Married Woman Who Leads Men On, Then Gets Upset When They

JanieJack

What do you think about a married woman who always becomes emotional support for the divorcing men at work? She’s notorious for flirting/talking sexy with them, then after a long time of taking her out, hugging, and daily gift visits, she gets upset when they make a move on her. Then she moves on to a new guy.

The guys are typically unhappily married or in the process of divorcing. This woman is extremely gorgeous and sexy, so it’s easy to understand how the guys get sucked in ;-) It’s not my business so I’m staying out of it, but I’m still curious why someone behaves like this? I do wish she would quit with the “I don’t understand WHY they would think I’d cheat on my husband with them” after all the attention/gifts/meals out she accepts from them leading up to them actually making a move.

I could see if it doesn’t bother her husband, but every once in a while he accuses her of cheating. What do you think?

(edited to add more detail)

JanieJack

Title was truncated... it should have read Married Woman Who Leads Men On, Then Gets Upset When They Make a Move

scapez

My guess is that she's not terribly emotionally connected to her husband and needs the attention that she gets from being "supportive" to the unhappily married guys.

A friend of mine (married) was flirting with a single guy when we were all in South Beach a number of years ago - she was very attracted to this guy (we had become friends with a group of them that ran the shacks on the beach) and we were all out having drinks, etc. and her moves got stronger as the night went on. Later, when he went to kiss her, she freaked out. We were all like what the...? What else was the guy supposed to think? The funny thing was that she was so upset about it...well, then ya shouldn't have been virtually rolling out the red carpet all night!

Mellie289

I would say drama queen and narcissist who loves lots of attention from men and who has learned to spot and manipulate vulnerable men into giving her the attention (and gifts!) she seeks. It sounds to me like her intentions aren't cheating, but her behavior is still pretty awful and she's too self-absorbed to take her husband's feelings in account on this, let alone the feelings of these other guys. Sound like her, maybe?

MikeM53082

I would say drama queen and narcissist who loves lots of attention from men and who has learned to spot and manipulate vulnerable men into giving her the attention (and gifts!) she seeks. It sounds to me like her intentions aren't cheating, but her behavior is still pretty awful and she's too self-absorbed to take her husband's feelings in account on this, let alone the feelings of these other guys. Sound like her, maybe?

Drama Queen, narcissistic, and self absorbed come to my mind as well. This is arguable the worst thing you can do to a guy, use him for emotional support, then not give him any physical action. Horrible.

DMZ_1

Drama Queen, narcissistic, and self absorbed come to my mind as well. This is arguable the worst thing you can do to a guy, use him for emotional support, then not give him any physical action. Horrible.

Not quite the worst thing that a woman can do to a man, but it is pretty bad. I'm glad that this situation has not applied to me.

Carl01

I will assume there is a certain level of sympathy and decency in her,perhaps she feels she is helping but maybe sub consciously she is still enthralled with a chase and gets some kind of rush from it.

When the natural result occurs she claims victim hood to alleviate her then guilt and disapproval of others.

It is a human issue and easily could have the gender roles reversed.

pa_jorg

On a conscious level she probably thinks she's being friendly and supportive. On an unconscious level she most likely wants attention and drama in her life. Finally, my guess is that anyone who does this has been in a relationship for a very long time and really doesn't know the signals when it comes to dating and sex because they don't feel it applies to them (in other words, they feel untouchable by their status alone) so when someone makes a move they freak.

AnnaPixie

Awful woman. I think she knows exactly what she's doing and gets off on it!! :huh:

MikeM53082

Awful woman. I think she knows exactly what she's doing and gets off on it!! :huh:

THIS. You're analysis is spot on.

TheKitsune6

I think that's a person that I wouldn't associate with and that what she wants to do is none of my business.

As long as I don't get dragged in people like that aren't a blip on my radar.

porcelain_doll

She doesn't understand boundaries nor perceives the ripple effect of her behaviors. She actually sounds quite naive to me. It is "safe" for her to treat men that way because nothing could ever come of it (not yet anyway.......). I imagine she likes attention and knows that men in that category will respond to her a certain way. When she's hungry, she knows how to get fed. Someday when her conscience catches up with her actions, she will likely hate herself.

lacroyx

Awful woman. I think she knows exactly what she's doing and gets off on it!! :huh:

THIS. You're analysis is spot on.

ding ding ding! she nailed it.

christine24t

Awful woman. I think she knows exactly what she's doing and gets off on it!! :huh:

Agreed.

oddyogi

Awful woman. I think she knows exactly what she's doing and gets off on it!! :huh:

Yup. This woman is probably super insecure and is a Class A Attention Wh0re.