Co Parenting?
JayTee146
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Has anyone ever had any success with not being with the father or mother of your child and you guys were able to come together and parent and do things with your child? is this just a silly dream I have going on for myself?
I told fob after I realized that he was trying to be a "family" that I didn't feel comfortable with that... however I would like for us to come together every now and again and do things with our lo, like for birthday's and maybe taking her to the park... Fob is the type of person that if we can't be together he wants to come take his child for hours and not tell me where... he'll drop her off late and call names... I recently just found out fob's other son that stayed less that 3 miles from my lo's birthday party but wouldn't invite his son because he didn't want me and his oldest son's mother in the same room together. I discovered that the mother of his oldest has been around my child but after almost 4 years of dating I was never allowed to ask about his son or the mother of his child.. when we dated I was so afraid of him going away that I never pushed the subject... he'd tell me she was i another state, she had been living here in the same state the entire time and he had be going over putting his son on the school bus in the morning... he even invited the best friend of his eldest son's mother to my daughters 1st birthday party.. this bothered me so much so after i discovered what was going on that I ended up telling him how much of a jerk he was and that I wished my daughter never met anyone like him ever in her life..
Why do I want to co parent, because lo is so young and I don't want her going anywhere with him, He has a cell phone I'm not "allowed" to have the number to, to even call and check on lo.. so I won't let her go anywhere until I'm sure he has a number I can reach him on.. and not just his aunt's house cause he's never there when I call.. honestly... I don't want to worry with this holiday here and there.. I know out of dislike for me he's push this...
Right now, I just need time to process all the lies told and I don't need him around making things difficult.
I told fob after I realized that he was trying to be a "family" that I didn't feel comfortable with that... however I would like for us to come together every now and again and do things with our lo, like for birthday's and maybe taking her to the park... Fob is the type of person that if we can't be together he wants to come take his child for hours and not tell me where... he'll drop her off late and call names... I recently just found out fob's other son that stayed less that 3 miles from my lo's birthday party but wouldn't invite his son because he didn't want me and his oldest son's mother in the same room together. I discovered that the mother of his oldest has been around my child but after almost 4 years of dating I was never allowed to ask about his son or the mother of his child.. when we dated I was so afraid of him going away that I never pushed the subject... he'd tell me she was i another state, she had been living here in the same state the entire time and he had be going over putting his son on the school bus in the morning... he even invited the best friend of his eldest son's mother to my daughters 1st birthday party.. this bothered me so much so after i discovered what was going on that I ended up telling him how much of a jerk he was and that I wished my daughter never met anyone like him ever in her life..
Why do I want to co parent, because lo is so young and I don't want her going anywhere with him, He has a cell phone I'm not "allowed" to have the number to, to even call and check on lo.. so I won't let her go anywhere until I'm sure he has a number I can reach him on.. and not just his aunt's house cause he's never there when I call.. honestly... I don't want to worry with this holiday here and there.. I know out of dislike for me he's push this...
Right now, I just need time to process all the lies told and I don't need him around making things difficult.
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My parents did it. When my ex was alive, we did it.0
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He has a cell phone I'm not "allowed" to have the number to, to even call and check on lo.. so I won't let her go anywhere until I'm sure he has a number I can reach him on..
Not sure about everyone else. But for me this is not optional. If I don't have a way to reach the person who has my child (don't care who it is) he isn't going... end of story. So my 2 cents... I don't blame you. I am a tad overprotective when it comes to my kiddo but I figure its my job because he can't be replaced.0 -
He has a cell phone I'm not "allowed" to have the number to, to even call and check on lo.. so I won't let her go anywhere until I'm sure he has a number I can reach him on..
Not sure about everyone else. But for me this is not optional. If I don't have a way to reach the person who has my child (don't care who it is) he isn't going... end of story. So my 2 cents... I don't blame you. I am a tad overprotective when it comes to my kiddo but I figure its my job because he can't be replaced.
I agree....this behaviour is strange. You are doing right not letting your daughter out of your sight if this is how he acts.0 -
Yup it's possible, I am living proof!0
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Totally possible!! But first you have to completely grieve the loss of the relationship you once had with the other parent. My daughters dad is like one of my best friends. We support eachother as parents 100%. Its great for the kids and great for myself as well. I can sleep at night when my kids are with him because I trust that if there is a problem during their visit that he will call me and let me know. Vice Versa. Co-parenting is only possible if both parents are co-operative and ready.0
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