i wanna have a little fun.......
r1ghtpath
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so, i was thinking today that i would love to create an account at POF that is semi legit, but not use it to really actually meet anyone. is that mean or wrong?
i will put up pics, but none of my face. and the profile will be vague.....
i kinda just want to see what will happen ;-) LOL!!!!
i will put up pics, but none of my face. and the profile will be vague.....
i kinda just want to see what will happen ;-) LOL!!!!
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i think that's fun!0
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Why waste peoples' time?0
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you will get a ton of messages if you post cleavage pics0
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I think it's stupid to be honest. Some people actually go there to connect with someone and want to meet up in person. You just want attention or something? What if someone starts to like you?0
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Let your headline be "Wanna Have Fun" and you will get a ton of messages with or without a photo. I created a bogus profile once (I have my reasons) with NO pic, a very vague description and titled it, "Just Wanna Have Fun" and you wouldn't believe the messages I got. LOL I have since deleted it, and, no, I didn't reply to anyone.
But if all you want to do is talk to people and possibly get some attention, I suggest you go to speeddate.com. The men there don't really want to meet you either. Okay, well, some do. But when they are 1000 miles from you, you have a perfectly good excuse not to meet. You can chat with a different guy every night, if you want, or 10 or 20.0 -
I get so little response from online dating sites in general that it won't really phase anyone who messages you. Most of my friends have fake profiles so they can lurk and post on forums!
What exactly are you wanting to see? Sweetie, if I can get 20-30 messages a week on POF, I have NO doubt that you will :flowerforyou:0 -
eh, it was just a thought. like i said, i just kinda want to see what would happen..... i doubt i'll actually end up doing it though.
no one from dating sites ends up liking me. LOL!!!!0 -
do you have to have an acct to post on the forums there?? i was reading them once. but, i didn't know if you had to an a dating acct or not......0
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eh, it was just a thought. like i said, i just kinda want to see what would happen..... i doubt i'll actually end up doing it though.
no one from dating sites ends up liking me. LOL!!!!
You have got to stop that, girl! You are amazing! Clearly the men on here pant at your picture changes. It just hasn't been the RIGHT person, nor does it mean that online is the way for you to meet someone!
Why not post it for real?! What's the harm? Don't make it about who likes YOU.... make it about who YOU like!! They should be winning you over girlie!
I do think you have to have an acct to post... at least that's why my friends tell me they do it, haha...0 -
do you have to have an acct to post on the forums there?? i was reading them once. but, i didn't know if you had to an a dating acct or not......
You need an account and usually to be there for a week before they let you post.0 -
Typical "online dating woman" train of thoughts! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:Why not post it for real?! What's the harm? Don't make it about who likes YOU.... make it about who YOU like!! They should be winning you over girlie!
As a man I wouldn't be as enthusiastic to encourage my "bros" to go online to date, but yeah as a woman you can probably do that.
Well, to be honest I find the idea a bit lame and tame (it sounds like a man deciding to talk to a girl at a party... Wow! Big deal!) but since you seem to have confidence issues, it might work for you.
But yeah, I'd rather post my real profile, otherwise you can be 100% sure that nobody is going to like *you* if you don't put the real *you* out there.0 -
I believe if you're going to post a profile at POF or any dating site you should be real!!0
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so, i was thinking today that i would love to create an account at POF that is semi legit, but not use it to really actually meet anyone. is that mean or wrong?
i will put up pics, but none of my face. and the profile will be vague.....
i kinda just want to see what will happen ;-) LOL!!!!
I think it's kinda crazy! :noway:
What do you mean you want to see what will happen? I mean, why? Whatever happens it will just be a false indication of nothingness!! "Oh look, 1000 men messaged me cos i got my tits out or put a false picture up of a beatiful woman....woohhooooo" ..........Erm.... So. what?
Wouldn't your time be better spent down the gym or in self esteem classes ? ? :flowerforyou:0 -
so, i was thinking today that i would love to create an account at POF that is semi legit, but not use it to really actually meet anyone. is that mean or wrong?
i will put up pics, but none of my face. and the profile will be vague.....
i kinda just want to see what will happen ;-) LOL!!!!
I wanted to do something similar but use all the tips on the "Tips for online dating" thread to make the profile really shine.0 -
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Couple reasons to build a fake profile...lol...
1. There was a woman who created a fake profile to write an article. It was the worst and guys still flocked to her.
2. I've seen a lot of my coworkers (and some very high-ranking coworkers!) on Match and it woudl be nice to check out their profiles w/o them knowing it's me (sooooo awkward at work when one of the deputies thought I was into him... I was just checking out his profile to laugh at how different he portrayed himself online than IRL).
