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pa_jorg
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I know we've touched on this before in various threads, but why do you think in dating you either have zero prospects or a ton at the same time?
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Because life is never meant to be simple0
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I don't know. Then if it doesn't work out with the one you chose .. you wonder if you chose wrong. Or you date them all and you like them all .. gah.
I say .. date them allllllll!0 -
No idea why. Every situation is individual.0
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Yup... Sunddenly I have 3 different dates where last week I was just seeing 1. Funny. Good thing that I'm a good multi-tasker.
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I think it makes you appear more diserable to others when you are dating someone. DM has said a lot of times that people want what others have. I also think people have more confidence and others are attracted to confidence.
BTW I say this works while looking for a job also. It is easier to get a new job when you have a job then to be unemployed and looking.0 -
I think it makes you appear more diserable to others when you are dating someone. DM has said a lot of times that people want what others have. I also think people have more confidence and others are attracted to confidence.
Oooh! Brilliant! Plus .. you aren't desperately searching for a date ... you are all like walking around town like you own that place. They notice the confidence.0 -
Living things on really tend to "notice" things when they are in extremes. We don't remember stuff that's considered average because it floats under the radar. It's the same reason you remember everything that you ate at that buffet last week but it takes you a minute to remember what you had for breakfast.0
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I think it makes you appear more diserable to others when you are dating someone. DM has said a lot of times that people want what others have. I also think people have more confidence and others are attracted to confidence.
BTW I say this works while looking for a job also. It is easier to get a new job when you have a job then to be unemployed and looking.
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I think there are times during the year when people, en masse, are more inclined to be looking for someone. Certainly right after the holidays, with New Year's resolutions. Maybe now that summer is ending/has ended and cold temperatures are coming, so someone to snuggle up with sounds attractive for the colder days ahead. Other times of the year, people have a lot of things going on that distract them from the dating scene.0
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1 People dont like being alone for the holidays.
2 Usually when your dating someone you are out and about more so you actually meet more people.
3 people want what others have0 -
I think there are times during the year when people, en masse, are more inclined to be looking for someone. Certainly right after the holidays, with New Year's resolutions. Maybe now that summer is ending/has ended and cold temperatures are coming, so someone to snuggle up with sounds attractive for the colder days ahead. Other times of the year, people have a lot of things going on that distract them from the dating scene.1 People dont like being alone for the holidays.
2 Usually when your dating someone you are out and about more so you actually meet more people.
3 people want what others have
This is the 3rd time in my life that the holidays have come up in day to day discussion over the past 3 days. It is still September and over 90 degrees where I live. That is summer like to me. I don't really want to think about the holidays. But yes, it is a lousy feeling to be alone during the December holidays.
New Year's Resolutions can motivate someone to date more for sure, but soon after January 1 is Valentine's Day. Being single on Valentine's Day is just as bad, if not worse, than being single during the December holidays.
The worst days to be single are.....
1. Valentine's Day
2. New Year's Eve (the Midnight kiss)
3. Your birthday
4. Christmas Day. This day can rank in other places depending on your individual life stage, your level of religiousness and other family factors.0 -
I know we've touched on this before in various threads, but why do you think in dating you either have zero prospects or a ton at the same time?
I dunno, but I like it!! :bigsmile:0 -
The worst days to be single are.....
1. Valentine's Day
Au contraire, my friend; Valentine's Day is the BEST day there is to be single. Either that or have something at work "come up" that you just can't back out of. You save yourself from the very non-romantic obligatory gifts and gestures and girls are easier to pick up than those Barbie dumbbells everyone talks about in the fitness forums.0 -
To me, it's not even about being single during a particular holiday. It's just random moments. Like the other day I saw a couple drinking a coffee and taking a walk. That is when I wish I had a BF, so I had someone to do stuff with.0
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I think there are times during the year when people, en masse, are more inclined to be looking for someone. Certainly right after the holidays, with New Year's resolutions. Maybe now that summer is ending/has ended and cold temperatures are coming, so someone to snuggle up with sounds attractive for the colder days ahead. Other times of the year, people have a lot of things going on that distract them from the dating scene.1 People dont like being alone for the holidays.
2 Usually when your dating someone you are out and about more so you actually meet more people.
3 people want what others have
This is the 3rd time in my life that the holidays have come up in day to day discussion over the past 3 days. It is still September and over 90 degrees where I live. That is summer like to me. I don't really want to think about the holidays. But yes, it is a lousy feeling to be alone during the December holidays.
New Year's Resolutions can motivate someone to date more for sure, but soon after January 1 is Valentine's Day. Being single on Valentine's Day is just as bad, if not worse, than being single during the December holidays.
The worst days to be single are.....
1. Valentine's Day
2. New Year's Eve (the Midnight kiss)
3. Your birthday
4. Christmas Day. This day can rank in other places depending on your individual life stage, your level of religiousness and other family factors.
Don't you have family and friends David? Surely you should concentrate on what you HAVE got rather than what you haven't? You'd be surprised at how may Valentines I spent alone even though I was WITH someone!!
Mind over matter! :flowerforyou:0 -
I think there are times during the year when people, en masse, are more inclined to be looking for someone. Certainly right after the holidays, with New Year's resolutions. Maybe now that summer is ending/has ended and cold temperatures are coming, so someone to snuggle up with sounds attractive for the colder days ahead. Other times of the year, people have a lot of things going on that distract them from the dating scene.1 People dont like being alone for the holidays.
2 Usually when your dating someone you are out and about more so you actually meet more people.
3 people want what others have
This is the 3rd time in my life that the holidays have come up in day to day discussion over the past 3 days. It is still September and over 90 degrees where I live. That is summer like to me. I don't really want to think about the holidays. But yes, it is a lousy feeling to be alone during the December holidays.
New Year's Resolutions can motivate someone to date more for sure, but soon after January 1 is Valentine's Day. Being single on Valentine's Day is just as bad, if not worse, than being single during the December holidays.
The worst days to be single are.....
1. Valentine's Day
2. New Year's Eve (the Midnight kiss)
3. Your birthday
4. Christmas Day. This day can rank in other places depending on your individual life stage, your level of religiousness and other family factors.
Don't you have family and friends David? Surely you should concentrate on what you HAVE got rather than what you haven't? You'd be surprised at how may Valentines I spent alone even though I was WITH someone!!
Mind over matter! :flowerforyou:
Yes, I have family and friends. :bigsmile:0
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