First Deployment Fears (Navy)

SaraBelle0312

I am a newlywed to a Navy Sailor, E4, married almost 4 months & been friends forever. Our first deployment is coming up and I am incredibly nervous and really upset. He is leaving for 7 months in Oct, as well as our roommate. Josh, my husband, is my workout buddy, my best friend, just everything to me. When he is underway at sea, I never think to eat or workout. I just get SO lonely and don't do anything. But I have a goal I am working on reaching for when he gets back. Is there any advice ya'll can give? I'd appreciate it very much.

rmqt

I'm sure I'll get flamed for this, but you can start by not feeling sorry for yourself. You married a soldier. This is part of your job. Keep up your interests and activities, and do not let yourself, or him, down. HE DOES NOT NEED TO BE WORRYING ABOUT YOU WHEN HE"S GONE. That's the best way you can support him. Join a support group, sign up for a series of classes, join a training group, volunteer. I speak as the spouse of a deployed service member, and as the sibling of two active duty service members. In the past ten years at least one of my loved ones has been overseas at any given point in time.

tammietifanie

I'm sure I'll get flamed for this, but you can start by not feeling sorry for yourself. You married a soldier. This is part of your job. Keep up your interests and activities, and do not let yourself, or him, down. HE DOES NOT NEED TO BE WORRYING ABOUT YOU WHEN HE"S GONE. That's the best way you can support him. Join a support group, sign up for a series of classes, join a training group, volunteer. I speak as the spouse of a deployed service member, and as the sibling of two active duty service members. In the past ten years at least one of my loved ones has been overseas at any given point in time.

She's Right !!!!! My hub just got back from his 7 month deployment and i focused on myself and worked really hard to lose weight and kept myself busy....

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

My husband is stationed at St Marys, Georgia, just about an hour from you. He's also about to leave for his first deployment. I'm nervous, but trying not to show it! He's nervous too, and I'm sure your hubby is the same. I am an artist so I'm planning on doing a lot of that. When we were separated for 8 months (boot camp and A school) I actually ended up eating better because I would only buy the healthy stuff and I would plan my days. When he's home I cook a lot more. It's good to find a hobby, or a job if you don't have one. How long will the deployment be?

jenny95662

I agree with everyone and what they have said. WE have done deployments and soon my husband will be geobaching for 2 to 4 years away from us. It sucks but if you feel bad for yourself you get stuck in a rut. Get in a routine and just get use to being independent. On my husbands last deployment i lost all the baby weight from my daughter and he barley recognized me it felt great lol Now he has to leave to live at a diff duty station then me and the kids so I plan to work my butt of literally lmao

rmqt

I agree with everyone and what they have said. WE have done deployments and soon my husband will be geobaching for 2 to 4 years away from us. It sucks but if you feel bad for yourself you get stuck in a rut. Get in a routine and just get use to being independent. On my husbands last deployment i lost all the baby weight from my daughter and he barley recognized me it felt great lol Now he has to leave to live at a diff duty station then me and the kids so I plan to work my butt of literally lmao

We just finished up two years' geobatching before deployment. I love how strong my relationships are with my kids now, and how I can redecorate without compromising. No fishing quilts!!

jenny95662

I agree with everyone and what they have said. WE have done deployments and soon my husband will be geobaching for 2 to 4 years away from us. It sucks but if you feel bad for yourself you get stuck in a rut. Get in a routine and just get use to being independent. On my husbands last deployment i lost all the baby weight from my daughter and he barley recognized me it felt great lol Now he has to leave to live at a diff duty station then me and the kids so I plan to work my butt of literally lmao

We just finished up two years' geobatching before deployment. I love how strong my relationships are with my kids now, and how I can redecorate without compromising. No fishing quilts!!

you just made me feel so much better knowing others have done this. I am nervous but i know hubby and me can do this!

rmqt

How are everyone's deployments going?

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

Just ok. I don't know a single person here, but there are some FRG events coming up so I'm hoping to meet some people. Keeping myself busy with art and projects.