Really overwhelmed..... Anyone else

blink1021

Seems that lately I have been really stressed trying to get everything in order at work before I go on leave and I just feel like there are not enough hours in the day and that I am getting nothing done.

Well today my husband decides that he is taking off to go golfing with his brother and that I am going to be the one to drop him off at his brothers and pick him up so he can drink. WHAT!!!!! I am going to work all day and then pick up someone who will smell like a brewery? Well I picked him up wasn't happy about it but I did it. On our way home he decides to start picking on my driving and I was getting upset so I asked him to stop talking all together we were close to home and I was sick of it. Of course he wouldn't shut up so I told him I would pull over and he could walk home and he laughed at me. So I pulled over at the little market near our home and I got out and walked home. I am so sick of listening to him and it is driving me crazy. Of course I embarrassed him and he is not speaking to me except to tell me that I would deserve to go into labor for being stupid. I can't stand it why is it that everything changes for us and that they get to do everything he did before? Believe me I would love to be able to walk without my back killing me.

lilchino4af

Not sure how I would've reacted initially (probably would've picked him up too initially although I would've made a fuss about it too) but I'm with you for dumping him at the store and walking home. Too bad you couldn't have gotten his *kitten* out of the car and made him walk, serves him right. Once he sobers up, hopefully he'll realize what an idiot he was and apologizes. Sorry you had to go through that :frown:

iluvhorses1983

I feel the same way! It really isn't fair that our entire lives changes the moment we get a positive test. They get to continue on their merry way like nothing is different. My husband drinks also and it scares me that he won't change after the baby is born so I will have to deal with a newborn by myself and an intoxicated husband! ugh

ajsdream

Yep, you aren't alone. My hubby also insists I drop him off and pick him up at the bar when he goes down on Sunday's to watch football. It's annoying, but I've never stopped the car and made him walk. I'll have to remember that for next time!!

Wickedmeowmer

Yeesh, my husband still has a few but it doesn't bother me. I do find super drunk people annoy me more when I am forced sober, but I just try to laugh at them and remember silly things to embarrass them later! I am finding a lot of my social circle was/is based on happy hour etc, so it feels weird to be 'left out', but I am trying my best to think of fun sober activities.

You were right to be annoyed though, I've told my husband to 'just stop talking right now' many many times....and that is putting it nicely.

jamie31

You are not alone. My boyfriends seems to feel like he has to do as much partying as he can now before the baby comes. Thats all fine and dandy but what about me? this pregnancy wasnt planned so i wasnt able to catch up on everything before getting pregnant. I feel like i have sacrificed so much and gave up so many things i loved (sports being the main thing) to carry our baby and he gets an extra 9 months to squeeze it all in. Maybe guys just dont understand i really dont know but i really wish they would realize that they need to make some sacrifices too

blink1021

It just drives me nuts its not like he was drunk yesterday I just won't let him drive me anywhere even when he has had one. Its just the fact that he was deliberately pushing my buttons even after I asked him nicely twice to just be quiet. I couldn't take it anymore my fuse is so short lately and I really just need to remove myself before I say something I will regret that is why I got out of the car. I just hope that when the baby gets here everything calms down. When our son was born he was great he even did some of the midnight feedings for me so hopefully things will get back to normal, but we also didn't live in the same town as his brother at that time. His brother is the problem he has 4 kids (1 doesn't live with him) and he does whatever he wants when he wants to because he works 2 jobs and his wife stays home.

chickybuns

I understand your frustration, I probably would have told him to find his own ride personally. My husband really irritated me at first, but he seems to be coming around as it gets closer. He has never been a partier, but he is a car guy, so he is trying to get as much of that in as possible before the baby comes...plus it will be too cold soon anyway. But I enjoy the car stuff as well and enjoy watching him race. And I don't blame you for getting out of the car, I made my hubby (b/f at the time) walk once because he was being an *kitten*. It's true, guys don't go through it differently, we have to make sacrifices the minute we find out we are pregnant, they don't have to make too many changes until the baby is born. I joke with my husband and tell him I did all the work for 9 months, it will be his turn...but i know this isn't true since I'm breastfeeding. Maybe in a couple years it will even out! Hang in there, and be stern with him, tell him you are uncomfortable with that and you need your rest...you are growing his child!!! Thank goodness for other women to help keep us sane

Jenny_Rose77

Ok, so my vent needs a little context. My husband is Jewish, and I converted to Judaism before we got married. We are planning to raise our son in the tradition, although we are not terribly religious. Jews believe that it is bad luck to have baby showers or set up anything in the nursery before the baby gets here (like you're tempting fate or something). Anyway, even though I wasn't raised with these superstitions, I've been following them. I declined a baby shower, and asked the person who offered if instead we could have a "welcome baby" party when he gets here. Also, my husband told me that we can buy essentials for the baby, but they are supposed to be stored outside our home.

Anyway, today I ordered the crib. My husband initially told me to have it sent to his office. Then, thinking about what a pain in the *kitten* it was going to be to get the crib from his office to our apartment (which, context: does involve driving and parking in some of the most heavily congested/nightmare to find parking areas of Manhattan), he says that I should change the order and have it shipped to our apartment. WTF?! We are either following tradition or we are not. I am so annoyed that for everything else we must be superstitious, but if it is a pain in his *kitten*, we should just "risk it." Argh. So now that I am all caught up in this superstition, I don't know what to do. I feel like if something were to happen I would never forgive myself.

Just argh at this whole situation.

Oh, and as always, thank you, ladies, for allowing me to vent

Mrshotwing

HUMMM... yeah that would be very frustrating for sure.

I am not sure how i would approach that situtation. i know i have had two little ones prior and always had their rooms ready and they are healthy beautiful happy kids.

Jenny_Rose77

HUMMM... yeah that would be very frustrating for sure.

I am not sure how i would approach that situtation. i know i have had two little ones prior and always had their rooms ready and they are healthy beautiful happy kids.

From what I've read online (trying, pretty much unsuccessfully, to give myself peace of mind) the prohibition is only for Jewish people. (Well, I'm not sure if other religions/cultures have similar superstitions.) So, by doing it, we would be going against our religion. And that would be the bad thing.

Typing this now, I feel so silly. But once I've embraced a superstition it's hard for me to let it go. :-)

Wickedmeowmer

You don't have any neighbors or close by storage units/closets you could use? I know space is a premium for y'all, but could be a happy medium. I am just using a pack n play the first few months anyway, so you are much more prepared than I am

Amanda421

overwhelmed here. i am 38 wks today and husband wants to take off to the beach to relax and do some fishing. really?!?!

jls8209

38.5 weeks and I'm surprisingly calm for now. However, my MIL has been having health issues, and while they worry me, too, they're a huge concern for DH. MIL has had several issues arise recently (morbidly obese, waiting for knee surgery, recently did something to her ankle, BP/heart issues that are being looked into), and this morning we got a call saying she'd been clipped by a car while crossing the street. She's alright, DH spoke with her and said she sounds more shaken up than anything and will probably be sore for a while. What makes it harder is that we live 18hrs from our families, so DH can't pop in and visit with her, and talking on the phone just isn't the same.