have been dating for a couple of months wants me to come to a work event today after I'm done with work. I am so flipping nervous to meet his friends/co-workers (really his only friends in the area since he moved here over a year ago). I know I am an awesome person that is very easy-going so I tend to get along with everyone but it's not helping my nerves. I tend not to get nervous in these situations but damn, I really like this guy

Also, It's a blood drive and I am horrible at donating since I have low iron and usually get really sick and have to sit in the vehicle for an hour or more after I donate then I am light headed for the next few hours. He wants me to go out after with his co-workers so I am thinking I am going to forgo donating and maybe go in another time to donate (I think that is a good compromise).

So any good pointers or tips to calm my nerves? How about any bad stories about meeting friends for the first time??

My bad stories always include a jealous friend who has a giant crush on my new guy who either then talks badly about me or the guy. I already met 2 jealous girls that are in love with my guy from our meet up group.

ItsCasey

I don't get nervous about meeting friends or family or co-workers. The only thing I hate is when a guy treats me differently around those people than he does when we're alone. Some guys become total *kitten* when they bring a girl around their friends, I guess because they think letting people know you actually like the girl you're dating makes you seem weak.

christine24t

Maybe if you're nervous about donating because of your health issues, just say "I have low
Iron and when I have donated before I get sick but I'll be here to hang out with you guys and give you snacks!" I don't think anyone judges anyone for not donating. I usually do but the last time I did I had a bad experience and felt sick so I get what it is like.

mrmanmeat

So the guy I have been dating for a couple of months wants me to come to a work event today after I'm done with work. I am so flipping nervous to meet his friends/co-workers (really his only friends in the area since he moved here over a year ago). I know I am an awesome person that is very easy-going so I tend to get along with everyone but it's not helping my nerves. I tend not to get nervous in these situations but damn, I really like this guy

Also, It's a blood drive and I am horrible at donating since I have low iron and usually get really sick and have to sit in the vehicle for an hour or more after I donate then I am light headed for the next few hours. He wants me to go out after with his co-workers so I am thinking I am going to forgo donating and maybe go in another time to donate (I think that is a good compromise).

So any good pointers or tips to calm my nerves? How about any bad stories about meeting friends for the first time??

My bad stories always include a jealous friend who has a giant crush on my new guy who either then talks badly about me or the guy. I already met 2 jealous girls that are in love with my guy from our meet up group.

Just be the girl he's dating. Stop over thinking it. You don't HAVE to donate.

BelMckenzie

Just be the girl he's dating. Stop over thinking it. You don't HAVE to donate.

I will always be myself- thanks for the slap of reality!

As of right now, I'm not planing on donating.

oddyogi

Don't worry about being nervous, I'm sure it will go away within a few minutes of arriving! I always get more nervous introducing boyfriends to my friends than I do meeting my guy's friends because my friends can be tools sometimes, lol.

MissingMinnesota

Really I am suprised they take your blood if you have low iron. I am anemic and they won't take mine. I have friends that work at the red cross and I know they said they wouldn't allow me to donate.

Back to orginal question. Since you are not going to donate have a drink before hand.

BelMckenzie

Really I am suprised they take your blood if you have low iron. I am anemic and they won't take mine. I have friends that work at the red cross and I know they said they wouldn't allow me to donate.

Back to orginal question. Since you are not going to donate have a drink before hand.

I have to take iron supplements to donate, but I do get denied sometimes for low iron too. I ended up getting done with work later then I anticipated, plus I was so nervous to donate that I ended up showing up 40 minutes late and missed the blood drive part. We talked for a bit and said he would call later when they went to drinks. He also told me he couldn't hug me since he was at work (we always say goodbye with a hug and kiss) which bothered me a bit, but I understand where he is coming from (he is the boss). He texted me later when they went out to drinks since it took them awhile to disassemble everything. I got there 20 minutes later and he was already toasted and didn't introduce me to anyone. I introduced myself to a few people. I ended up following him home to make sure he got there since he insisted he was fine. Over all, it was not a night to be nervous about and I was a little disappointed in how it turned out.

christine24t

Aw I'm sorry that things didn't go so well.

I'm sure it didn't help that you weren't there the whole time for meeting the gang. One of my biggest pet peeves is when nobody introduces you to the group and it's awkward, so I completely understand where you are coming from.

Hopefully you're able to meet them again but in a better setting.