Marriage before baby

jamie31

I am not a super religious person but do believe in the Bible and God. Lately i have been thinking that I may be embarresed to tell my child that me and his/her father were not married before they were born. I have been thinking of maybe having a pastor marry us in our home ( my best friends uncle would do it). But what has been keeping me from this is that I want to have wedding pictures to share with my kids and grandkids, and I dont want to try to plan a small wedding before the baby because i do not want to be pregnant for the pictures.

Has anyone else done a quick marriage before a baby? did you regret not having a real wedding in a church with all the bells and whistles????

lilchino4af

I've heard of people who had a small private wedding before the baby came, then later had a formal ceremony for friends and family after the baby was born. You could always think of it as renewing vows That's one idea for you anway. Hope it helps!

MonkeyFlower

hey i had the same thing, i thought i was fine and then i dont know if it was just the hormones but suddenly at 7 months pregnant i decided we needed to be married first and not wait as was the plan! anyway we had a small private wedding with just us at 8 months and then a year later on the same date we did a big wedding ceremony with all our friends and family - i wore a white dress and we had a priest bless us in the church - it was great!!

blink1021

With my first child we were not married and did not get married before he was born. Not sure what happened because we talked about getting married before I ever got pregnant. I think it was the pressure from family and I did not want to get married just because we were having a baby. Eventually we did get married and we eloped just the two of us and a witness at the court house and I have no regrets. In fact thinking back on it it was very romantic. We didn't tell any of our family before we did it in fact we waited almost a month before we told anyone. We didn't want all the pressure that comes with a wedding we wanted it to be about us. Before we did it we had been to 2 weddings where we were sitting at the tables listening to guests ***** about the food, the bridesmaids dresses, the reception hall etc. and we did not want to listen to that. Why was I going to spend or have my parents spend money where people were just going to *****. It kind of soured us on weddings after that. Do what is right for and not what you think you should do.

helenmelon29

Hi

We arent married and no plans to marry at the mo. (been together nealy 11 years though). Totally up to you - just depends what the most important reason are.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

FitMama2013

I did both, but for a different reason Ours was so my husband could transfer from DC to TN with me - so, we had a ceremony with my parents and a pastor (and the dogs) outside, and then 8 months later had our traditional wedding where everyone celebrated with us. I loved doing both! We have 2 anniversaries now, although a lot of people don't know about the first one (including my in-laws - oops!).