So there's this guy...
NNAhuja
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So there's this HAWT guy that works at a Starbucks near my job, named Nathaniel.
Just for full disclosure, what I consider "HAWT" probably isn't everyone else defination of hot. He's tall, pale, dark long hair, glasses.
I told one of my male co-workers about my crush (I feel like I'm too old to have crushes but whatever) and he says I should ask Nathaniel out. The idea creeps me out just because I'm kind of old school so I'm used to the idea of a guy asking me out. Plus I have no idea if he has a girlfriend or is even interested in me.
So should I ask him out?
Just for full disclosure, what I consider "HAWT" probably isn't everyone else defination of hot. He's tall, pale, dark long hair, glasses.
I told one of my male co-workers about my crush (I feel like I'm too old to have crushes but whatever) and he says I should ask Nathaniel out. The idea creeps me out just because I'm kind of old school so I'm used to the idea of a guy asking me out. Plus I have no idea if he has a girlfriend or is even interested in me.
So should I ask him out?
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I would probably not ask him out right away but try to go in at non-busy times and have a couple short conversations with him first to find out if he has a gf or wife, etc. Once you are more comfortable with him, and you have figured out if he is single or not, then ask him out.0
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Hey that's my name!0
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I wouldn't ask him out either.
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I might frequent Starbucks a little more... make eye contact, smile... see if I could engage him in conversation.... and yes I'd probably be a shameless flirt...
Do what you think you should do, what you are comfortable with...0 -
You only live life once. Ask him out. You can certainly get him in a conversation where you'll find out if he is single before asking him out, but if he is, ask him out.0
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Here is how I see it:
You ask him out you have a 50/50 shot.
You don't ask him out you have a 0% shot.0 -
Honestly, the fact that youre a customer might stop him from asking you out. I wouldn't ask a guy out in general but I think you have good cause to ask him out here.
I would concentrate on gaining a friendship first - start to chat him and see what he is about. If you get a good vibe I might suggest an event nearby and say "would you be interested in going with me?"0 -
I dont think I'd be brave enough. Maybe if I was drunk :laugh:
At the very least I'd need some kind of vibe that he was interested in me.
I think you should go in there and flirt with him to gauge mutual interest. Or send a friend :bigsmile:0 -
Lets not over think this here... it isn't 1920 and any female that says their old fashion and won't ask a guy out is just afraid of the rejection... try being a guy! Walk up to him and ask him if he'd ever be interested in going out. It's really that easy!0
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If the guy was into you, he probably wouldn't let on at first since he works there and doesn't want to get fired. The good news is, he gets paid the same whether he flirts or not, so if he is flirting with you it's probably not just to get a bigger tip.
I agree with the folks who said to go in there during less busy times and just chat with him a bit, get to know him. Then, eventually, he might suggest doing something away from the Starbucks. You could ask him, if you're that bold, or if he seems to like your company but maybe is too shy to ask. I would just spend some time getting to know him first. It’s easier to do when you can just walk into his workplace ;-)0 -
Throw a flirtacious line and smile at him. If he receives it well, be blunt and ask him out. If not, wish him a good weekend and strut out of there. Good luck!0
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Lets not over think this here... it isn't 1920 and any female that says their old fashion and won't ask a guy out is just afraid of the rejection... try being a guy! Walk up to him and ask him if he'd ever be interested in going out. It's really that easy!
I'd love to be a guy for a day. i think I'd enjoy it :bigsmile:0 -
I would.... nothing ventured, nothing gained!
Of course, I would casually try to figure out if he was married or had a girlfriend first. But, if you can get the "I'm single" cue - go for it!0 -
Let's look at the possibilities:
You don't ask him out and he thinks you're just a friendly customer and nothing comes of it. You never know.
You ask him out and he declines. You feel embarrassed and rejected.
You ask him out and he says yes. then either, 1) you go out for a while, find out he's a jerk and feel heart-broken and jaded towards men for years. or 2) you go out a few times and aren't compatible but he is a nice guy, or 3) he turns out to be a serial killer who preys on women who drink your favorite coffee, no one ever sees or hears from you again, 4) you meet a wonderful guy have a great time and either live happily ever after until he dies and leaves you as an loving widow who pines for her soul mate for the remainder of your years, or 5) you find someone whom you admire for the rest of your life but because of circumstances it can never be. No man ever measures up and you die surrounded only by the companionship of your 30 cats.
Clearly rejection is not the worst outcome but nothing good can come from asking him out.0 -
Let's look at the possibilities:
You don't ask him out and he thinks you're just a friendly customer and nothing comes of it. You never know.
You ask him out and he declines. You feel embarrassed and rejected.
You ask him out and he says yes. then either, 1) you go out for a while, find out he's a jerk and feel heart-broken and jaded towards men for years. or 2) you go out a few times and aren't compatible but he is a nice guy, or 3) he turns out to be a serial killer who preys on women who drink your favorite coffee, no one ever sees or hears from you again, 4) you meet a wonderful guy have a great time and either live happily ever after until he dies and leaves you as an loving widow who pines for her soul mate for the remainder of your years, or 5) you find someone whom you admire for the rest of your life but because of circumstances it can never be. No man ever measures up and you die surrounded only by the companionship of your 30 cats.
Clearly rejection is not the worst outcome but nothing good can come from asking him out.
Surprisely I really like this! You just need the one where she dies first though. Thanks for writing this!0 -
You ask him out and he declines. You feel embarrassed and rejected.
A good point about this situation that if he declines, you can just switch coffee shops and boom, you never have to see him again. So this actually could be a good thing!0 -
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I'm chicken poop.. I'm old fashioned but what homie said is about right.. I'm probably afraid to be rejected and feel stupid. Sooo... I wouldn't. I would however flirt and send him signals that hopefully he interprets as I'm interested. Then hopefully he'd be interested back and he'd ask me out.0
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If I was drunk, I'd reach other the bar and kiss him! LolI dont think I'd be brave enough. Maybe if I was drunk :laugh:0 -
Here is how I see it:
You ask him out you have a 50/50 shot.
You don't ask him out you have a 0% shot.
This and slam dunk.
DO EEET!0 -
OMG, go listen to the song "Taylor the Latte Boy" on Youtube IMMEDIATELY.
OMG I'm sooo glad I wasn't the only one who thought of this!!!0
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