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Men... what are the signs?
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I usually poke them on the shoulder and yell that she has cooties. :blushing:
As long as you don't shove her to the ground and her ending up getting hurt unless you want to "heal" her cooties0 -
I usually poke them on the shoulder and yell that she has cooties. :blushing:
is that why you did that to me??0 -
But from my experience, women 30 - 45 just don't cook.
Haha, that's funny because I hear a lot of men say that about women in general. I was fortunate enough to learn at a very early age and I can cook & bake excellently even though I fall in your age group range there. Maybe it's just the women you meet.. we aren't all that way.
me too- I learned to cook early on and I LOVE to cook. I just hate cooking for just me - that is hard! I make mean caramel brownies (homemade caramel and homemade brownies)0 -
Ok I love to cook when I have time.. Don't get me wrong I do weekday cooking to but its usually simple quick things. However I have noticed alot of my contemporaries don't cook. I wonder about that I have children and its expensive to eat out all the time. Wouldn't you learn to cook just out of selfpreservation lol. I come from a hispanic family and have been chopping mixing and stiring since I was 70
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Ok I love to cook when I have time.. Don't get me wrong I do weekday cooking to but its usually simple quick things. However I have noticed alot of my contemporaries don't cook. I wonder about that I have children and its expensive to eat out all the time. Wouldn't you learn to cook just out of selfpreservation lol. I come from a hispanic family and have been chopping mixing and stiring since I was 7
Of course I know how to cook. I just don't like it. I also don't like the fact that men think that I, because I am a woman, should cook.0 -
Does this mean I am not getting a sammich? :frown:0
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I usually poke them on the shoulder and yell that she has cooties. :blushing:
is that why you did that to me??
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I am happy to HELP with the cooking. I am a great cook, just don't want to do it every night. I think it should be a shared responsibility.0
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No doubt every woman posting here is a fabulous cook and loves being in the kitchen, etc., etc., etc. But from my experience, women 30 - 45 just don't cook. At least not well... Flame away, ladies! ;-)
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Um .. why do woman have to cook?? This ticks me off. The day I had to go get a job and work full time, while raising kids, while cleaning the house, mowing the lawn, taking care of my own car ... men have what right to be sad that I don't want to focking cook their dinner too. So you all complain that women don't cook, wah wah, boo hoo .. then in another topic you have the b@lls to say that you want a woman who is self-sufficient, who is thin, who is toned, who keeps herself up .. who works, who wants kids, who can cook. No ... you don't want a partner, you want someone who does it ALL for YOU.
What exactly are you bringing to the table if we are doing all of that? Your ****?? Um .. yeh .. thanks.. I will go get a couple more batteries. grrrrrrrrr.
edited to add .. not "you" as in you .. but "you" as in men
I'm sorry you don't like it but it is an evolutionary fact that women were meant to cook and clean. You all have smaller feet so you can get closer to the stove and sink. Don't be mad at the men. It's just how nature intended it. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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Around here, a sure sign of a man liking a woman is the guy asking her to cook and for him......That is, if she's a good cook. lol. And don't ever forget the canoli's and their coffee!! lol
Not to derail this topic, but I'd love for a woman to cook for me. My ex rarely cooked. When she did it was terrible. I cooked almost all the meals in our house. That's one of the reasons the kids hated it when I was away on business, as they had to eat their mother's food...
I think she thought it was beneath her as a modern, successful woman, etc., etc. I get the feeling that lots of women think this way: I'm working now, cooking is what my stay at home mother did, that's not me, etc., etc. Of couse, after the kids were born, she stopped working, but never bothered to learn to cook. Which meant I was always cooking and working. But she did usually clean the kitchen afterwards, so at least that...
