When a Man Has No Male Friends
JanieJack
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To balance out the other thread...
What do you think about a man who has no guy friends but doesn't appear to be gay?
What do you think about a man who has no guy friends but doesn't appear to be gay?
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Honestly hes probably not I guy I would want to hang out with. Only because we wouldn't have anything in commen. I happen to like alot of things guys like so if he didnt do typical guy things we wouldn't have anything to talk about or do together0
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I have never known a man not to have male friends unless he was in a long term releationship and he and his gf/wife were their main focus so they lost their other friends.0
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Did he just relocate to the area?
Friendships between men usually have pretty easy dynamics and are not hard to make or maintain. Many friendships between men are activity based. If two guys like car repair, they will bond over that. If two guys like playing basketball, or tennis or watching sports, that is a basis for a deeper relationship.
So it is a bit unusual for a man not to have male friendship considering the easy dynamics and the comparative more difficult dynamics of male-female platonic friendship. The vast majority of my friends are male.0 -
I have never known a man not to have male friends unless he was in a long term releationship and he and his gf/wife were their main focus so they lost their other friends.
Yes! Often times, if a guy is in a long term relationship, male friendships fall by the wayside. When the relationship ends for one of them, the friendships can easily be re-kindled if they did not deteriorate in a malevolent fashion.0 -
YEah I have to agree with the above I cant think of a single guy I know that doesnt atleast have 1 male friend.... Now they may play least in sight when they start dating someone but its very unusual for a guy not to have another guy to hang out with0
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I've known a couple guys at work (military) who had very few, if any, female friends but weren't gay. The two that come to mind were the kind of guys that really connected well with women, but had committment issues (one wouldn't get into a relationship, and the other would get into relationship after relationship but he was a cheater at heart).
One thing I noticed about both of these guys is that other men tolerated them but didn't really respect them the way they respected each other. But I don't understand why that is, as both of these guys had girls falling at their feet!0 -
My ex husband had no male friends. This is because he was a pathological liar and burned all his bridges. It was a sign and I should have ran. His "female friends" were girls that he would hit up when he felt like cheating on me. It was pretty awesome.0
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Marge: Homer, I don't think Bart should be hanging out with him.
Homer: Why not?
Marge: Let's just say, I think he prefers the company of men.
Homer: Who doesn't Marge? Who doesn't?
Homer Simpson is a wise man. I don't see how this is possible?0 -
This is a really good question. The guy I recently dated seems to have only female friends. It struck me as a bit odd, Perhaps he has some male friends I don't know about. I just assumed it was a matter of availability - he is single, but perhaps his male friends are all married and are busy with children, while the female friends I know he sees are single or childless, so more available to hang out.To balance out the other thread...
What do you think about a man who has no guy friends but doesn't appear to be gay?0 -
They just haven't come out of the closet yet... I absolutly don't see how a guy can not have any male friends, I work with all woman and I want to shoot myself in the foot listening to them day in and day out....0
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Did he just relocate to the area?
Friendships between men usually have pretty easy dynamics and are not hard to make or maintain. Many friendships between men are activity based. If two guys like car repair, they will bond over that. If two guys like playing basketball, or tennis or watching sports, that is a basis for a deeper relationship.
So it is a bit unusual for a man not to have male friendship considering the easy dynamics and the comparative more difficult dynamics of male-female platonic friendship. The vast majority of my friends are male.
This is a good point. Yes it would be a red flag to me. It might show he isn't very social.
But that being said, I get that sometimes people fall out of touch and there a quiet periods in friendships. I get that completely it has happened to me. But I don't want a homebody either.0 -
I don't think theres anything really wrong with that. Maybe he's just not met any good guy mates yet? Guys tend to like girl's company (even if they don't fancy them) because guys can't talk about certain subjects as easily with other lads. I use to have only guy friends because girls tend to be a bit too sensitive and I like hanging out with the lads. Doesn't mean I'm sleeping around with all of them!0
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I honestly don't care, in fact, I don't care if a man has no friends at all, as I'm pretty antisocial myself these days and haven't seen most of my friends in years.
As long as it doesn't turn out that he has no friends because their remains are fertilizing his garden, I'm good with it.
A man who has lots of woman friends and no male friends might have a lot of exes who he maintains good relationships with (I approve of this, actually), or he might work with more women than men and have started meeting them there, or he might just not like the stereotypical man things.
Now if he spends more time every morning on his appearance than I do (five minutes, tops!) we might have issues. I'm not a glamour queen and I don't want to date a man who comes over to tell me how well his manicure went that afternoon. Or anyway, he better be damn good at other things if he wants to bore me with vanity.0 -
The bottom line is that we guys will and should have some male friends simply because we are not in the endless competition with each other that many ladies are.
You will never hear a guy say that they only have female friends or prefer that because they can`t get along with other guys but the exact opposite is pretty much the standard among ladies.
If a guy has no male friends then for whatever reasons he has isolated himself,it is not the norm.0 -
My ex husband had no male friends. This is because he was a pathological liar and burned all his bridges. It was a sign and I should have ran. His "female friends" were girls that he would hit up when he felt like cheating on me. It was pretty awesome.
Wow.
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They just haven't come out of the closet yet... I absolutly don't see how a guy can not have any male friends, I work with all woman and I want to shoot myself in the foot listening to them day in and day out....
Pretty much this.
One female friend is great. Perhaps two is also acceptable, especially if they are never together (token girl around 2-3 guys - think Seinfeld).
Anything else, very strange.
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My boyfriend doesn't have male friends and I find it odd, especially considering that through the years some of my very best friends have been guys.
I think a guy with too many male friends can be a bad thing too, though.0 -
I really think it's healthy to have a mix of male/female friends. Honestly though, my female friends are 100x more reliable, interesting, and genuine than most of my best male friends I've had over the years. Hell, last night I hung out with my friend Heidi.. we talked fantasy football, guns, and had a few beers and watched sports all night.0
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RUN LIKE ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!0
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They just haven't come out of the closet yet... I absolutly don't see how a guy can not have any male friends, I work with all woman and I want to shoot myself in the foot listening to them day in and day out....
That made me laugh out loud!!!0 -
Confessional: i don't really have too many male friends. I haven't been too close with my childhood friends since i left for college, haven't been too close with my college friends since i moved back home. I don't talk to coworkers too much outside of work and my female friends are mostly women i don't take seriously enough to date. I'm not gay nor is there anything wrong with me, I'm just more to myself. *shrug*0
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what if he doesn't have male or female friends ?0
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what if he doesn't have male or female friends ?
RUN LIKE ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!0
