2nd date jitters...

nolachick

so i had been in two long term relationships before and am fairly new to the dating scene again....
i met this guy online and we've been talking for a few weeks. we met on wedne sdayfor coffee and i think we hit it off, we're meeting tomorrow for lunch and well...i'm kind of nervous lol. i usually never get nervous on dates,so this is new to me... most of the dates ive been on, i've been really confident and calm and collected but this guy makes me feel nervous and shy :blushing: (in a good way). i think its because this is the one i've found most compatible in terms of our family values, our career and goals, etc. so maybe i'm just afraid to mess it up ....

so how do u keep ur cool on a date?

Silver180

I would like to say pretend that it's not important. Pretend like you don't care about the outcome. That way, there's no pressure and you can relax and be yourself.

In reality, for me, it's more like MAKE EYE CONTACT, CHEW, SWALLOW, BREATHE, SMILE, BE CHARMING, BREATHE, DON'T LOOK AT HER CHEST, PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT SHE'S SAYING, BREATHE, DON'T SAY ANYTHING STUPID, KEEP BREATHING!

Hehe

AllanMisner

Step one, which you've accomplished, is to accept that you're nervous for the right reasons. Step two, remember that the worst thing that could happen is that the date could go terribly bad and you'd never see him again.

Now that you're firmly in the worst case, is it really that bad? What have you lost? Not much. You can just pick yourself up, and find someone new.

But realize that he's likely just as nervous and excited. Eventually, you'll get comfortable. And if you're lucky, you'll never lose that excitement about seeing each other.

flimflamfloz

so how do u keep ur cool on a date?

Greet him by using the nickname you gave him on the first date:
"Hi my little funky mushroom!"
"Oh noooo! Not this again! Ahaha"
Done.

oddyogi

so how do u keep ur cool on a date?

Greet him by using the nickname you gave him on the first date:
"Hi my little funky mushroom!"
"Oh noooo! Not this again! Ahaha"
Done.

I second this! Ever since I started calling SL my buffalo butt he's been hooked.

poncho33

I always go into these dates expecting the person to be a complete psycho... as most have been. However if they turn out to be normal it's always a pleasant surprise and the date goes fairly well.

shammxo

I would like to say pretend that it's not important. Pretend like you don't care about the outcome. That way, there's no pressure and you can relax and be yourself.

In reality, for me, it's more like MAKE EYE CONTACT, CHEW, SWALLOW, BREATHE, SMILE, BE CHARMING, BREATHE, DON'T LOOK AT HER CHEST, PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT SHE'S SAYING, BREATHE, DON'T SAY ANYTHING STUPID, KEEP BREATHING!

Hehe

Breathing, not forgetting to chew and making eye contact are the most important things. Just do this! Hahaha.

PeekABooGirl

I've found that after the "hello" and (by second or 3rd date) a hug at greeting, it's pretty relaxed after that. It's the first date that always makes me a nervous mess! Do you text or talk much between dates? Seems that knowing him better that way would put you at ease a bit. But maybe these 2nd date jitters are a GOOD thing! :flowerforyou:

I once was so nervous on the first date, that I actually texted him as I was walking up to our meeting place to say "I'm so nervous I'm gonna have a panic attack" Granted, we'd talked/texted daily for a few weeks up till that point. But just saying that kind of broke the ice so to speak. And all went fine!

Good luck. Just try your best to relax and be yourself and not worry about what the "final outcome" of it will be! Just be yourself and have FUN!

catherine4211

I love that nervous excited feeling. It means you are alive!!! I say just be yourself and enjoy the lunch.

BondBomb

I had a second date last night. I wasn't nervous at all until the end when I realized he was probably going to kiss me. Turns out it was a good kind of nervous. :blushing:

BigBrewski

so how do u keep ur cool on a date?

Greet him by using the nickname you gave him on the first date:
"Hi my little funky mushroom!"
"Oh noooo! Not this again! Ahaha"
Done.

really? funky mushroom!!!

kansasbelle

Do something fun, Go to the Aquarium.... The zoo may be too hot right now. (drink some PJs for me while you are at it) Enjoy yourself.... relax have fun....Drive to Biloxi and go to the casinos they have great food,( beau rivage especially) sit out on the beach late at night under the stars...or in the day go feed the seagulls, Take the pressure off... just enjoy. You are young take your time.

nolachick

2nd date was postponed due to weather...only problem is he hasnt initiated talks of the 2nd date. we have been talking/txting everyday since....hmmm i dont get it :grumble:
he does live an hour away but its doable, also its my bday on saturday and he knows i have plans with friends. does he not want to intrude and be weird becuz its my bday or what?

i wud like to hear from guys on this one....

AnnaPixie

2nd date was postponed due to weather...only problem is he hasnt initiated talks of the 2nd date. we have been talking/txting everyday since....hmmm i dont get it :grumble:
he does live an hour away but its doable, also its my bday on saturday and he knows i have plans with friends. does he not want to intrude and be weird becuz its my bday or what?

i wud like to hear from guys on this one....

Why dont you just ask him when shall 'we' reschedule??

kansasbelle

We would drive to NOLA from BRLA and Mobile, AL just to party back home the hour is not a biggie...The weather may have drowned you out. That happens, but if he still communicating with you offer up a potential option to repelace the first.