No doubt every woman posting here is a fabulous cook and loves being in the kitchen, etc., etc., etc. But from my experience, women 30 - 45 just don't cook. At least not well... Flame away, ladies! ;-)
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Granted, I'm not yet 30 (give it two months) but I LOVE cooking. I would rather cook than go out any day, even if it's an old stand by like spaghetti. I love trying new dishes. Maybe I'm just weird like that. I would rather cook most of the meals too. And do the kitchen afterwards. I'm strange like that.0 -
Ok I love to cook when I have time.. Don't get me wrong I do weekday cooking to but its usually simple quick things. However I have noticed alot of my contemporaries don't cook. I wonder about that I have children and its expensive to eat out all the time. Wouldn't you learn to cook just out of selfpreservation lol. I come from a hispanic family and have been chopping mixing and stiring since I was 7
Of course I know how to cook. I just don't like it. I also don't like the fact that men think that I, because I am a woman, should cook.
That not what he saying though . He isnt saying a women should do all the cooking. I don't believe anyone person should do all the cooking unless there is no choice. He's just saying she couldn't cook.
Also if she was the stay at home parent the house is mostly her responsibility. When my ex and I were together he was the stay at home parent and 90% of the cooking and cleaning was his responsibility0 -
1 - I thought I was clear that I'd like a partner who can cook with me in the kitchen. Take turns perhaps, or even cook together at times.
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I love this idea! Love cooking WITH my partner in the kitchen, and every once in a while brushing up against each other or stopping for a kiss or...
P.S. How do YOU like your eggs?
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1 - I thought I was clear that I'd like a partner who can cook with me in the kitchen. Take turns perhaps, or even cook together at times.
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I love this idea! Love cooking WITH my partner in the kitchen, and every once in a while brushing up against each other or stopping for a kiss or...
P.S. How do YOU like your eggs?
Wow, thanks for asking! I'm in shock.... ;-)
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Ouch, you sound a little bitter. Please don't take it out on all of us men if you were in a bad relationship with someone who expected you to do all the work (if that is indeed the case, I'm just assuming you are speaking from experience).Um .. why do woman have to cook?? This ticks me off. The day I had to go get a job and work full time, while raising kids, while cleaning the house, mowing the lawn, taking care of my own car ... men have what right to be sad that I don't want to focking cook their dinner too. So you all complain that women don't cook, wah wah, boo hoo .. then in another topic you have the b@lls to say that you want a woman who is self-sufficient, who is thin, who is toned, who keeps herself up .. who works, who wants kids, who can cook. No ... you don't want a partner, you want someone who does it ALL for YOU.
What exactly are you bringing to the table if we are doing all of that? Your ****?? Um .. yeh .. thanks.. I will go get a couple more batteries. grrrrrrrrr.
edited to add .. not "you" as in you .. but "you" as in men
I, for one, hate to cook. I do enjoy cooking more when it is with somebody, but I'm fine with doing the dishes and cleaning up after. The majority of the women I know claim to actually enjoy cooking. So guys like me are generally looking for a woman who can cook. And yes, most guys like women who are in shape and take care of themselves too. It's really not that much to ask. I work 9 hours a day, usually 6 days a week, I manage to go to the gym, cut the grass, maintain my car, feed myself, pay bills, take care of the dog, the last thing I want to do is cook too.0 -
1 - I thought I was clear that I'd like a partner who can cook with me in the kitchen. Take turns perhaps, or even cook together at times.
I suppose you are right in a way. I do expect a lot from a future gf/wife. But I'm not asking anything from my partner that I don't expect from myself, that I'm not also bringing to the table.
I think cooking TOGETHER is the sexiest thing. Especially if he's showing me his knife skills. :P
And I agree. I wouldn't ask for anything that I can give in the relationship either.
Most of us women tend to overanalyze every little detail of what happens on a date/in a relationship and sometimes we just need a swift kick in the pants (so to speak) of what men may do when their interested. Thanks for being honest!