3. A friend told me I was being played on Match the first time around. I didn't believe it, so she created a fake profile. Sure enough, the guys who were acting like they liked me were totally into her and lying about seeing anyone else from Match. When I used her login to read her emails, it really hurt b/c one of the guys I REALLY liked. That's a huge part of why I no longer go exclusive (without the guy's committment) or expect that the guy is exclusive unless he says so.0 -
I think you should create an honest profile and see what happens. That will help your self esteem and you'll hopefully have some fun in the process too.
If you create a fake profile without full photos then all you're going to get are guys playing the same fake game in return.0 -
Every time I see this thread title I think of the Cyndi Lauper song. And I only know the chorus and it's starting to drive me a little crazy.0
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girls just wanna have fuuunnnn, that's all they really wannnnnnnntt!!!! LOL!!!
if i decide to ever put an online dating profile up again. it will be legit and for the purpose of meeting people............. online dating is just so stinkin' stressful!!!!!0 -
See, that's your problem right there. It should be fun, not stressful. What are you so worried about? Meeting someone awesome?girls just wanna have fuuunnnn, that's all they really wannnnnnnntt!!!! LOL!!!
if i decide to ever put an online dating profile up again. it will be legit and for the purpose of meeting people............. online dating is just so stinkin' stressful!!!!!0 -
my experiences so far have not been what i would describe as fun....... i get to the point where i just can't deal with it and i hide my profile for a couple months. i would LOVE to meet someone awesome! someone that i really meshed well with. but, i don't. LOL so, i then figure i'm better off either just making friends or being alone. right now I'm in the "making friends" mind set. mainly because i don't want to deal with the stress of "dating."
i haven't the faintest idea why it's stressful and not fun. maybe i'm doing it all wrong!!0 -
so, i was thinking today that i would love to create an account at POF that is semi legit, but not use it to really actually meet anyone. is that mean or wrong?
i will put up pics, but none of my face. and the profile will be vague.....
i kinda just want to see what will happen ;-) LOL!!!!
I think it's kinda crazy! :noway:
What do you mean you want to see what will happen? I mean, why? Whatever happens it will just be a false indication of nothingness!! "Oh look, 1000 men messaged me cos i got my tits out or put a false picture up of a beatiful woman....woohhooooo" ..........Erm.... So. what?
Wouldn't your time be better spent down the gym or in self esteem classes ? ? :flowerforyou:
THIS!!! How is it going to help your self esteem if you have a fake profile with fake pics?? I don't see the point...If you need/want mens attention on a dating site make it a REAL profile with REAL pics of you....
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Well to me dating is basically just making friends, but with people you are somewhat attracted to.my experiences so far have not been what i would describe as fun....... i get to the point where i just can't deal with it and i hide my profile for a couple months. i would LOVE to meet someone awesome! someone that i really meshed well with. but, i don't. LOL so, i then figure i'm better off either just making friends or being alone. right now I'm in the "making friends" mind set. mainly because i don't want to deal with the stress of "dating."
i haven't the faintest idea why it's stressful and not fun. maybe i'm doing it all wrong!!0 -
Well to me dating is basically just making friends, but with people you are somewhat attracted to.my experiences so far have not been what i would describe as fun....... i get to the point where i just can't deal with it and i hide my profile for a couple months. i would LOVE to meet someone awesome! someone that i really meshed well with. but, i don't. LOL so, i then figure i'm better off either just making friends or being alone. right now I'm in the "making friends" mind set. mainly because i don't want to deal with the stress of "dating."
i haven't the faintest idea why it's stressful and not fun. maybe i'm doing it all wrong!!
EXACTLY!0 -
Well to me dating is basically just making friends, but with people you are somewhat attracted to.my experiences so far have not been what i would describe as fun....... i get to the point where i just can't deal with it and i hide my profile for a couple months. i would LOVE to meet someone awesome! someone that i really meshed well with. but, i don't. LOL so, i then figure i'm better off either just making friends or being alone. right now I'm in the "making friends" mind set. mainly because i don't want to deal with the stress of "dating."
i haven't the faintest idea why it's stressful and not fun. maybe i'm doing it all wrong!!
Sounds great but you date all the time and don't think like MOST women. We over think and make more of dating than we should. We need to learn how to date like men without scaring them all away in the process!
