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learning to be in a relationship

Vodkha
Vodkha Posts: 352 Member
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I'm going to lay it out there and say right now that I know this is pretty pathetic, but I am 30 years old and have never had a boyfriend. Sure, I've dated and hung out and whatever, but nothing ever really went to the point of boyfriend by definition.

Anyways, I am now in a relationship. I am not sure it will last a long amount of time, but I am going to look at it as a time for me to learn just HOW to be in a relationship. I am used to being alone, doing my own thing, not having to communicate and open up to another person and, to be honest, this is HARD for me to do! I find it hard for some reason to be affectionate to guys aside from when we are having sex, so that is also something I have to work on.

I am probably pretty abnormal when it comes to things, usually it is the guy complaining about having to communicate (lol), but I need some advice on how to get better.

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  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    When he pisses you off, tell him exactly why, rather than saying "nothing, I'm fine"

    When you want to do something, tell him. Don't just say "its up to you, I dont mind"

    When he's had a hard day at work, shut up and let him chill out :laugh: There are times to communicate, and there are times not to!!

    I've just had a text from my ex saying 'we should talk more'. And my jaw nearly hit the floor!!! It's been him that closes up and runs away every time there is something bothering him :grumble: I would LOVE for him to express himself more :love:

    So yeah, get your feelings out.....express yourself :flowerforyou:
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    The best thing you can do it to soak up every moment of it as a learning experience and have fun along the way! No matter if you stay together a long time or not, you will definitely grow and mature as a person by becoming involved with someone.
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    It sounds like you have a great attitude, a logical approach, and a desire to learn and grow. That is more than most, I'm sure you will do great. Good luck!
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    Stay calm. Even when you are frustrated. If you need a moment, say it.

    I myself don't feel a need for a relationship where every little thing is shared, but if there is something that he needs to know just be open and say it. If you don't want to share every little thought that pops into your head, you shouldn't have to.

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