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oddyogi
oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
edited January 2 in Social Groups
Steve got orders yesterday. He'll be moving to North Carolina sometime in December.

:frown:

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  • Jennifer2387
    Jennifer2387 Posts: 957 Member
    Is that far from you? When are you getting out next year? Do you want to stay with him? Any progress in the love department where he is concerned? Do you want to marry him??
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    It's 13-14 hours from me. I won't be getting out until August/September. I want to stay with him but I have no idea if long distance will work. He said the l-word over the weekend. I don't want to marry him now. I dunno about later in life. It depends on if long distance works. Which I'm not feeling too good about.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    Well you knew this was coming but I'm sorry. I know you have a lot of decisions to make know to figure out what to do. Get a glass of wine (or beer) a bathtub and some good music and let your brain and your heart sort it out
  • Moe4572
    Moe4572 Posts: 1,428 Member
    Even though you knew a move was coming, it still sucks....sorry.....I hope it all works out the way you want:flowerforyou:
  • Jennifer2387
    Jennifer2387 Posts: 957 Member
    Awwwwww! Buffy!! He said I love you! That is awesome!!! I love Steve! he loves you! yayay! Which obviously makes things harder.

    Where are you from originally? Do you have family there that you are going to go back to when you get out?

    All you can do is try. Think of it as a deployment!
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    I've always wanted to move to Texas. And I don't know if after I get out of the military that I want to be a military wife. I have a lot of decisions to make. :frown:
  • Jennifer2387
    Jennifer2387 Posts: 957 Member
    :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown: :frown:

    Is he a lifer? man I am nosy.

    I have always said that I would never date someone in the military after I dated a guy in the army when I was in college. He was deployed and that was an awful feeling .. every day. My Marine has 20 years in now .. and I don't think plans on being in much longer. So .. there is that for me anyway.

    You can chat with me anytime if you want! :flowerforyou:
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Awwww man! This military thing is hard :cry:

    But he said I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!! :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :love:

    I knew he would, I knew he did, I knew it, knew it, knew it!!! :bigsmile:

    So hey, you just gotta suck it and see!!! Distance relationships can be fun! :smokin:
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    Awwww man! This military thing is hard :cry:

    But he said I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!! :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :love:

    I knew he would, I knew he did, I knew it, knew it, knew it!!! :bigsmile:

    So hey, you just gotta suck it and see!!! Distance relationships can be fun! :smokin:

    How can they be fun?! I told him that in order for us to work out long distance he needs to be able to express himself better with words. He struggles with it now, but at least he has doing things for me and touching to make up for it. He won't be able to do those things if it's in a different state. I'm worried about us drifting apart after a few months and then one of us meeting someone. And when I say one of us I mean me. I think he would be truly devoted to me 100%, and that is why I am sad. I don't want to lose a good thing, but I might screw it up.

    He has about 8-9 years in and so far the plan is to stay in for 20 but he said that can always change. We've had a lot of big talks in the past week about everything and he is putting forth a lot of effort to be more expressive with his words and actions. I started a 10-day prep phase of 30g carbs or less yesterday but I sabotaged it because he surprised me with the first dessert he made for us on our first date. So I guess I'm starting over day one today, but it was worth it.

    We had a big talk last night and even opened up about sexual things, like what we would like more of, etc. Our lines of communication are growing, but I don't know if it will be enough once it turns long distance.
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    Honestly, it sounds like you are already out on the relationship, but you feel guilty so you're looking for reasons to justify it. The only reason you need is that you don't want to do it. It's unfair to tack on all these extra things like "If you do this, this and this, it'll work" but you yourself keep saying "I don't know...." At this point you're just stringing him along :(
  • Jennifer2387
    Jennifer2387 Posts: 957 Member
    Long distance is all in what you make it. There are lots of fun things you can do over skype and text and video .. lol. You can mail fun packages and what not. It is all in how you approach it .. especially if you know it isn't long term. you can go to the same movie at the same time and text and send pics etc. It can work.

    But .. if you are a person that needs contact and for him to be with you in person then it won't work. You just need to decide which is more important .. having him long term in your life or letting go and finding someone else.
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    So, Steve has basically flipped a 180 since last weekend. We had lots of long talks, and I communicated to him very clearly that we couldn't do LDR unless he was able to open up to me.. and wow has he. I feel like I've fallen in love all over again. So now, I'm happy to say that I'm very excited to take the next step of our relationship. We'll be taking a trip in December to Little Rock to meet my family and to New England for a skiing trip and to meet his family.

    I'm just so happy right now! I can't believe some of the things he says now! :happy: :love:
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    Awesome!! So glad to hear it! :heart:
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    So happy for you!
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    Thanks, girls! :D:D:D
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    So, Steve has basically flipped a 180 since last weekend. We had lots of long talks, and I communicated to him very clearly that we couldn't do LDR unless he was able to open up to me.. and wow has he. I feel like I've fallen in love all over again. So now, I'm happy to say that I'm very excited to take the next step of our relationship. We'll be taking a trip in December to Little Rock to meet my family and to New England for a skiing trip and to meet his family.

    I'm just so happy right now! I can't believe some of the things he says now! :happy: :love:

    Yay! Happy for you! :)
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    Well that's great to hear! I hope things go great for the both of you.
  • shammxo
    shammxo Posts: 1,432 Member
    I'm sooo happy for the update! You deserve it.
  • Jennifer2387
    Jennifer2387 Posts: 957 Member
    So, Steve has basically flipped a 180 since last weekend. We had lots of long talks, and I communicated to him very clearly that we couldn't do LDR unless he was able to open up to me.. and wow has he. I feel like I've fallen in love all over again. So now, I'm happy to say that I'm very excited to take the next step of our relationship. We'll be taking a trip in December to Little Rock to meet my family and to New England for a skiing trip and to meet his family.

    I'm just so happy right now! I can't believe some of the things he says now! :happy: :love:

    YAYAYAYAAYAY!!!!! I am so happy for you!!! I think he was just gun shy from his divorce. I really am so happy for you!! If not a bit jealous!!
  • sunnymel126
    sunnymel126 Posts: 359 Member
    So, Steve has basically flipped a 180 since last weekend. We had lots of long talks, and I communicated to him very clearly that we couldn't do LDR unless he was able to open up to me.. and wow has he. I feel like I've fallen in love all over again. So now, I'm happy to say that I'm very excited to take the next step of our relationship. We'll be taking a trip in December to Little Rock to meet my family and to New England for a skiing trip and to meet his family.

    I'm just so happy right now! I can't believe some of the things he says now! :happy: :love:

    YAYAYAYAAYAY!!!!! I am so happy for you!!! I think he was just gun shy from his divorce. I really am so happy for you!! If not a bit jealous!!

    Yea I'll admit my jealousy haha. But I'm really happy for you!!!! That sounds great that you are open to a ldr with him. It sounded like you had your doubts before but you should just go with it and see what happens. It sounds like it's already going in a positive direction. :flowerforyou: :love:
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    So, Steve has basically flipped a 180 since last weekend. We had lots of long talks, and I communicated to him very clearly that we couldn't do LDR unless he was able to open up to me.. and wow has he. I feel like I've fallen in love all over again. So now, I'm happy to say that I'm very excited to take the next step of our relationship. We'll be taking a trip in December to Little Rock to meet my family and to New England for a skiing trip and to meet his family.

    I'm just so happy right now! I can't believe some of the things he says now! :happy: :love:

    YaY!! you two are just so right for each other!! :love: :flowerforyou: :bigsmile:
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