2 birds 1 stone

catherine4211

Ok everyone. On Wednesday night I decided I had to stop seeing my non-boyfriend boyfriend. He made it perfectly clear that he loves me but is not "in" love with me. Yes I'm devastated because never in my whole life have I gotten along so well with someone. So that was the first bird. The second one is I work with a guy who has a single brother (who is NOT 14 years younger than me). He mentioned one day we should get to know each other. We have messaged each other a little bit but nothing major. He works full time and goes to school every night, M-F till 10 pm two hours away from home. Obviously he's busy. That's fine. Not my question. So yesterday I sent him a message asking if he wanted to meet this weekend for a drink. He said sure. Great. So I'm asking another co-worker today (a man but not the brother) what should I wear because I don't want to look like I'm trying too hard. He said it already looks like I am trying too hard because I invited him for the drink. Thoughts?????

poncho33

something casual... it's a drink.

julesboots

WTF-ever. Trying too hard because you invited him for a drink? Ignore this.

HellsKells

I think asking him for a drink is fine. What's trying to hard about being the initiator?

But agree with poncho....keep it casual.

Have fun!

catherine4211

something casual... it's a drink.

Well yea but do you think I'm trying too hard just by asking?

Daisy_Cutter

Ok everyone. On Wednesday night I decided I had to stop seeing my non-boyfriend boyfriend. He made it perfectly clear that he loves me but is not "in" love with me. Yes I'm devastated because never in my whole life have I gotten along so well with someone. So that was the first bird. The second one is I work with a guy who has a single brother (who is NOT 14 years younger than me). He mentioned one day we should get to know each other. We have messaged each other a little bit but nothing major. He works full time and goes to school every night, M-F till 10 pm two hours away from home. Obviously he's busy. That's fine. Not my question. So yesterday I sent him a message asking if he wanted to meet this weekend for a drink. He said sure. Great. So I'm asking another co-worker today (a man but not the brother) what should I wear because I don't want to look like I'm trying too hard. He said it already looks like I am trying too hard because I invited him for the drink. Thoughts?????

Nah -- you're not trying to hard.... not sure why this other guy said that. I think you're fine and going for drinks is really casual!

catherine4211

WTF-ever. Trying too hard because you invited him for a drink? Ignore this.

Thanks!!

catherine4211

I knew you'd make me feel better - thanks!!!

TheKitsune6

Almost every guy on here has said that they love it when a woman asks them out. You are in the clear. Also your coworker can slap nuts.

Roadie2000

Yeah you're definitely not trying too hard, you're making an effort which is a good thing.

dbrightwell1270

I think you should ignore every thread on here where the majority of guys say that it is silly for a woman to wait for a guy to ask her out. After seeing it in practice, the theory just doesn't hold water. It is clear you are very desperate and/or easy. I suggest you wear something that makes it easy for you to get your heals up by your ears. Based on your behavior of asking this guy out, I don't see how you can possibly make it out of the parking lot before you are in that position.

























I really hope the sarcasm is obvious in this post.

catherine4211

Oh lord - you almost got me D.............

pa_jorg

How old is the co-worker that said that and how long has he been married? He's obviously clueless when it comes to dating.

catherine4211

How old is the co-worker that said that and how long has he been married? He's obviously clueless when it comes to dating.

He is 34 and has been married 12 or so years.

pa_jorg

How old is the co-worker that said that and how long has he been married? He's obviously clueless when it comes to dating.

He is 34 and has been married 12 or so years.

The married 12 years part sounds about right for someone to make a comment like that... just wait til he gets divorced :laugh:

Moe4572

I agree with the others on both counts.....asking a guy for a drink is not trying too hard, and since he is going, he was not put off by it, and keep it casual while stil looking HOT :drinker:

La_Amazona

Ignore dumb married guy.

As for what to wear, casual but sexy. Is it horrible that I have a 1st date outfit!? I wore it to every 1st date since moving here and it worked like a charm. Sleazy huh?? I called it my lucky 1st date gear...

PedmomJill

I was going to ask how old the coworker was too, cuz wow----it's 2012. Not 1912! I'm glad you asked the other guy, and hopefully you will be, too.

catherine4211

Ignore dumb married guy.

As for what to wear, casual but sexy. Is it horrible that I have a 1st date outfit!? I wore it to every 1st date since moving here and it worked like a charm. Sleazy huh?? I called it my lucky 1st date gear...

What is the outfit??? How sexy? I know you wear dresses so is it a dress?

catherine4211

I was going to ask how old the coworker was too, cuz wow----it's 2012. Not 1912! I'm glad you asked the other guy, and hopefully you will be, too.

IDK - I really miss bird #1. But thanks....

La_Amazona

Its a white short ruffled skirt, black flat sandals and a tight black 3/4 sleeve top. Simple and casual but sexy. I got compliments every time!

By the way, I'm sorry about do-do bird #1. I know you're hurting but you deserve someone who IS in love with you... Still, it sucks.

catherine4211

Its a white short ruffled skirt, black flat sandals and a tight black 3/4 sleeve top. Simple and casual but sexy. I got compliments every time!

By the way, I'm sorry about do-do bird #1. I know you're hurting but you deserve someone who IS in love with you... Still, it sucks.

I suppose I could run to the mall tonight and look around. I haven't worn a skirt in YEARS. And thanks for saying sorry about do-do bird. We've had constant daily contact since the middle of February. It's hard not to miss him. Actually impossible.

christine24t

WTF-ever. Trying too hard because you invited him for a drink? Ignore this.

Thanks!!

Yeah you are definitely not trying too hard. I think it is great! It's not like you invited him out for a romantic dinner with flowers and candles... have fun! let us know how it goes!!