Opening new doors
Tropical_Turtle
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Well, here it goes. I am opening new doors, and moving forward. I have gone on a couple of dating sites, and have met some very interesting and some not so interesting men.
1. There is the widowed dad, nice guy, but has already stated he gets jealous (that will absolutely not work with me), so red flag #1. I flat out told him that will not work, and now he wants to take me out when he gets back. Ground rules have been laid
2. Army guy -deployed, nice guy, just really started talking. But who knows, leaving that door open.
3. Boss man - just started talking to today, so do not really know yet. Too soon to tell.
4. The camper - the one I split from, I told him flat out what I need, and want and he was not giving me that, and now he is bending over backwards to try to give me the attention I wanted to at least feel like I belonged in my life.
This whole multiple man thing is very new to me, so this shall be different. Sometimes almost makes me nauseous, because this is not the "typical" dater that I am.
I am trying to keep doors open and my options open too. I do not want to just jump into something if it does not feel right. But I have to say thanks to you all in this group, I am feeling a little more comfortable about putting myself out there.
Here is to leaving options open!!:drinker:
1. There is the widowed dad, nice guy, but has already stated he gets jealous (that will absolutely not work with me), so red flag #1. I flat out told him that will not work, and now he wants to take me out when he gets back. Ground rules have been laid
2. Army guy -deployed, nice guy, just really started talking. But who knows, leaving that door open.
3. Boss man - just started talking to today, so do not really know yet. Too soon to tell.
4. The camper - the one I split from, I told him flat out what I need, and want and he was not giving me that, and now he is bending over backwards to try to give me the attention I wanted to at least feel like I belonged in my life.
This whole multiple man thing is very new to me, so this shall be different. Sometimes almost makes me nauseous, because this is not the "typical" dater that I am.
I am trying to keep doors open and my options open too. I do not want to just jump into something if it does not feel right. But I have to say thanks to you all in this group, I am feeling a little more comfortable about putting myself out there.
Here is to leaving options open!!:drinker:
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Way to go! Having options is a good thing!! Enjoy the guys and try to remember that you're the picker.
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yay you!!0
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sounds good to me :flowerforyou:0
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I agree. The one perk with online dating is that it's easy to meet a lot of people in a short amount of time. Best of luck and keep us posted!0
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Good for you and good luck!!! I have found that by talking/dating multiple people at once I can much more easily determine the personality that I mesh with better from my options. Sounds terrible like that, but its just easier to narrow down the field.....I'm not really helping myself here. Will quit typing now.....0
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:huh: I'm assuming this is not YOUR boss, right?
3. Boss man - just started talking to today, so do not really know yet. Too soon to tell.
It's nice to have options. Good luck! I hope one of them is a keeper.
I would also say don't be afraid to close some doors periodically. I just disabled my OKC and POF accounts last night after replying to a few messages. I want to pursue one person and not miss out on someone if that doesn't go anywhere. I don't like the idea of juggling too many balls at once. I can only communicate with a few at a time, meet a couple and repeatedly date one myself, so I'd rather put everything on hold. Are you keeping your accounts active while you whittle down your list? That's what works for my, but YMMV.0 -
:huh: I'm assuming this is not YOUR boss, right?
3. Boss man - just started talking to today, so do not really know yet. Too soon to tell.
It's nice to have options. Good luck! I hope one of them is a keeper.
I would also say don't be afraid to close some doors periodically. I just disabled my OKC and POF accounts last night after replying to a few messages. I want to pursue one person and not miss out on someone if that doesn't go anywhere. I don't like the idea of juggling too many balls at once. I can only communicate with a few at a time, meet a couple and repeatedly date one myself, so I'd rather put everything on hold. Are you keeping your accounts active while you whittle down your list? That's what works for my, but YMMV.
No not my boss man lol that thought makes my skin crawl if it were my boss. No he runs a company hence the boss man. I am keeping my accounts open, especially since I am not exclusive with any of them. I wouldn't assume they were closing their accounts for me. I am trying to think like a man lol0 -
Good to hear about Boss man. LOL!No not my boss man lol that thought makes my skin crawl if it were my boss. No he runs a company hence the boss man. I am keeping my accounts open, especially since I am not exclusive with any of them. I wouldn't assume they were closing their accounts for me. I am trying to think like a man lol
I don't disable my account for them. I do it for me so I don't have to message and talk with too many people at once. Last weekend, I got a phone call from a guy from OKC while I was driving to meet my date from POF and who I thought it was was wrong. Oops! :laugh:0 -
Keeping your options open is always a good thing :flowerforyou:0
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Booya! and that is how its done!! :flowerforyou:0
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