You're not doing it wrong, but you are causing the stress for yourself by having expectations of men. Scares them and stresses you out when it never meets your expectations. Try Roadie's suggestion... Seriously... Date like a guy for a change ( easier said than done I know)0 -
oh, i don't have expectations of guys. i think i'm backwards. i think that i'm the one who seems more aloof. i guess what i find stressful is that you hit if off with someone and have a great time, go out a couple times, etc. and then BAM the crazy stuff starts.
i don't think i have self esteem issues. maybe i do, but i'm usually the one turning the guys down..... not clamoring for a meet up or pushing for any kind of relationship AT ALL!!
as for the fake, it wasn't meant to be FAKE as in not real or not me. the pics would have been mine, just not my face. and the description etc would have been me too. but, more like "hey let's just talk and be friends" no dating or relationships coming out of it...... but, like i said, i'm not going to do it.
see, i'm GREAT at making friends. excellent at it in fact!!! i'm very good at friend zoning guys. i suck at dating though. i'm not good at relationships. and that's where dating gets hard. seems most of the guys I've dealt with get whiney, or mopey. pushy. and some of them seem to just have drama follow them wherever they GO!!!!
there was a guys i went out with like 4 or 5 times. on the 5ht or 6th date we were supposed to go see a live band and i was going to stay over. at 7p he started drinking and at 11p he was totally and completely passed out!!! needless to say i went home and that was that. that's what i find stressful. that's NOT FUN in my opinion............0 -
there was a guys i went out with like 4 or 5 times. on the 5ht or 6th date we were supposed to go see a live band and i was going to stay over. at 7p he started drinking and at 11p he was totally and completely passed out!!! needless to say i went home and that was that. that's what i find stressful. that's NOT FUN in my opinion............
If as I presume you staying over also indicated some fun then the guy was a real idiot.
Hell I would have been trying to get out of the concert early. :smokin: :devil:0 -
there was a guys i went out with like 4 or 5 times. on the 5ht or 6th date we were supposed to go see a live band and i was going to stay over. at 7p he started drinking and at 11p he was totally and completely passed out!!! needless to say i went home and that was that. that's what i find stressful. that's NOT FUN in my opinion............
If as I presume you staying over also indicated some fun then the guy was a real idiot.
Hell I would have been trying to get out of the concert early. :smokin: :devil:
yes, there was supposed to be some fun. he was OUT. like dead to the world out!!! we never even made it TO the concert!!! it was ridiculous!!! and i thought we had hit it off really well. i was completely unprepared for his binge drinking, etc. another guy, told me was divorced. we had several nice dates, dinners, lunches, etc. on date 4 or 5 we were going to have dinner and go back to his place, and he told me he wasn't divorced and hadn't even signed the divorce papers yet. wasn't planning on it til several MONTHS later!!! i paid for my dinner and told him i wasn't going to get involved with someone that was still legally married. he was telling me my morals were too high, etc.
the most recent guy i was seeing had sooooo much drama in his life that i had to tell him i just couldn't do a relationship with him. we could be friends and hang out periodically but, i just could not deal with the amount of stuff he needed to work through first. and i really really liked him!!!!!
that's what i've had to deal with. there have been about four of five like that. then guys that come on way too strong or too needy from the beginning. i don't mind talking to people and trying to make friends, but not all guys make it easy to be friends first........0 -
So it's sounding like SELECTION of dates more than expectations should be your focus. That's a lot of crazy drama you shared. What makes you pick those dates... or did they choose you? I'd rethink that strategy either way!0
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well, they seemed normal when talking. then they seemed normal the first couple times out. like pleasant conversations on the phone and in person. nothing uncomfortable, etc.
i will talk to people online, but i won't go on a date with every guy i talk to. some i just don't find all that interesting. so, the ones i do agree to go out with on date are ones that *I* find interesting and want to get to know better.
it was a whole lotta crazy for a relatively short amount of time. i think i officially started dating in november? and these all took place in like jan/ feb? maybe. not at the same time. and then the most recent was in march-ish. but by may it was obvious he had way too many unresolved issues. he is cool with my choice. we are still friends and he even admits his life is not stable enough for a relationship. which is good that he sees i'm not overreacting or being too sensitive.
i'm not sure how else to go about choosing dates....... i don't meet people in real life. for one, i don't go where single men are. and for two, if i am out, i'm usually with my kids and most men who see a woman with 5 kids are not going to assume she's single...... so really, if i want to date either i need to be introduced to someone via friends, i have to already know them and they have to know i'm single, or i have to meet them via a dating site.
i've tried narrowing my criteria, i've tried expanding it. i've tried basing it less on looks and more on personality. i've tried focusing on people that live close vs far and vice versa. i've even tried the friends thing first too!!!
i mean, they were normal enough to get to a 4th of 5th date ya know!!! and here i am thinking "ok, things are going well." and the one guy is telling me that he had sex with a girl on their first date so it's not a big deal that he's still legally married and i need to stop being so MORAL about it!!!! and i'm thinking " WOW!! this dude is nuts!" i told him to go contact her again because it was a big deal to me! i'm not sure how i could have seen that coming so that i could have avoided it..........
i dunno. i just find it stressful. maybe if i just went on one date with each guy it would be more fun. but, dating for the purpose of finding a relationship, is not fun for me. at least so far it hasn't been. :-)0
