Women, would you date a man that weighed less than you?
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JJ, I hugged you and I felt like I was hugging a woman! LOL you always describe yourself as an NFL linebacker and that's not the case. We perceive ourselves as way bigger than we really are! :flowerforyou:
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I'm taking that from the guys who made comments about it. I used to get my feelings really hurt when they say things like, "I think you're hot, and have always been attracted to women built like linebackers." Growing up, I thought I was the cutest thing and never understood how in pictures I always seemed bigger than the other girls... bigger than I felt like I was in real life. I always thought it was a bad camera angle. Now I just accept it and warn the guys up front and if they say something I try to laugh it off.
BTW, I was surprised to see you write about a guy being smaller... you're so tiny I can't even imagine that!!0 -
I had a little fwb/fling with a guy that had a beaaauuutiful body. I think he was 5'8 160 lbs and when we were hanging out I just started losing weight so I know the first time we got together I definitely weighed more than him (I think I was around 175). I was insanely attracted to him but I also kind of thought to myself this guy could have any girl, is he really attracted to me, etc. In the end there just wasn't any connection mentally or emotionally so it kind of fizzled out which doesn't really bother me but he was definitely nice to look at :devil:0
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Toward the end when I had gained weight my ex weighed less than I did. It isn't a huge issue for me going forward because if a few pounds is the deal breaker than the guy isn't right for me anyway...
I think this is a similar question to the height thing though. I'm 5'10" and a lot of guys can be intimidated by that, but the ones who like it REALLY seem to like it! And at least online, many ask if it's actually true, but why would I lie about something so basic that I can't change?0 -
I just found out that the guy I am currently dating actually weighs less than me. I find this a bit disturbing since I consider myself fairly thin these days. I do wish he was more built as I like a man I can hold onto, but he is extremely funny and we really click. Really, personality goes a lonnnnnnnnng way.
I say give the guy a chance, but still trust your instinct so if you don't feel it after a date or two, don't lead the poor guy on.0 -
I personally wouldn't want to be thin myself. I'm 6'3 and my doctor says I should be 175-190. I think he is crazy. I am shooting for 200-220 range.
I'm 6'2", and now weigh 190 pounds. I think I"m starting to look thin, maybe even too thin. The strange thing is that according to my BMI, I was "overweight" at 196 pounds. So I'm still at the high end of the "normal" BMI scale. I believe 175 is the middle for my height. Long story short, if you want to be completely "normal" weight wise (from a BMI perspective, probably what your doctor is using), you will probably look much thinner than what many people now consider normal. Or so it seems to me.
So you're probably right to target 200. I think 220 would be too much, but to each his own. Besides, judging from comments in this thread, it might be better for you to stop at 230, if you're not already there... :-)
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JJ, I hugged you and I felt like I was hugging a woman! LOL you always describe yourself as an NFL linebacker and that's not the case. We perceive ourselves as way bigger than we really are! :flowerforyou:
Thanks ;-)
I'm taking that from the guys who made comments about it. I used to get my feelings really hurt when they say things like, "I think you're hot, and have always been attracted to women built like linebackers." Growing up, I thought I was the cutest thing and never understood how in pictures I always seemed bigger than the other girls... bigger than I felt like I was in real life. I always thought it was a bad camera angle. Now I just accept it and warn the guys up front and if they say something I try to laugh it off.
BTW, I was surprised to see you write about a guy being smaller... you're so tiny I can't even imagine that!!
Lol, SEE! I feel like my shoulders are huge. I even had a guy tell me a few months ago that I should stop working out my shoulders and back because they were getting too muscular. PFFT.
I have a medium/almost large frame, so I am definitely the "stockier" one of me and my friends, but they all have tiny frames with teeny weeny waists! I know I'm not that big, but it takes a lot of reassuring myself lol.0 -
I'm 6'3" and am bouncing around between 200-210. In the winter I like to weigh around 220, for warmth,hahah. I have never dated a woman bigger than me. I have been on dates with a woman nearly 6 ft tall and I always thought she was amazingly sexy, but I've also dated short tiny women, my ex is 5'2" ish and maybe 115.
I don't think I would mind dating a woman who is 6' and weighed a bit as long as it was shapely and not just a spare tire. I find the whole ridiculously thin women a bit of a turnoff lately. I like fit and that includes some muscle tone. My sister told me of a website (I forget it now) but it was normal women taking pics and listing their size etc so you can see what a 5'6" 160 lb woman actually looks like. It was pretty cool0 -
Mybodygallery.com. I think it was called0
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My ex was 6'4 and 190...he was normal...slightly on thinner side, but before I met him he had been 165...at 6'4...that is anorexic looking--he had high metabolism. But I was bigger, weight wise smaller height wise so it worked for me at the time.0
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I'm just a hair under 6' so I'm well versed in the tall girl dating laments.
In a perfect world I'd love to be with a guy a few inches taller than me and not be the same/more weight than him. The reality is I often date guys my height or a few inches shorter. I'm usually the heavier one. I have to remember that if there's a problem with that, it's usually my issue and not theirs. I'm just terribly uncomfortable if they are vocal about it being their thing (being with taller/bigger women) because it just brings out my insecurities.
But, the funny part is that because I'm tall guys usually assume I weigh a lot less than I do. Who am I to break that illusion
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It's rare for me to date a woman who weighs less than me, it has happened but she generally has to be quite short. I guess with 2/3 of people in my country being overweight/obese the odds are stacked that way. Anyway I'm losing weight and in contact with a short woman from overseas who weighs my goal weight (66kg). She's planning to lose weight so she can weigh less than me. It will be interesting to see how that goes, or she'll just settle into being okay standing next to me, given that (sadly) most people fail at losing weight.0
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I have, many times, including once when I weighed all of 120 pounds. He was just a tiny little thing. In more ways than one, sad to say.0
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If he weighed less than 111 pounds, or anywhere near that I would barf!!!0
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If he weighed less than 111 pounds, or anywhere near that I would barf!!!
That's disrespectful to light men. How would some of the people here feel if I wrote "If she weighed more than 222 pounds... then what you wrote?0 -
If he weighed less than 111 pounds, or anywhere near that I would barf!!!
That's disrespectful to light men. How would some of the people here feel if I wrote "If she weighed more than 222 pounds... then what you wrote?
It's a discussion forum. Chill out. She doesn't like "light men." She's being honest. Get over it.
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That's disrespectful to light men.If he weighed less than 111 pounds, or anywhere near that I would barf!!!0 -
I may not agree with the statement, but I would feel like "Finally! it's about time the guys were being honest!"If he weighed less than 111 pounds, or anywhere near that I would barf!!!
That's disrespectful to light men. How would some of the people here feel if I wrote "If she weighed more than 222 pounds... then what you wrote?
Edit: the guys here at Single Peeps HAVE been pretty honest about what they like and don't like...I'm just saying "guys" in general.0
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