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Um .. why do woman have to cook?? This ticks me off. The day I had to go get a job and work full time, while raising kids, while cleaning the house, mowing the lawn, taking care of my own car ... men have what right to be sad that I don't want to focking cook their dinner too. So you all complain that women don't cook, wah wah, boo hoo .. then in another topic you have the b@lls to say that you want a woman who is self-sufficient, who is thin, who is toned, who keeps herself up .. who works, who wants kids, who can cook. No ... you don't want a partner, you want someone who does it ALL for YOU.
What exactly are you bringing to the table if we are doing all of that? Your ****?? Um .. yeh .. thanks.. I will go get a couple more batteries. grrrrrrrrr.
I just wrote a very long reply to this, but I decided to delete it. Let's just say that initial post would have been my first strike here at MFP without a doubt... :-)
However, let me just say the following (here's the friendlier version):
1 - I thought I was clear that I'd like a partner who can cook with me in the kitchen. Take turns perhaps, or even cook together at times. You know, 50-50. Get it? I didn't say anything about me lounging on the couch, demanding dinner and a beer from my poor, exhausted but "toned" partner. I have no idea where you got this from.
2 - I did almost all the cooking in my marriage. My ex, to her credit, usually cleaned the kitchen. I'll give her that. The 10% of the time she cooked, I of course cleaned the kitchen. She never cooked for me, never bothered to learn what I like, to this day has no clue how I like my eggs, etc. She cooked for the kids, but OK, at least that. But again, once a week, max. On the other hand, I know how she likes certain meals, because I bothered to ask.
3 - My wife didn't work. She has two university degrees, and had a great job when we met. But after the kids were born, she chose to stay at home. That was fine by me, as I told her it's up to her: go back to work, or stay at home to manage the house and raise the kids. We fortunately didn't need the money. She, however, chose a third option: staying at home and spending very little time with the kids or managing the house.
4 - I had a nanny who saved me. When I traveled on business, she was working 12-14 hours a day. She more or less raised my kids when I wasn't there. Fortunately, she was fantastic (bless you, Petra). When I came back from a business trip, she went straight home, exhausted. It was usually left up to me to take care of the kids and cook, after the nanny left. No matter that I just spent 3 days in Moscow (or wherever), just got off a plane, still jet lagged, exhausted. Never mind that my wife had no job.
5 - Yeah, I'm an idiot for letting the situation deteriorate like that. I should have given her an ultimatum a long time ago, would have saved me a lot of time and anguish. There were some other issues that I'm not going to talk about that contributed to this situation, but long story short: I didn't have a lot of help at home from my ex.
6 - Today I have shared custody with my ex, but only because I travel. If I didn't travel, the kids would be with me full time. Even when they are supposed to be with her, they are usually with me. They don't have a terrible relationship with my ex, they just prefer my company. Read into that what you like. Fortunately, she realizes this and doesn't fight it.
7 - My kids are a bit older now, but when they were young and woke up at 3 am throwing up with the flu, or with a stomach ache, or whatever, they always cried "Daddy." Never "Mommy." They knew very well who would be there for them.
I have no doubt there are a lot of dead beat losers whose wives work full time jobs and also do most of the work at home, including all of the cooking. That was certainly not my example at all. Not even close.
I suppose you are right in a way. I do expect a lot from a future gf/wife. But I'm not asking anything from my partner that I don't expect from myself, that I'm not also bringing to the table.
I'm not writing this for anyone's pity. Like I said, my guess is that a lot of women here (and perhaps men) have experienced something similar: having to work a demanding job, cook, and be the primary care giver to the kids. And like I said, I had a nanny who saved me, so I was probably more fortunate than most.
But spare me any lectures on lazy men demanding our overworked, frustrated wives get in the kitchen and cook. That has zero relevance to my life. Zero.
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Marry me??? lol0 -
If this before a relationship starts or after? If after a simple thing is if he makes plans for the next meeting when you two are together.0
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I'm another that loves to cook- especially for my man. It turns me on to see my man devour something I worked hard on... Actually it turns me on to please my man in many ways. I am old fashioned and love being domesticated. I am all for girl power but cooking for a man makes me feel ultra feminine.0
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