The nicest thing

jenbit

I think it is important for both sides, but especially men, to make clear through actions and words, what they want. I'm always advocating for clear communication, asking for what you want and for taking the actions to get what you want.

In the early stages, I always ask out someone I find attractive if I sense a willingness to engage. If I hold hands with a woman, and she likes my touches and touches me, I'm going to go in for the kiss without hesitation. I don't get trapped in friend zones.

And that sir is a win for you !!!!!:flowerforyou: :drinker:

Carl- I understand women are shy and so are men. I try to always let a guy no I'm interested lots of eye contact, brushing up into him, casual touching ect.. But if the motions arent returned then into the friend zone he goes lol.. But alot of the "nice guys " act like they want to be friends. These are also the guys that make other men suspicious of male/ female friendships BTW...

La_Amazona

That WAS a sweet gesture. I like sweet guys.

AnnaPixie

This may not seem like a big deal for some people but for me its a huge thing. Guys never do things like this for me . Most men just see me as so independent that they never bother to ask if I need help. He just came over like it was no big deal. It literally boggled my mind lol....

Random acts of kindness are special! And memorable.... :bigsmile:

I dont agree that the guy has to be the archetypical 'nice guy' to do something like this though. It's just a guy being nice. Women can be nice too!! This kind of stuff should happen more in life :flowerforyou:

christine24t

There is a HUGE difference between nice and wimpy nice.

Exactly. The nice guy we often discuss here is the wimpy nice guy.

My old roommate's boyfriend came over a few times and mowed our lawn. So sweet. And this other guy friend of ours would help us if our cars broke down or needed gas. Wins major points if you know how to use your hands.

Mellie289

I prefer to say that he is a nice man instead of a Nice Guy when referring to someone who isn't trying the sneaky approach (note the use of capital letters for the NG).

I'm like Princess Leia... I happen to like nice men.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aLWwmEUk0yg

jenbit

I prefer to say that he is a nice man instead of a Nice Guy when referring to someone who isn't trying the sneaky approach (note the use of capital letters for the NG).

I'm like Princess Leia... I happen to like nice men.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aLWwmEUk0yg

And yet she ended up with a scoudrel lol

TheKitsune6

The "nice guy" is the guy to be your friend while he secretly wants to bone you but never actually speaks up - or by the time he does it's too late for that mental shift.

It's really quite simple in theory - the complicated part is that each person is an individual so the things that they like/don't like/where the line between friend and potential mate is differs between each person. There is no concrete answer or response which is why every time someone answers the definition is just a little different.

The difference between a friend and a significant other is I don't want to have sex with my friends. Once I stop thinking of you as a sexual creature, most likely I'm not going to start again later.

TheKitsune6

PS: I would totally rather have a guy mow my lawn than buy me flowers. That's real affection in my book! Kudos!