Men, is this true??

JanieJack

This might be another one where you prefer to in box me, lol.

A dating blog (run by a man) said the following:

Men heal their emotional wounds by hurting the source of their pain. In this case, you dumped him and that was a booboo to his ego. His insults are NOT a reflection of his true feelings for you, their are a reflection of his need to hurt you so he can feel better about himself. In fact, the meaner his messages are the more you know you hurt his ego.

And his messages betray how he really feels about you. If you were someone of no consequence to him, he wouldn’t bother insulting you now.

What do you think about that? How much truth is there to what this guy is saying?

Roadie2000

Men? :laugh:

I'll admit I've done this a couple times in the past and I'm not proud of it. I was mainly just pissed that I got hurt and wanted to hurt them back. One cheated on me though so I probably meant everything I said. The other I apologized to the next day.

But women have done this to me too. One girl I broke things off with and she called me right back to ***** me out and tell me she didn't even like me.

dbrightwell1270

I think it is a generalization that has a tendency to be more prevalent in men than it is in women but I am not sure if it is the most prevalent character in men. It's just a variation of the argument that when men get angry or hurt that they externalize the feeling while women will internalize the feeling. A classic example is that men are more likely to kill a spouse when the relationship breaks up and women are more likely to commit suicide. In all reality if the probability of either a suicide or a homocide was the most likely outcome of a failed relationship, I imagine there would be many more single people and we wouldn't have this group discussing what attracts the opposite sex. If anything, the topics would be how can I be more repulsive to the opposite sex.

MissingMinnesota

I don't think this is just men. I think most people will lash out at those that hurt them. Men might be more direct and go right to the person that broke up with them while women will go and tell others things that they know will get back to the guy in an indirect way.

flimflamfloz

What do you think about that? How much truth is there to what this guy is saying?

It must be true for him then, certainly not for me.
I've never insulted any girl after being dumped... I just take my pain with me and leave her, as she asked.

At "worst", I'll try to reconnect a few times and fail miserably. That doesn't mean they were girl I didn't care about, just that I don't have much choice but to accept their decision, as painful as it may be.

About the "ego", my reaction would be to think "Oh yeah?! It's your loss hun. You'll see who will have the last laugh: you're going to come back crawling when you realise what you're missing now! Ahaha!". And of course they never do.

AnnaPixie

What do you think about that? How much truth is there to what this guy is saying?

It must be true for him then, certainly not for me.
I've never insulted any girl after being dumped... I just take my pain with me and leave her, as she asked.

At "worst", I'll try to reconnect a few times and fail miserably. That doesn't mean they were girl I didn't care about, just that I don't have much choice but to accept their decision, as painful as it may be.

About the "ego", my reaction would be to think "Oh yeah?! It's your loss hun. You'll see who will have the last laugh: you're going to come back crawling when you realise what you're missing now! Ahaha!". And of course they never do.

Awwwww :flowerforyou:

I hope this hasn't happened recently????

MaraDiaz

It's not just men. I should hope I'm past that stage of immaturity, but I've definitely been guilty of it.

AnnaPixie

Oh! And I've never been insulted by an ex. Guess they didnt love me enough :laugh:

Jeneba

Describes "Someone" I know (& probably love) PERFECTLY! :ohwell: