Are men really THAT clueless?
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That's a good point, at 18 I probably didn't have a frickin clue. But I still don't think I would have said anything like "I'm sure you'll find something to do"Laura, How old is this guy? I noticed your profile says you are 18, so I assume he is around that range also...
For the guys on here, does this matter? Were you as assertive as you are now when you were 18?0 -
He's 19.0
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As redemption for all the asking out I've done, I'm going get a girl to propose to me :-p0
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"All men" aren't anything other than human beings. This guy in particular, however, sounds shy. I remember from your other post, you were the one to ask him out on the first date. This could have set a precedent that enabled him being shy. If you don't mind it (which really, you shouldn't) I suggest taking the lead again.
"Hey, I was wanting to hit up BLANK this weekend, I'd love it if you joined me. Let me know when you want to go?"
If Laura asked him out first, and he said yes and he now knows she likes him, I think he should ask her out. She can't take the lead the whole time. By all means she can ask him out, but i think it's his turn to do the asking.
Getting into games about who should ask who out and when seems so petty though doesn't it? He is who he is and she's either okay with it or she isn't. I don't think asking someone on a second date means taking the lead all the time anyway. I think it's just a matter of asking herself if she likes him enough that she can accept she might be instigating most of the dates, or if she'd rather just pass and find someone that instigates instead. Either way is fine, since it's a personal preference, it just seems like she likes him so why not go for it? Is setting a date really that big of a deal?
Heck, even if it is at the end of the second date say "This was great, let me know when our next date is!" and bam, ball is officially in his court. At that point if he doesn't move forward then he is either 1) not interested or 2) cripplingly shy both of which would lead to second thoughts and moving forward.
I agree. It's not a big deal. Her asking him out could be all the little push he needs.0 -
Just ask him out. It can't hurt. Either way, you'll know!0
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If someone asked me if I was dating anyone else after one date I would probably delete her number.
Would like people to keep this in mind next time they take issue with people who don't focus on just one date at a time0 -
Oy, just ask him! What have you got to lose?0
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No we like to play oblivious sometimes, either we have plans we rather not discuss or not interested, but seeing how attractive the OP is i'd say the first one0
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Maybe he's shy? Can you ask him out? I know most women can't do this, but can you try?
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No we like to play oblivious sometimes, either we have plans we rather not discuss or not interested, but seeing how attractive the OP is i'd say the first one
^^ this. I call this ' playing dumb'0 -
We have been texting a lot and we tease each other and have been flirting. We also have a lot of serious conversations too. I would have asked him out tonight but he mentioned his cousin is coming from out of state from two weeks and I'm super busy next week anyway, so I figured I would wait. BUT he was joking about how he spends way too much time with his mother and I said, "Well maybe you and I can hang out instead
". He then texted me back, "I'll take that! " Last time, I suggested we hangout he took the intiative and asked me out a week later. I just figure we are both busy, but the interest and attraction is there, so I'm hopeful. 0 -
We have been texting a lot and we tease each other and have been flirting. We also have a lot of serious conversations too. I would have asked him out tonight but he mentioned his cousin is coming from out of state from two weeks and I'm super busy next week anyway, so I figured I would wait. BUT he was joking about how he spends way too much time with his mother and I said, "Well maybe you and I can hang out instead". He then texted me back, "I'll take that! " Last time, I suggested we hangout he took the intiative and asked me out a week later. I just figure we are both busy, but the interest and attraction is there, so I'm hopeful.
Good for you!
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