put up a for real profile

r1ghtpath

on OKC again. POF was all guys looking for pics of my boobs or asking me if i would have babies with them :-/ so i think i'm going to NOT go back there again for now.

my profile is short, sweet, and to the point. it's not what i think others want to hear, its me. just me. no sexing it up, no innuendo, to exaggerating, nothing misleading or questionable.

i left some mystery by not filling it all in. and there are no paragraphs to read about who am i or what i am looking for, so, we'll see how it goes........ i have several pics up. a couple of my face, one full body.

i'm not expecting much to come of it. but, at least i get to check out hot guys without feeling like a creeper :-) it's hard to check out hot guys here unless you're their friend :-/ LOL!!!!!

so yup. i'm on line. if you're on OKC let me know and i'll send you my info.

SouthernSweetie74

Sooo... how's it going?

r1ghtpath

So, I've had this up almost three weeks. I am comfortable calling it a bust. No real contact. No one has looked at my profile in the past three days. No dates. I am going to leave it up on more week, just to make it an even month, then I am quitting online dating forever!!!

I really am beginning to feel like a pariah :-/

SouthernSweetie74

You are not a pariah!!!

Online dating sucks. Period. LOL

I tried putting a profile on OKC, but took it down. There really wasn't much to choose from in my area. I have one on POF right now, but I'm probably going to take it down soon. I get plenty of messages. But they are not quality. I've met a couple of people, but nada as far as connections go.

I wouldn't blame you for taking it down for a while. But never say that you're done forever. Who knows... you might want to try it again in the future, and it may work for you.

:flowerforyou:

MikeM53082

Don't feel bad, online dating certainly isn't for me either. I've always found friends of friends to work out the best for me.

I always found I can get a MUCH better quality girl in real life as opposed to doing the online thing. Just my experience.

SouthernSweetie74

Don't feel bad, online dating certainly isn't for me either. I've always found friends of friends to work out the best for me.

I always found I can get a MUCH better quality girl in real life as opposed to doing the online thing. Just my experience.

I totally understand what you're saying. But, umm... I'm online and I'm great quality. LOL Just sayin'...

becfrogs

Don't feel bad, online dating certainly isn't for me either. I've always found friends of friends to work out the best for me.

I always found I can get a MUCH better quality girl in real life as opposed to doing the online thing. Just my experience.

Totally agree. The 2 guys I met online seemed nice and outgoing but in person they were so socially akward. It was just so uncomfortable going on dates with them and I felt like I was just teaching them how to not be scared of girls. That's when I realized online dating just isn't for me. I need that inperson contact and attraction. So if I have to wait a long time.......it will be worth it.

bec

r1ghtpath

Oh I've had one up off and on, more off than on, for a year now. It was down nov- jan. then march- July. So, from July to July it was up 6 mo total..... That's long enough to get the message ;-)

I don't ever meet people in real life. So, I'm kinda outta luck. If there is no one in real life and no online..... I just make sure I keep doing things I enjoy. Most of them are not things I will meet guys doing though :-)

Mellie289

I'm on OKC, but I'm taking a little break right now so I have my profile inactivated. I will probably go back on in a couple of months. That's what it should take for me to get myself to the size I would feel happy about getting some full body pix to put up. I have one there now that I hate, although I've lost some weight since then. I met someone from OKC and we are currently friends after a couple months of dating. I still hope something might work out there, but there are a couple complications. If that goes nowhere when I reach my weight goal, I'll definitely try OKC again since I found him there in the first place.

I like the strategy of being yourself and sharing some info that might be a little quirky and unique. To me, the goal shouldn't be to put up such a generic profile that will appeal broadly. I'd rather appeal to the few people who are likely to be a really good match.

r1ghtpath

so, the last three guys i messaged on OKC, have all deleted or disabled their accounts........

two of them messaged me first and i responded. one i messaged first and never heard back from..........

flimflamfloz

Don't feel bad, online dating certainly isn't for me either. I've always found friends of friends to work out the best for me.
I always found I can get a MUCH better quality girl in real life as opposed to doing the online thing. Just my experience.

I totally understand what you're saying. But, umm... I'm online and I'm great quality. LOL Just sayin'...

I'm not online anymore though, so I can say for a fact that all men pretty much suck on there.

ShazMc73

I finally joined OKC this past weekend; my first foray into online dating. I have a lot of guys looking at my profile and have two messages, both very generic by the way. I sent out two messages and nada in return. I will stick it ouf for a couple of weeks but WOW I can tell it is already a bit brutal on the ego lol!!

I've also gone very simple and honest in my profile - not sure it's what these fellahs want...

Wish me luck!

MikeM53082

I finally joined OKC this past weekend; my first foray into online dating. I have a lot of guys looking at my profile and have two messages, both very generic by the way. I sent out two messages and nada in return. I will stick it ouf for a couple of weeks but WOW I can tell it is already a bit brutal on the ego lol!!

I've also gone very simple and honest in my profile - not sure it's what these fellahs want...

Wish me luck!

Good luck babe! Being honest and straight forward is the best way to be. Keep us posted on what happens!

NCTravellingGirl

I finally joined OKC this past weekend; my first foray into online dating. I have a lot of guys looking at my profile and have two messages, both very generic by the way. I sent out two messages and nada in return. I will stick it ouf for a couple of weeks but WOW I can tell it is already a bit brutal on the ego lol!!

I've also gone very simple and honest in my profile - not sure it's what these fellahs want...

Wish me luck!

Good Luck! You're right that it can be brutal on the ego. I'm took my POF profile down. I think my expectations were a little too high, haha. I haven't tried OKC so keep us posted!

ShazMc73

Well it's been 24 hours since joining and about 30 people looked at my profile and there are messages from 7 of them... going to go through now and see what's what....

NCTravellingGirl

so, the last three guys i messaged on OKC, have all deleted or disabled their accounts........

two of them messaged me first and i responded. one i messaged first and never heard back from..........

I had that happen literally half the time I got messages or winks on Match. I'm not sure what the deal is... maybe they get fed up, maybe they're married, or maybe they are scams. Either way, you will have to weed through rocks to find gold so keep it up :flowerforyou:

kylejh

POF drives me crazy. I understand not getting responses when I was fat, but now I'm not, and have fairly decent profile pics, yet still rarely get responses. Ladies, feel free to critique my profile for me! Username is "new_to_burl".

MikeM53082

POF drives me crazy. I understand not getting responses when I was fat, but now I'm not, and have fairly decent profile pics, yet still rarely get responses. Ladies, feel free to critique my profile for me! Username is "new_to_burl".

Happens to ALL of us. Everyone (both guys and gals) that I know, who does online dating, has the same issue. It's all a numbers game so you just need to keep on keepin' on.