Being patient with the non-boyfriend boyfriend worked!!!
It has taken over 7 months but tonight the non-boyfriend boyfriend is meeting the kids. I was gone for the weekend and was missed SO much (according to him). He said he thought about us all weekend and is ready for everything. For those of you who don't know there is a BIG age difference plus I have 2 kids and he has none. Those 2 things have kept him from fully falling for me. He got over the age things a couple months ago but wasn't quite ready to meet the kids. The only thing I ever said to him was "when you are ready let me know".......I didn't push the issue because honestly I don't know how I'd feel about meeting someone elses kids and I have kids. He has never even dated someone with kids.